You love your parent but are you upset they are still alive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom is 72 and has Parkinson’s and has been immobile almost for 5 years. I am in my late 40s. OP: you should be ashamed for yourself.

Why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a difficult position. You raised your kids, and just when you think you'll get some freedom, you know have to take care of your parents. And of course, most of the time, it falls on the daughter.

I live on the other side of the country from my parents, but my one sister lives close to them. She basically gave up her life to take care of them. One parent has dementia. They did also help her a lot when she went through a divorce.

I told my sister that when our parents pass, I will take her on some trips. Until then, she's stuck.

My dad is 90, and his sister died at 96.

Ok, NO. You need to go there for a week, look after your parents, and send your sister on a trip. You should do that several times a year. Give your sister a break NOW.

Exactly! Just because you live far away does not give you a pass to sit on your hands. You should make an effort and you know it! Pathetic!

[Anonymous]

You don’t have to let her live with you. End your martyrdom; it’s unflattering to you.