. Agree. We could build a structure around this to limit the abuse of the system and ensure dignity of the patient. I'd be all for it. If my mind is gone, so am I. |
+1 And the caregivers are disproportionately women. |
I could have written most of the two posts above. My remaining parent speaks nonsense, can't wipe their own butt, needs help to shower, and recently ended up in a wheelchair. We can't go out because they are incontinent and you never know when something messy will happen. I estimate they are around stage five or six (out of seven) on the dementia scale. They really went steeply downhill after an infection. |
I hope they find some medicine to help her stop doing that. Mine can do the same and the medicine prevents it. |
And that's assuming there is 1- any money left for an inheritance and 2- if there happens to be an inheritance that you will get anything. I knew a woman, former co-worker in her 40's unmarried/ no children, who was a caretaker to her mother for a decade. Did everything. The father died when she was in her 20's. Her 2 siblings were no help. One lived halfway across the country and had their own life. Another was a jobless mooch who lived wherever there was a couch that would accommodate him and only popped in when he wanted money. When her mom died she left the family home and all the contents and what was left in the bank to the son because she figured he needed it the most since the lived far away sibling was married and her caretaker daughter had a steady job and her own place to live. Never understimate the twisted rationale of a parent. |
I think about this topic. To keep choosing life extending procedures with other medical issues abounding and increasing the chance the body could outlast the mind. I’m not sure this is how it is supposed to be. Why are doctors and insurance proceeding forward in very late ages? Are they profiting off our seniors or unwilling to address the societal issue here? Does respecting life mean invention of dying whenever possible? Are we also going to grasp at life when death is facing us even though we think now we won’t? Will we also not consider the caregiver and taxpayer burdens as a result? Such heavy and ethical issues among the medical advancements. |
That’s very sad. We grieve the decline and end in many stages. |
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