6th grader wants to wear off shoulder and belly button showing tops

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hate the short shorts, crop tops, and other revealing clothing that my 8th grader likes to wear, but it’s not a hill I’m willing to die on. She understands revealing clothing can attract unwanted sexual attention, but she has not yet experienced any leering or harassment, and she just wants to “look cute” like all her friends. She will learn her own lesson if and when there’s a lesson to learn, I guess. She knows I disapprove, but I don’t forbid these items entirely because I know that feeling stylish and attractive are important for a teenage girl’s confidence, and I want her to feel good about her appearance, even if that means occasionally drawing the negative attention or judgment of adults.

But, she’s not ‘stylish’ or ‘attractive’

She thinks she is, and that matters more than what you or I think. She’s not wearing these outfits to job interviews or settings where she’s trying to impress adults. (She gets excellent grades and teacher recommendations despite wearing short shorts and crop tops to school). She knows that adults don’t like these clothes and dresses more conservatively in situations where she cares what adults think of her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The problem is that American fashion for teenagers is Terrible and this Althelesiure all the time or nothing at all needs to go.

You can wear an off the shoulder top or a midriff top and still look good. We however allow kids to wear a midriff top we shorts that might as well be cheerleader if bloomers. Or boys to wear pants so low they can barely walk without tripping. Or sweatpants where leisure slacks would be more appropriate.

We as a society either need to decide fashion matters no where OR start to teach and enforce appropriate entire for everyone , kids included.

Bloomers? Leisure slacks? Are you a time traveler from 1900?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Midriffs are super-popular in 6th and even more so in MS. The girls like them because they really draw the boys’ attention.

YOu're a #boymom aren't you?

So what?

#boymoms think the world revolves around their boys and it's no surprise that they think that young girls' sole purpose in life is to please them. It's so gross.

[Anonymous]

The President of the US and his sickos who MAGA/Bible thumpers love have fake boobs, makeup like insanity, plastic surgery, dresses with boobs hanging out, tight dresses etc and people on this thread are worried about a girl wearing off the shoulder & belly button showing clothing. LOL Hypocrites.....

Good old christians think it's the girls fault that dirty old white men have dirty thoughts about young girls.

OP her body her choice. His body his choice. Their body their choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The President of the US and his sickos who MAGA/Bible thumpers love have fake boobs, makeup like insanity, plastic surgery, dresses with boobs hanging out, tight dresses etc and people on this thread are worried about a girl wearing off the shoulder & belly button showing clothing. LOL Hypocrites.....

Good old christians think it's the girls fault that dirty old white men have dirty thoughts about young girls.

OP her body her choice. His body his choice. Their body their choice.

So why so judgemental?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The President of the US and his sickos who MAGA/Bible thumpers love have fake boobs, makeup like insanity, plastic surgery, dresses with boobs hanging out, tight dresses etc and people on this thread are worried about a girl wearing off the shoulder & belly button showing clothing. LOL Hypocrites.....

Good old christians think it's the girls fault that dirty old white men have dirty thoughts about young girls.

OP her body her choice. His body his choice. Their body their choice.

So why so judgemental?

DP and I judge your inability to spell.

[Anonymous]

When my daughter started down this trend, I told her to look very hard at the adults who dress this way. They are usually overweight and/or residents of Section 8 housing.
Not hard to find examples of this in the UWS of NYC. But in the suburbs where everyone is encased in their cars most of the time, try the convenience store at the Wawa.

[Anonymous]

Not in my house. My child will dress like a girl with piety. And no she is not a loser or a dork but a jock. She typically wears sports gear or equestrian clothing anyway so no one cares.