Women on this forum lalk about sex a lot

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Anonymous wrote:Genuinely curious why is the topic of sex mentioned so often partially by women on this forum?

Because most men think they are good at sex but are not. And if we want it good we have to take control to do it. And it’s one more thing we are responsible for. I’m partly maki g light but it’s pretty close to accurate.

True as well. So sick of leading and running everything

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Anonymous wrote:The average man seriously underestimate how much it takes to give a woman a satisfying sexual experience. Most of the time they are just lying to you or being nice on order not to hurt your feeling when they told you that they came or the sex was amazing. Just thrusting back and forth won't cut it. You need foreplay l, resonance, oral, PIV in the right spot etc.

I would love to hear a group of women talking about their sexual experiences. Lol I think a lot of us would be very humble when we here what they really think of our sexual prowess.

I have asked my wife many times what would really make her “happy” and she never gives an answer other than a non answer. She doesn’t like oral and mostly doesn’t like being touched down there. Massage and rubbing are effective and thankfully so is PIV. I don’t complain because we have sex at least weekly which after 36 years is pretty good and she often initiates. She is very quiet so I rarely know if she has had an O.

TBH this sounds very…assault-y.

If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no.

Fascinating how consent has now shifted from affirmative to now it has to be “hell yes” otherwise it’s rape.

Honestly you people are bizarre and you’ve hijacked an entire segment of public dialogue with your drivel.

DP. Your response is weird - do you have kids, particularly teens? You should advise them that both parties should be a totally enthusiastic “yes.”

DP. This is not a weird response. He said his wife doesn't outwardly appear to enjoy sex that much, he has repeated asked her what would make it better, no response. Weirdo poster's take: this feels assault-y.

What would make it not assault-y? She is still consenting to have sex with him. It's sad, but it's not assault-y.

A lot of women have sex when they don’t want to because they feel obligated or because their H pressured them or asks nonstop until they say yes. I was married to a man like that - I absolutely despised having sex with him, but if I didn’t “consent” he would nag me nonstop. It was easier to just go along with it but the entire time I wanted to crawl out of my own skin.

Remarried now to a man I love having sex with, and we have a very healthy sex life. If he was just laying there, obviously not enjoying it, there’s no way I could bring myself to have sex with him. Like I can’t imagine at all how someone’s head gets so twisted that they will gladly have sex with a person who so very obviously does not want to have sex with them.

At that point it’s better to have a conversation about opening the marriage. I brought up an open marriage to my xH multiple times so he could get his needs met but he refused. I just can’t understand why people insist on having sex with people who don’t want to have sex with them.

I am very curious about your ex — did he try to communicate with you? Was he open to doing things that would give you more sexual pleasure? Did you explore why you were not able to have sexual pleasure with him? You did marry him after all?

Sex is an important part of marriage and while it is trendy today to say “just open your marriage” that’s not what the vast, vast majority of people want, and it’s not what most men want either. It’s not a solution to the problem and I would be absolutely opposed to it.

I also imagine that your ex probably didn’t consider the sexual interactions to be great either. Maybe he wanted to crawl out of his skin too at how little his wife was into him sexually?

We talked about it constantly. We had MANY issues beyond sex and he refused to address them. He approach it the same way you are - wanting to only talk about sex life problems - when it was like, no, Steve, I need to you stop constantly controlling every move I make and criticizing the way I load the dishwasher and help me out with the kids more and maybe take me on a date once in awhile.

Sex is important within the larger context. You can’t ignore every other aspect of a marriage and then force your partner to have sex because “it’s important for marriage”. That actually destroys marriages even more.

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Anonymous wrote:If a man gets rejected by his wife for years and, eventually, makes his peace with it; it's going to take some significant work to rewire his brain to go back to seeing his wife in a sexually positive way.

It's not retaliation. He's learned to protect himself and avoid the misery of rejection and unreciprocated desire.

Golly, wonder what led to the wife “rejecting him in the first place? Nothing? Or everything.

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Anonymous wrote:If a man gets rejected by his wife for years and, eventually, makes his peace with it; it's going to take some significant work to rewire his brain to go back to seeing his wife in a sexually positive way.

It's not retaliation. He's learned to protect himself and avoid the misery of rejection and unreciprocated desire.

Guy here. I’d agree that its not retaliation. Maybe its built up resentment that doesn’t allow you to see them in a sexual way anymore? Over the years you just learn to turn off that part of yourself when it comes to your wife because you know there’s no chance.

Woman here and I also agree. It’s similar if a husband had zero interest in his wife emotionally, and then all of a sudden one day after years of neglect decided he wanted to get closer and have an emotionally close relationship. She’s be well within her right to say thanks but no thanks to protect herself.

Lol.

He would have hit the Eject Button way before that and left his wife’s marriage and family. Better to keep one’s ego and image as a successful family man.

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Anonymous wrote:Genuinely curious why is the topic of sex mentioned so often partially by women on this forum?

Never seen this.

Where are all these posts by all these women all the time about sex?

I see a lot of mental disorders and incompetent spouse and parent posts.

I think there’s like 5 of us women who post on here who are extremely high drive with low drive husbands. I’m one of them.

Funny enough, I’m also one of the women who posts about her ADHD H.

Sigh. Is it really too much to ask for a man who can do the dishes AND is ready to go every night?

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Anonymous wrote:The #1 issue for most married women over 40 is the lack of sex.

That's hard to believe. Not household issues, finances, in-laws/child issues?

Troll thread of never married, no kids OP.

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Anonymous wrote:The average man seriously underestimate how much it takes to give a woman a satisfying sexual experience. Most of the time they are just lying to you or being nice on order not to hurt your feeling when they told you that they came or the sex was amazing. Just thrusting back and forth won't cut it. You need foreplay l, resonance, oral, PIV in the right spot etc.

I would love to hear a group of women talking about their sexual experiences. Lol I think a lot of us would be very humble when we here what they really think of our sexual prowess.

I have asked my wife many times what would really make her “happy” and she never gives an answer other than a non answer. She doesn’t like oral and mostly doesn’t like being touched down there. Massage and rubbing are effective and thankfully so is PIV. I don’t complain because we have sex at least weekly which after 36 years is pretty good and she often initiates. She is very quiet so I rarely know if she has had an O.

TBH this sounds very…assault-y.

If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no.

Fascinating how consent has now shifted from affirmative to now it has to be “hell yes” otherwise it’s rape.

Honestly you people are bizarre and you’ve hijacked an entire segment of public dialogue with your drivel.

DP. Your response is weird - do you have kids, particularly teens? You should advise them that both parties should be a totally enthusiastic “yes.”

DP. This is not a weird response. He said his wife doesn't outwardly appear to enjoy sex that much, he has repeated asked her what would make it better, no response. Weirdo poster's take: this feels assault-y.

What would make it not assault-y? She is still consenting to have sex with him. It's sad, but it's not assault-y.

A lot of women have sex when they don’t want to because they feel obligated or because their H pressured them or asks nonstop until they say yes. I was married to a man like that - I absolutely despised having sex with him, but if I didn’t “consent” he would nag me nonstop. It was easier to just go along with it but the entire time I wanted to crawl out of my own skin.

Remarried now to a man I love having sex with, and we have a very healthy sex life. If he was just laying there, obviously not enjoying it, there’s no way I could bring myself to have sex with him. Like I can’t imagine at all how someone’s head gets so twisted that they will gladly have sex with a person who so very obviously does not want to have sex with them.

At that point it’s better to have a conversation about opening the marriage. I brought up an open marriage to my xH multiple times so he could get his needs met but he refused. I just can’t understand why people insist on having sex with people who don’t want to have sex with them.

I am very curious about your ex — did he try to communicate with you? Was he open to doing things that would give you more sexual pleasure? Did you explore why you were not able to have sexual pleasure with him? You did marry him after all?

Sex is an important part of marriage and while it is trendy today to say “just open your marriage” that’s not what the vast, vast majority of people want, and it’s not what most men want either. It’s not a solution to the problem and I would be absolutely opposed to it.

I also imagine that your ex probably didn’t consider the sexual interactions to be great either. Maybe he wanted to crawl out of his skin too at how little his wife was into him sexually?

We talked about it constantly. We had MANY issues beyond sex and he refused to address them. He approach it the same way you are - wanting to only talk about sex life problems - when it was like, no, Steve, I need to you stop constantly controlling every move I make and criticizing the way I load the dishwasher and help me out with the kids more and maybe take me on a date once in awhile.

Sex is important within the larger context. You can’t ignore every other aspect of a marriage and then force your partner to have sex because “it’s important for marriage”. That actually destroys marriages even more.

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Unclear why the blockheads on this immature thread refuse to address this.

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Anonymous wrote:The average man seriously underestimate how much it takes to give a woman a satisfying sexual experience. Most of the time they are just lying to you or being nice on order not to hurt your feeling when they told you that they came or the sex was amazing. Just thrusting back and forth won't cut it. You need foreplay l, resonance, oral, PIV in the right spot etc.

I would love to hear a group of women talking about their sexual experiences. Lol I think a lot of us would be very humble when we here what they really think of our sexual prowess.

Everyone loves great sex and everyone is disappointed by bad sex. In the middle, men are still quite happy with mediocre sex and while women aren't.

Actually men invariably orgasm. It’s never really bad for them but often quite bad for women.

My ex never orgasmed. I believe he was actually gay. Newly divorced thank God.

I found this to be very interesting..when a man doesn't have the standard "reaction" following sex with a woman the woman says maybe he is gay. It is as if with women no matter what men may always react positively to a sexual experience with them.

When a woman doesn't orgasm I don't think men wonder whether they are gay...

Might have something to do with how the male orgasm is required for our survival as a species. The female orgasm, as great as it is, is not.

But it is still biologically quite important. No, not strictly necessary for conception, but it 1. helps conception, and 2. gives the woman hormones she needs to be bonded to her lover which in turn means more sex and more chance of conception with his baby.

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PP here. I never faked it with him. Never. I was 31 by the time we met and he made me feel so desirable and hot that I never had to. Seems like a lifetime ago.

PP, what happened? Was the change gradual or abrupt? If you two had good chemistry to begin with, you should be able to get it back.

Gradual, I guess. I sure hope we can get it back, but I think it will take a looong time.

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Anonymous wrote:The #1 issue for most married women over 40 is the lack of sex.

Seriously? I feel like this is a bigger problem for men. It’s women who lose desire much more quickly.

SOME women lose desire. Some women have an increased libido. I am the latter. I prefer sex daily.

I love ManChild sex so have that whole big market to myself!!

Gross.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes we talk about it a lot because we barely get any from our DHs and when we do it's often poor quality.

Why have most women on DCUM married asexual men? Can anyone explain?

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Anonymous wrote:Yes we talk about it a lot because we barely get any from our DHs and when we do it's often poor quality.

Why have most women on DCUM married asexual men? Can anyone explain?

I've asked a few times the every time a woman says her husband won't have sex, she should post his and her BMI and other relevant stats.

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Anonymous wrote:Genuinely curious why is the topic of sex mentioned so often partially by women on this forum?

It’s not mentioned a lot at all here.

You must be mixing up your many website chats, Op.

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Anonymous wrote:The average man seriously underestimate how much it takes to give a woman a satisfying sexual experience. Most of the time they are just lying to you or being nice on order not to hurt your feeling when they told you that they came or the sex was amazing. Just thrusting back and forth won't cut it. You need foreplay l, resonance, oral, PIV in the right spot etc.

I would love to hear a group of women talking about their sexual experiences. Lol I think a lot of us would be very humble when we here what they really think of our sexual prowess.

Everyone loves great sex and everyone is disappointed by bad sex. In the middle, men are still quite happy with mediocre sex and while women aren't.

Actually men invariably orgasm. It’s never really bad for them but often quite bad for women.

That's because men will take their orgasm but women will lie around waiting for someone to give them an orgasm. Take control of your sexual needs and get what you want. This is a big part of the problem. Stop blaming him and you get yours

lol no. the orgasm gap doesn’t exist for lesbians.

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Anonymous wrote:Genuinely curious why is the topic of sex mentioned so often partially by women on this forum?

It’s not mentioned a lot at all here.

You must be mixing up your many website chats, Op.

+1.

Lame