I'm panicked

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Anonymous wrote:I'm pp who's dc is deciding between UGA Wisconsin and possibly Michigan. He is visiting all again mid to late April. Do people really cut it this close? I'm having such anxiety about the rushed timing, or if he gets sick and can't visit when he plans and him not being able to decide. I can't believe it's come down ot the wire. He has travel and a senior spring break trip and then a sports thing he doesn't want to miss first weekend in April. Do these second visits and/or tours once they're admitted really help seal the deal? He visited both a year ago w just us went out briefly. The return visits are for games, meeting kids in frat, one seeing tour of business school, and I guess just more overnight w kids who are students there.

I am in the same situation as you! My DC has to decide among Harvard, Princeton, and Stanford. He has no hooks and yet achieved such stellar acceptances. Yet he can’t make up his mind! East coast or West coast? Urban or suburban? Techie or Medicine oriented or undergraduate focused with world famous professors teaching Freshman classes? He wants to visit all three, meet students he interacted with on his first visit, hopefully meet with some professors if possible. He will stay one day at each place. When he makes his final decision and informs the school, I don’t even know whether he will send in the acceptance from home with us recording the momentous decision. I feel like, after his 12th grade, the path to his future is splitting into three and each path will lead him through unique but different experiences and life’s journey. I am panicked if the final choice he will make will lead to happiness and fulfillment for him or one of the other two paths he would have to discard would have been a better one in the long run! We are in the same boat in having sons with great choices and worrying whether they will make the right choice! Shaky fingers crossed and waiting with trepidation for his final decision!

Pretty easy choice, one real school and 2 posers. Two hints. On the east coast. Was not part of an embarrassing display before Congress.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm pp who's dc is deciding between UGA Wisconsin and possibly Michigan. He is visiting all again mid to late April. Do people really cut it this close? I'm having such anxiety about the rushed timing, or if he gets sick and can't visit when he plans and him not being able to decide. I can't believe it's come down ot the wire. He has travel and a senior spring break trip and then a sports thing he doesn't want to miss first weekend in April. Do these second visits and/or tours once they're admitted really help seal the deal? He visited both a year ago w just us went out briefly. The return visits are for games, meeting kids in frat, one seeing tour of business school, and I guess just more overnight w kids who are students there.

I am in the same situation as you! My DC has to decide among Harvard, Princeton, and Stanford. He has no hooks and yet achieved such stellar acceptances. Yet he can’t make up his mind! East coast or West coast? Urban or suburban? Techie or Medicine oriented or undergraduate focused with world famous professors teaching Freshman classes? He wants to visit all three, meet students he interacted with on his first visit, hopefully meet with some professors if possible. He will stay one day at each place. When he makes his final decision and informs the school, I don’t even know whether he will send in the acceptance from home with us recording the momentous decision. I feel like, after his 12th grade, the path to his future is splitting into three and each path will lead him through unique but different experiences and life’s journey. I am panicked if the final choice he will make will lead to happiness and fulfillment for him or one of the other two paths he would have to discard would have been a better one in the long run! We are in the same boat in having sons with great choices and worrying whether they will make the right choice! Shaky fingers crossed and waiting with trepidation for his final decision!

Pretty easy choice, one real school and 2 posers. Two hints. On the east coast. Was not part of an embarrassing display before Congress.

I see you mean Princeton. If I were to choose, I would in a heartbeat. But I can’t impose my preferences on my son.

[Anonymous]

My DS changed his mind in June last year. It worked out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm pp who's dc is deciding between UGA Wisconsin and possibly Michigan. He is visiting all again mid to late April. Do people really cut it this close? I'm having such anxiety about the rushed timing, or if he gets sick and can't visit when he plans and him not being able to decide. I can't believe it's come down ot the wire. He has travel and a senior spring break trip and then a sports thing he doesn't want to miss first weekend in April. Do these second visits and/or tours once they're admitted really help seal the deal? He visited both a year ago w just us went out briefly. The return visits are for games, meeting kids in frat, one seeing tour of business school, and I guess just more overnight w kids who are students there.

I am in the same situation as you! My DC has to decide among Harvard, Princeton, and Stanford. He has no hooks and yet achieved such stellar acceptances. Yet he can’t make up his mind! East coast or West coast? Urban or suburban? Techie or Medicine oriented or undergraduate focused with world famous professors teaching Freshman classes? He wants to visit all three, meet students he interacted with on his first visit, hopefully meet with some professors if possible. He will stay one day at each place. When he makes his final decision and informs the school, I don’t even know whether he will send in the acceptance from home with us recording the momentous decision. I feel like, after his 12th grade, the path to his future is splitting into three and each path will lead him through unique but different experiences and life’s journey. I am panicked if the final choice he will make will lead to happiness and fulfillment for him or one of the other two paths he would have to discard would have been a better one in the long run! We are in the same boat in having sons with great choices and worrying whether they will make the right choice! Shaky fingers crossed and waiting with trepidation for his final decision!

ok funny troll.

Harvard and Princeton both have restricted early action so he cannot be in at both with Ivy decision day not until 3/28. It possible to only apply to one of them in the early round.

If you are applying to Harvard under Restrictive Early Action, you may not apply to any other private institution under an Early Decision, Early Action, or Restrictive Early Action plan, or to a binding early program at a public university

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm pp who's dc is deciding between UGA Wisconsin and possibly Michigan. He is visiting all again mid to late April. Do people really cut it this close? I'm having such anxiety about the rushed timing, or if he gets sick and can't visit when he plans and him not being able to decide. I can't believe it's come down ot the wire. He has travel and a senior spring break trip and then a sports thing he doesn't want to miss first weekend in April. Do these second visits and/or tours once they're admitted really help seal the deal? He visited both a year ago w just us went out briefly. The return visits are for games, meeting kids in frat, one seeing tour of business school, and I guess just more overnight w kids who are students there.

I am in the same situation as you! My DC has to decide among Harvard, Princeton, and Stanford. He has no hooks and yet achieved such stellar acceptances. Yet he can’t make up his mind! East coast or West coast? Urban or suburban? Techie or Medicine oriented or undergraduate focused with world famous professors teaching Freshman classes? He wants to visit all three, meet students he interacted with on his first visit, hopefully meet with some professors if possible. He will stay one day at each place. When he makes his final decision and informs the school, I don’t even know whether he will send in the acceptance from home with us recording the momentous decision. I feel like, after his 12th grade, the path to his future is splitting into three and each path will lead him through unique but different experiences and life’s journey. I am panicked if the final choice he will make will lead to happiness and fulfillment for him or one of the other two paths he would have to discard would have been a better one in the long run! We are in the same boat in having sons with great choices and worrying whether they will make the right choice! Shaky fingers crossed and waiting with trepidation for his final decision!

ok funny troll.

Harvard and Princeton both have restricted early action so he cannot be in at both with Ivy decision day not until 3/28. It possible to only apply to one of them in the early round.

If you are applying to Harvard under Restrictive Early Action, you may not apply to any other private institution under an Early Decision, Early Action, or Restrictive Early Action plan, or to a binding early program at a public university

Or they cheated and the kid attends a high school that didn't prevent it. Our HS college counselor would have caught that and they would not send transcripts. The school will get dinged if found out.

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Anonymous wrote:Also strsssed what if he loves both lol. Meaning I hope it's an easy decision. I don't see how these kids pick. He doesn't care about where he lives after college. Meaning, he's focusing on where he will spend the 4 years. Maybe it will come back to the campus and that's it! One is city more than college town.

This is where my child is stuck. Loves both Florida and Georgia and can't decide.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also strsssed what if he loves both lol. Meaning I hope it's an easy decision. I don't see how these kids pick. He doesn't care about where he lives after college. Meaning, he's focusing on where he will spend the 4 years. Maybe it will come back to the campus and that's it! One is city more than college town.

This is where my child is stuck. Loves both Florida and Georgia and can't decide.

Did he visit both? They're so similar. What major?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm pp who's dc is deciding between UGA Wisconsin and possibly Michigan. He is visiting all again mid to late April. Do people really cut it this close? I'm having such anxiety about the rushed timing, or if he gets sick and can't visit when he plans and him not being able to decide. I can't believe it's come down ot the wire. He has travel and a senior spring break trip and then a sports thing he doesn't want to miss first weekend in April. Do these second visits and/or tours once they're admitted really help seal the deal? He visited both a year ago w just us went out briefly. The return visits are for games, meeting kids in frat, one seeing tour of business school, and I guess just more overnight w kids who are students there.

I am in the same situation as you! My DC has to decide among Harvard, Princeton, and Stanford. He has no hooks and yet achieved such stellar acceptances. Yet he can’t make up his mind! East coast or West coast? Urban or suburban? Techie or Medicine oriented or undergraduate focused with world famous professors teaching Freshman classes? He wants to visit all three, meet students he interacted with on his first visit, hopefully meet with some professors if possible. He will stay one day at each place. When he makes his final decision and informs the school, I don’t even know whether he will send in the acceptance from home with us recording the momentous decision. I feel like, after his 12th grade, the path to his future is splitting into three and each path will lead him through unique but different experiences and life’s journey. I am panicked if the final choice he will make will lead to happiness and fulfillment for him or one of the other two paths he would have to discard would have been a better one in the long run! We are in the same boat in having sons with great choices and worrying whether they will make the right choice! Shaky fingers crossed and waiting with trepidation for his final decision!

ok funny troll.

Harvard and Princeton both have restricted early action so he cannot be in at both with Ivy decision day not until 3/28. It possible to only apply to one of them in the early round.

If you are applying to Harvard under Restrictive Early Action, you may not apply to any other private institution under an Early Decision, Early Action, or Restrictive Early Action plan, or to a binding early program at a public university

Stanford is restricted too...super troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm pp who's dc is deciding between UGA Wisconsin and possibly Michigan. He is visiting all again mid to late April. Do people really cut it this close? I'm having such anxiety about the rushed timing, or if he gets sick and can't visit when he plans and him not being able to decide. I can't believe it's come down ot the wire. He has travel and a senior spring break trip and then a sports thing he doesn't want to miss first weekend in April. Do these second visits and/or tours once they're admitted really help seal the deal? He visited both a year ago w just us went out briefly. The return visits are for games, meeting kids in frat, one seeing tour of business school, and I guess just more overnight w kids who are students there.

I am in the same situation as you! My DC has to decide among Harvard, Princeton, and Stanford. He has no hooks and yet achieved such stellar acceptances. Yet he can’t make up his mind! East coast or West coast? Urban or suburban? Techie or Medicine oriented or undergraduate focused with world famous professors teaching Freshman classes? He wants to visit all three, meet students he interacted with on his first visit, hopefully meet with some professors if possible. He will stay one day at each place. When he makes his final decision and informs the school, I don’t even know whether he will send in the acceptance from home with us recording the momentous decision. I feel like, after his 12th grade, the path to his future is splitting into three and each path will lead him through unique but different experiences and life’s journey. I am panicked if the final choice he will make will lead to happiness and fulfillment for him or one of the other two paths he would have to discard would have been a better one in the long run! We are in the same boat in having sons with great choices and worrying whether they will make the right choice! Shaky fingers crossed and waiting with trepidation for his final decision!

Pretty easy choice, one real school and 2 posers. Two hints. On the east coast. Was not part of an embarrassing display before Congress.

I see you mean Princeton. If I were to choose, I would in a heartbeat. But I can’t impose my preferences on my son.

Your son? You mean your pet cat whose name is Bart?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also strsssed what if he loves both lol. Meaning I hope it's an easy decision. I don't see how these kids pick. He doesn't care about where he lives after college. Meaning, he's focusing on where he will spend the 4 years. Maybe it will come back to the campus and that's it! One is city more than college town.

This is where my child is stuck. Loves both Florida and Georgia and can't decide.

Did he visit both? They're so similar. What major?

Yes, visited both and will major in business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also strsssed what if he loves both lol. Meaning I hope it's an easy decision. I don't see how these kids pick. He doesn't care about where he lives after college. Meaning, he's focusing on where he will spend the 4 years. Maybe it will come back to the campus and that's it! One is city more than college town.

This is where my child is stuck. Loves both Florida and Georgia and can't decide.

Did he visit both? They're so similar. What major?

Yes, visited both and will major in business.

My son also business. A lot of UF business classes are online if that makes a difference. Did you know that? Kids still love it there, don't get me wrong but sort of a negative in my opinion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also strsssed what if he loves both lol. Meaning I hope it's an easy decision. I don't see how these kids pick. He doesn't care about where he lives after college. Meaning, he's focusing on where he will spend the 4 years. Maybe it will come back to the campus and that's it! One is city more than college town.

This is where my child is stuck. Loves both Florida and Georgia and can't decide.

Did he visit both? They're so similar. What major?

Yes, visited both and will major in business.

My son also business. A lot of UF business classes are online if that makes a difference. Did you know that? Kids still love it there, don't get me wrong but sort of a negative in my opinion.

I have heard that, and it is a big negative in my eyes. Is your son considering UF?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m continually amazed at how enmeshed DCUM parents are in their kids’ lives! This is HIS decision. If something happens and he can’t visit and makes the decision with a little less information, that’s fine. Your kid has two great college acceptances. There’s literally zero for you to be anxious about.

I don’t think my parents had any idea how to set up a tour at a college I was interested in. Because I did all of that stuff myself.

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Anonymous wrote:My DS changed his mind in June last year. It worked out.

I love these tidbits.

It will all work out in the end people. Even if your kid transfers, or changes his/her mind 100 times. There are plenty of kids who have not decided yet.

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Anonymous wrote:OP you have GOT to step back from the ledge. My God.

Wdym? Why is this so crazy? I def have more anxiety than the average person but not sure why it's that crazy I'm strsssed. It's a huge decision that's down to a matter of days to decide. Or is my anxiety really clouding this?

It’s not your decision.