Lazy, careless DH stories

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I mean most (not all) DCUM posters are heterosexual married women. If this isn't a space to vent about husbands then I don't know what is.

Your problem is your colossal lack of self-awareness. You seek a space to complain about someone you promised to love for the rest of your life, when you should be looking for a space to examine your actions and choices so that you can make better ones in the future.

And, no, I do not mean the choice you made to marry your DH.

I mean the choices you make every day that lead you to blame him for whatever it is that brings you here to complain. If you were an adult, you could look at your reaction to his perceived shortcomings and grow from it.

Translation: I suffer from internalized misogyny who can't handle the notion that men are not perfect and can be legitimately vented about.

I think you need to work on yourself so that you don't feel so much distress about other women venting about their husbands. This must be awful for you. The first step would be to stop reading these forums.

NP. So you married a jerk too? The problem with the watermelon post is not the venting. Not that it takes longer to post than solve the problem. Not that it fails to solve OP’s problem.

The problem is the overwhelming number of posts in the relationship forum are about women venting and not taking actual steps to improve their relationships. This place becomes an echo chamber validating so many self-identifying martyrs.

Another poster who can't handle other women venting about their husbands. I'm sorry this thread is so upsetting to you, but that's a you problem. Nobody is buying this BS that you actually just concerned about these women not "solving the problem" and being "martyrs"

So yes, you are poster who vents on here about her husband. You guys sound like petty fools.

A lot of people, including me, vent about our husbands. That's why you see more than one thread about this. Venting about your life's frustrations is healthy.

You're crazy if you think DCUM is a healthy place. This is place is incredibly toxic.

It's toxic because anytime a woman says anything bad about a man, another woman attacks her and says it is all her fault (it is always the woman's fault one way or another). Venting is not toxic. You are.

Talk about lack of self awareness. Wow.

Exactly, the PP who thinks DCUM is toxic because women vent here about their husbands absolutely lacks self awareness about how insane it is to spend your days telling stories in your head about how those women are to blame for their husband's behavior.

Do you think we don’t see your deflection and know you have serious issues?

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DP. I don’t mean to disparage PP’s work but my guess is that she didn’t take long and is poking back at a very unhealthy poster. I don’t think she is the one who is unhinged here . . .

+1

In any conflict, most people seek to understand why each person feels the conflict started and how it can be resolved.

However, when one party cannot accept that they could have contributed to the conflict, you know that they are a significant source of the problem.

To vent is to resist diagnosis and resolution.

You vent because you’d rather complain than resolve. It’s what miserable people do and it keeps them miserable.

Do you see the irony in this remark?

That remark was descriptive, not a vent. If that’s want you meant by irony.

[Anonymous]

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I mean most (not all) DCUM posters are heterosexual married women. If this isn't a space to vent about husbands then I don't know what is.

Your problem is your colossal lack of self-awareness. You seek a space to complain about someone you promised to love for the rest of your life, when you should be looking for a space to examine your actions and choices so that you can make better ones in the future.

And, no, I do not mean the choice you made to marry your DH.

I mean the choices you make every day that lead you to blame him for whatever it is that brings you here to complain. If you were an adult, you could look at your reaction to his perceived shortcomings and grow from it.

Translation: I suffer from internalized misogyny who can't handle the notion that men are not perfect and can be legitimately vented about.

I think you need to work on yourself so that you don't feel so much distress about other women venting about their husbands. This must be awful for you. The first step would be to stop reading these forums.

NP. So you married a jerk too? The problem with the watermelon post is not the venting. Not that it takes longer to post than solve the problem. Not that it fails to solve OP’s problem.

The problem is the overwhelming number of posts in the relationship forum are about women venting and not taking actual steps to improve their relationships. This place becomes an echo chamber validating so many self-identifying martyrs.

Another poster who can't handle other women venting about their husbands. I'm sorry this thread is so upsetting to you, but that's a you problem. Nobody is buying this BS that you actually just concerned about these women not "solving the problem" and being "martyrs"

So yes, you are poster who vents on here about her husband. You guys sound like petty fools.

A lot of people, including me, vent about our husbands. That's why you see more than one thread about this. Venting about your life's frustrations is healthy.

You're crazy if you think DCUM is a healthy place. This is place is incredibly toxic.

It's toxic because anytime a woman says anything bad about a man, another woman attacks her and says it is all her fault (it is always the woman's fault one way or another). Venting is not toxic. You are.

Talk about lack of self awareness. Wow.

Exactly, the PP who thinks DCUM is toxic because women vent here about their husbands absolutely lacks self awareness about how insane it is to spend your days telling stories in your head about how those women are to blame for their husband's behavior.

Do you think we don’t see your deflection and know you have serious issues?

Because I think a lot of DCUM posters are married heterosexual women who vent about their husbands? You lost me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No one is trying to stop people from venting on DCUM. But if you vent on DCUM, you must expect others to respond. They may not and probably won’t respond in a way that validates you. So if validation is what you’re after, you are likely to be disappointed. You can’t stop them posting anymore than they can stop you posting. If you don’t want to hear it, don’t post.

And if you don't want to hear people not validating your bullying remarks here, don't post. Or do you think you are immune from criticism because you are telling the "truth" about what you imagine the woman did wrong?

If you are real and not a troll, I feel sorry for you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No one is trying to stop people from venting on DCUM. But if you vent on DCUM, you must expect others to respond. They may not and probably won’t respond in a way that validates you. So if validation is what you’re after, you are likely to be disappointed. You can’t stop them posting anymore than they can stop you posting. If you don’t want to hear it, don’t post.

And if you don't want to hear people not validating your bullying remarks here, don't post. Or do you think you are immune from criticism because you are telling the "truth" about what you imagine the woman did wrong?

The difference is I really don’t need validation from you so you go right ahead a respond to my posts any way you like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

I mean most (not all) DCUM posters are heterosexual married women. If this isn't a space to vent about husbands then I don't know what is.

Your problem is your colossal lack of self-awareness. You seek a space to complain about someone you promised to love for the rest of your life, when you should be looking for a space to examine your actions and choices so that you can make better ones in the future.

And, no, I do not mean the choice you made to marry your DH.

I mean the choices you make every day that lead you to blame him for whatever it is that brings you here to complain. If you were an adult, you could look at your reaction to his perceived shortcomings and grow from it.

Translation: I suffer from internalized misogyny who can't handle the notion that men are not perfect and can be legitimately vented about.

I think you need to work on yourself so that you don't feel so much distress about other women venting about their husbands. This must be awful for you. The first step would be to stop reading these forums.

NP. So you married a jerk too? The problem with the watermelon post is not the venting. Not that it takes longer to post than solve the problem. Not that it fails to solve OP’s problem.

The problem is the overwhelming number of posts in the relationship forum are about women venting and not taking actual steps to improve their relationships. This place becomes an echo chamber validating so many self-identifying martyrs.

Another poster who can't handle other women venting about their husbands. I'm sorry this thread is so upsetting to you, but that's a you problem. Nobody is buying this BS that you actually just concerned about these women not "solving the problem" and being "martyrs"

So yes, you are poster who vents on here about her husband. You guys sound like petty fools.

A lot of people, including me, vent about our husbands. That's why you see more than one thread about this. Venting about your life's frustrations is healthy.

There are some angry dhs or wanna be dhs on here. Post something about divorce or child support and you will really see their fangs

My money is on second wives who are insecure about their choice to marry the man another woman dumped.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

I mean most (not all) DCUM posters are heterosexual married women. If this isn't a space to vent about husbands then I don't know what is.

Your problem is your colossal lack of self-awareness. You seek a space to complain about someone you promised to love for the rest of your life, when you should be looking for a space to examine your actions and choices so that you can make better ones in the future.

And, no, I do not mean the choice you made to marry your DH.

I mean the choices you make every day that lead you to blame him for whatever it is that brings you here to complain. If you were an adult, you could look at your reaction to his perceived shortcomings and grow from it.

Translation: I suffer from internalized misogyny who can't handle the notion that men are not perfect and can be legitimately vented about.

I think you need to work on yourself so that you don't feel so much distress about other women venting about their husbands. This must be awful for you. The first step would be to stop reading these forums.

NP. So you married a jerk too? The problem with the watermelon post is not the venting. Not that it takes longer to post than solve the problem. Not that it fails to solve OP’s problem.

The problem is the overwhelming number of posts in the relationship forum are about women venting and not taking actual steps to improve their relationships. This place becomes an echo chamber validating so many self-identifying martyrs.

Another poster who can't handle other women venting about their husbands. I'm sorry this thread is so upsetting to you, but that's a you problem. Nobody is buying this BS that you actually just concerned about these women not "solving the problem" and being "martyrs"

So yes, you are poster who vents on here about her husband. You guys sound like petty fools.

A lot of people, including me, vent about our husbands. That's why you see more than one thread about this. Venting about your life's frustrations is healthy.

You're crazy if you think DCUM is a healthy place. This is place is incredibly toxic.

It's toxic because anytime a woman says anything bad about a man, another woman attacks her and says it is all her fault (it is always the woman's fault one way or another). Venting is not toxic. You are.

Talk about lack of self awareness. Wow.

Exactly, the PP who thinks DCUM is toxic because women vent here about their husbands absolutely lacks self awareness about how insane it is to spend your days telling stories in your head about how those women are to blame for their husband's behavior.

Do you think we don’t see your deflection and know you have serious issues?

Because I think a lot of DCUM posters are married heterosexual women who vent about their husbands? You lost me.

Because you lack a lot of self awareness. If you are real, I’d suggest stepping away from the computer and dealing with real life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No one is trying to stop people from venting on DCUM. But if you vent on DCUM, you must expect others to respond. They may not and probably won’t respond in a way that validates you. So if validation is what you’re after, you are likely to be disappointed. You can’t stop them posting anymore than they can stop you posting. If you don’t want to hear it, don’t post.

And if you don't want to hear people not validating your bullying remarks here, don't post. Or do you think you are immune from criticism because you are telling the "truth" about what you imagine the woman did wrong?

The difference is I really don’t need validation from you so you go right ahead a respond to my posts any way you like.

Right, you'll just tell me I have serious issues when I criticize you. Obviously, you are cool as a cucumber when it comes to criticism lol

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I mean most (not all) DCUM posters are heterosexual married women. If this isn't a space to vent about husbands then I don't know what is.

Your problem is your colossal lack of self-awareness. You seek a space to complain about someone you promised to love for the rest of your life, when you should be looking for a space to examine your actions and choices so that you can make better ones in the future.

And, no, I do not mean the choice you made to marry your DH.

I mean the choices you make every day that lead you to blame him for whatever it is that brings you here to complain. If you were an adult, you could look at your reaction to his perceived shortcomings and grow from it.

Translation: I suffer from internalized misogyny who can't handle the notion that men are not perfect and can be legitimately vented about.

I think you need to work on yourself so that you don't feel so much distress about other women venting about their husbands. This must be awful for you. The first step would be to stop reading these forums.

NP. So you married a jerk too? The problem with the watermelon post is not the venting. Not that it takes longer to post than solve the problem. Not that it fails to solve OP’s problem.

The problem is the overwhelming number of posts in the relationship forum are about women venting and not taking actual steps to improve their relationships. This place becomes an echo chamber validating so many self-identifying martyrs.

Another poster who can't handle other women venting about their husbands. I'm sorry this thread is so upsetting to you, but that's a you problem. Nobody is buying this BS that you actually just concerned about these women not "solving the problem" and being "martyrs"

So yes, you are poster who vents on here about her husband. You guys sound like petty fools.

A lot of people, including me, vent about our husbands. That's why you see more than one thread about this. Venting about your life's frustrations is healthy.

You're crazy if you think DCUM is a healthy place. This is place is incredibly toxic.

It's toxic because anytime a woman says anything bad about a man, another woman attacks her and says it is all her fault (it is always the woman's fault one way or another). Venting is not toxic. You are.

Talk about lack of self awareness. Wow.

Exactly, the PP who thinks DCUM is toxic because women vent here about their husbands absolutely lacks self awareness about how insane it is to spend your days telling stories in your head about how those women are to blame for their husband's behavior.

Do you think we don’t see your deflection and know you have serious issues?

Because I think a lot of DCUM posters are married heterosexual women who vent about their husbands? You lost me.

Because you lack a lot of self awareness. If you are real, I’d suggest stepping away from the computer and dealing with real life.

Self awareness about what? Seriously, spell it out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one is trying to stop people from venting on DCUM. But if you vent on DCUM, you must expect others to respond. They may not and probably won’t respond in a way that validates you. So if validation is what you’re after, you are likely to be disappointed. You can’t stop them posting anymore than they can stop you posting. If you don’t want to hear it, don’t post.

And if you don't want to hear people not validating your bullying remarks here, don't post. Or do you think you are immune from criticism because you are telling the "truth" about what you imagine the woman did wrong?

The difference is I really don’t need validation from you so you go right ahead a respond to my posts any way you like.

Right, you'll just tell me I have serious issues when I criticize you. Obviously, you are cool as a cucumber when it comes to criticism lol

More than one poster thinks you are unhinged. At this point, I think you are troll.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one is trying to stop people from venting on DCUM. But if you vent on DCUM, you must expect others to respond. They may not and probably won’t respond in a way that validates you. So if validation is what you’re after, you are likely to be disappointed. You can’t stop them posting anymore than they can stop you posting. If you don’t want to hear it, don’t post.

And if you don't want to hear people not validating your bullying remarks here, don't post. Or do you think you are immune from criticism because you are telling the "truth" about what you imagine the woman did wrong?

The difference is I really don’t need validation from you so you go right ahead a respond to my posts any way you like.

Right, you'll just tell me I have serious issues when I criticize you. Obviously, you are cool as a cucumber when it comes to criticism lol

More than one poster thinks you are unhinged. At this point, I think you are troll.

Unhinged how? What have I said that you consider unhinged? Please quote me. I want to be better!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No one is trying to stop people from venting on DCUM. But if you vent on DCUM, you must expect others to respond. They may not and probably won’t respond in a way that validates you. So if validation is what you’re after, you are likely to be disappointed. You can’t stop them posting anymore than they can stop you posting. If you don’t want to hear it, don’t post.

And if you don't want to hear people not validating your bullying remarks here, don't post. Or do you think you are immune from criticism because you are telling the "truth" about what you imagine the woman did wrong?

The difference is I really don’t need validation from you so you go right ahead a respond to my posts any way you like.

Right, you'll just tell me I have serious issues when I criticize you. Obviously, you are cool as a cucumber when it comes to criticism lol

But I am not the PP you think you are addressing. I merely pointed out that you cannot control how people respond on DCUM any more than other posters can control you. Vent and others will respond. But don’t expect everyone to agree with you.

Off you go now.

[Anonymous]

Back to the topic of the thread, when I was pregnant DH suggested we take shifts taking care of the baby. Except his shift would be in the early morning hours and he would go to the gym during his shift since the baby would be sleeping 🤔

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one is trying to stop people from venting on DCUM. But if you vent on DCUM, you must expect others to respond. They may not and probably won’t respond in a way that validates you. So if validation is what you’re after, you are likely to be disappointed. You can’t stop them posting anymore than they can stop you posting. If you don’t want to hear it, don’t post.

And if you don't want to hear people not validating your bullying remarks here, don't post. Or do you think you are immune from criticism because you are telling the "truth" about what you imagine the woman did wrong?

The difference is I really don’t need validation from you so you go right ahead a respond to my posts any way you like.

Right, you'll just tell me I have serious issues when I criticize you. Obviously, you are cool as a cucumber when it comes to criticism lol

I don’t even know you. Why would I care what you think?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one is trying to stop people from venting on DCUM. But if you vent on DCUM, you must expect others to respond. They may not and probably won’t respond in a way that validates you. So if validation is what you’re after, you are likely to be disappointed. You can’t stop them posting anymore than they can stop you posting. If you don’t want to hear it, don’t post.

And if you don't want to hear people not validating your bullying remarks here, don't post. Or do you think you are immune from criticism because you are telling the "truth" about what you imagine the woman did wrong?

The difference is I really don’t need validation from you so you go right ahead a respond to my posts any way you like.

Right, you'll just tell me I have serious issues when I criticize you. Obviously, you are cool as a cucumber when it comes to criticism lol

But I am not the PP you think you are addressing. I merely pointed out that you cannot control how people respond on DCUM any more than other posters can control you. Vent and others will respond. But don’t expect everyone to agree with you.

Off you go now.

Obviously there is no way to know who any poster is, but I'd bet money on you being one of the psychotic posters who pretends to know the "truth" about what "really happened" and only you can be the one to tell the woman it is her fault. Every time.