How not to feel bad when other families go on a trip every break

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Anonymous wrote:We have plenty of money to travel but we only do one big vacation a year and do staycations or time with grandparents for the rest of the year. I don’t want to spoil my kids. They can travel on their own dime! Like DH and I did after we got married.

Maybe we will do more when when they are older. But I doubt we will travel more than 2-3x

To be fair, I don’t think our kids will ever be able to travel like we did when we were younger. Not only will it continue to get more $$$, but climate change is going to upend tourism.

Oh, you’re one of those depressed pessimistic people.

Oh you are one of those “I have my head up my butt” people? Not depressed. And I travel. But I’m also not delulu, as the kids say nowadays.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Remember that it's a DC thing. And a rich people thing.

We are in CA and the most we have done the past year is a day trip to Santa Cruz.

This. No one I know who lives outside of the DC metro travels as much as people here do. Most people, especially with kids, do something closer they can drive to occasionally.

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Anonymous wrote:I grew up in DC and my parents prioritized paying for tuition over home improvements or travel — we have amazing memories of going to Bethany for a few days on spring break and riding the (chilly) waves on the inflatable rafts. It was our first trip to the ocean. I’m guessing people are so focused on “what will the neighbors think” these days that no one would have the guts to make a family trip like that anymore…not wanting to deal with the eye rolls. Also, if you get your kids involved in travel sports, there are often tournaments during breaks that demand your presence—harder to feel bad about not jetting to the Caribbean if it’s just not going to work with your schedule.

We do trips like that, visits to family, sometimes staycations, and sometimes we go to Europe/South America/somewhere else far. I'm not doing it for social media as I barely post and no one rolls their eyes when someone takes a local/staycation trip.

I think everyone is assuming much more judgement and much more external validation seeking than is actually happening. Live your own life, people!

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Anonymous wrote:the CO2 emissions of these people are destroying the planet. Be proud that you are not one of these world destroyers (or a least to a lesser extent).

I came here to say this. I cringe every time we fly to see extended family. I can’t imagine flying just as far to “see the world”. It’s selfish. Most people never see the world.

Laughable coming from someone in DC. My kids were babies when we left (military) and they deserve to see family. They deserve to see life outside of our shitty little military towns. Stay in your large city with tons of services and recreational opportunities if you feel so guilty.

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It never fails that the people who make judgy comments about emissions, end up being the ones that go on a big trip the next holiday (in my neighborhood at least)

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We travel on most breaks but we're not going overseas - we're typically road-tripping to various states. And sometimes seeing family or just going to a Delaware beach.

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I don’t think it’s a DC thing. I think it’s a UMC thing.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have plenty of money to travel but we only do one big vacation a year and do staycations or time with grandparents for the rest of the year. I don’t want to spoil my kids. They can travel on their own dime! Like DH and I did after we got married.

Maybe we will do more when when they are older. But I doubt we will travel more than 2-3x

To be fair, I don’t think our kids will ever be able to travel like we did when we were younger. Not only will it continue to get more $$$, but climate change is going to upend tourism.

Oh, you’re one of those depressed pessimistic people.

Oh you are one of those “I have my head up my butt” people? Not depressed. And I travel. But I’m also not delulu, as the kids say nowadays.

So do as I say, not as I do?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have plenty of money to travel but we only do one big vacation a year and do staycations or time with grandparents for the rest of the year. I don’t want to spoil my kids. They can travel on their own dime! Like DH and I did after we got married.

Maybe we will do more when when they are older. But I doubt we will travel more than 2-3x

To be fair, I don’t think our kids will ever be able to travel like we did when we were younger. Not only will it continue to get more $$$, but climate change is going to upend tourism.

Oh, you’re one of those depressed pessimistic people.

Oh you are one of those “I have my head up my butt” people? Not depressed. And I travel. But I’m also not delulu, as the kids say nowadays.

So do as I say, not as I do?

I’m not telling anyone not to travel, I’m saying at least own the fact that it impacts the environment. And that impact will have all sorts of consequences for tourism. It already has with fires, warmer ocean temps (which leads to sargassum, stronger storms), locals fighting over tourism etc. Travel will look different in the future. Now do you follow?

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My problem isn't envy as much as it's disgust and anger at how bad it is for the environment to take 4 int'l flights multiple times per year.

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Anonymous wrote:Many of us didn't travel as kids, but now have the means to take amazing adventures as adults. If your kids complain, then they should work hard and choose careers that will afford them the income to travel. It's motivating. I'm more worried about my kids who are totally spoiled with amazing trips. They don't even know how good they have it.

Yeah - OP trust us - my 3rd grade daughter wrote me a note beginning with “I dissent” regarding our spring break trip. Kids complain no matter what you do. As soon as you realize that, the second part of your life begins.

That is so funny!

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Anonymous wrote:My problem isn't envy as much as it's disgust and anger at how bad it is for the environment to take 4 int'l flights multiple times per year.

That is a drop in the bucket compared to India and China.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I grew up in DC and my parents prioritized paying for tuition over home improvements or travel — we have amazing memories of going to Bethany for a few days on spring break and riding the (chilly) waves on the inflatable rafts. It was our first trip to the ocean. I’m guessing people are so focused on “what will the neighbors think” these days that no one would have the guts to make a family trip like that anymore…not wanting to deal with the eye rolls. Also, if you get your kids involved in travel sports, there are often tournaments during breaks that demand your presence—harder to feel bad about not jetting to the Caribbean if it’s just not going to work with your schedule.

We do trips like that, visits to family, sometimes staycations, and sometimes we go to Europe/South America/somewhere else far. I'm not doing it for social media as I barely post and no one rolls their eyes when someone takes a local/staycation trip.

I think everyone is assuming much more judgement and much more external validation seeking than is actually happening. Live your own life, people!

+1. This is the important part. Some people enjoy the experience and do not post on social media, and others want bragging rights of some degree. The latter is ridiculous for a grown adult.

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Most people are not traveling to Europe or the Caribbean. FYI OPhttps://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/786331.page