Success comes in many forms, having a successful marriage is success, having a successful career is success, being a successful SAHM is success, having a part time flexible career to match your priorities is a success, divorcing a bad spouse is success ... in nutshell, whatever makes you happy is your success. Sacrificing things that make you happy for professional success to impress others isn't success. If you are okay with your decisions, walk to your reunion with head held high because you are comfortable in your skin and got nothing to proof to others, being human most of them are failures in different ways, everyone should do what's right for them. That being said, you aren't dead yet, do what makes you fulfilled not what makes you successful on paper, many of your classmates would kill to be in your shoes. |
She literally wrote “Just remember to let your kids know that you regret spending so much time with them” Better? Your definitely bitter. |
You need to work on reading comprehension. You have brought in your own issues. That poster did not talking about working mothers. She was talking about OP who has chosen to stay home. It’s not the same thing. |
I think I’m embarrassed that I no longer work.
OP, long time SAHM here with teens. It takes enormous personal strength of character to walk into a gathering where you are the only one not a paycheck and walk out of that gathering feeling whole, centered, and at peace. But it's worth it to do the hard work of getting to that place where you are about more than money, or power, or pushing papers around a desk all day. You have a great life. We all want something we don't have that we are not doing, the grass always seems greener, it's human nature. The bottom line to this internal dilemma is not being at peace with yourself. No job will bring you peace. No paycheck will bring you peace. You bring yourself peace. |
DP but you're working way too hard to defend a crappy post. That poster was talking about OP who wants to go back to work. And her interpretation of OP wanting to go back to work is that OP regrets spending time with her kids and needs to tell them as much. There's no logical leap here, that's directly what she said. Stop defending it or admit what you're defending, the twisting is getting dumb. |
I was a military spouse for many years and we were all told explicitly by the husband’s command that “his success if your success” but here’s the thing. Nobody salutes and calls me sir, there are no medals pinned to my chest. I always envied my husband’s ability to have a linear progression in his career, to at least believe that he was moving forward, taking on greater responsibilities and getting more training, learning new skills. Yeah, you get to share the salary and the housing, but at the end of the day he is the only one who is advancing and progressing. I felt like I was standing still. |
Yes, those are the only three reasons why people work. You nailed it. |
Lol is this really what you think of literally every single woman you meet who has kids in school and doesn’t have a day job? You’re the one who lacks perspective and needs to get out more! Wild |
DH should marry his assistant. She'll appreciate it. |
You are working pretty hard to be offended by something that was not said. To be clear, I am a mother who works. A lot. Some comment on regretting time spent at home does not have any bearing on me, my family, or our choices. I don’t “regret” time at work. Are you that insecure? |
Weak pivot from 8 posts of "she never said or implied anything like that" to "why do you care what some random says on the internet." :roll: |
Of course it's not your success. You'll never know what your path would have led to had you remained on it. Just be grateful to the universe that he has, so far, stuck around to share his success with you. And be warned that it's not over. You're one affair away from it all falling apart. Just like you're one heart attack (his) away from it all falling apart. And who is to say that some terrible choices won't be made by those wonderful kids you're feeling smug about? |
DP but I sincerely hope you don’t have a job that relies on your brainpower… |
I find my job fulfilling. I like that I have a place where I use my brain and solve problems. People rely on me and listen to me and respect me. It's a great feeling to be firing on all cylinders and apply years of experience and make things happen. I am part of an organization that really adds value to the community, which I like. It's just one part of who I am, but I'm glad I have it. Most reasonably smart people I know who are mid-career or later have gotten to this point where they are no longer just pushing papers or clocking in. |
Sure, you “helped” them by dragging on their divorce proceedings for YEARS to keep those huge attorney fees rolling in (your words). LMAO at you trying to pretend you’re some kind of altruistic do-gooder. Get real. |