So, Whose Husband Has Done Absolutely Nothing for Valentine’s Day?

[Anonymous]

Nope. For context, we celebrated our last anniversary with a high five. He’s important to me, but the holiday is not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Read the empowered wife. Then you will get valentines. Seriously.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We never do anything for Valentine’s Day, so we stuck with that tradition. He DID, however, order flowers for his girlfriend which seems a bit uncool.

How do you know he did?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Mine got me those mix of flowers from Costco for $23. A quarter of them were dead. You know the ones with crysanthenums, and those oversized orange daisey flowers, a few carnations and loaded with greenery. I can't stand those bouquets. Get me carnations any day over those or hey how about roses. Like those even though they don't last long. Costco has gotten so cheap they put more of the green leafy stuff than actual flowers. It made me feel so shitty. I work hard and that's my worth crappy flowers. Why the f**k does Costco sell dead flowers to people? I would rather have had nothing than that bouquet of half dead flowers. My husband came home from work and thought it was funny that the others guys were rushing around on Valentine's Day picking up flowers for their wives from an actual flower shop the expensive kind over a $100. He presented mine on Feb. 13 and then complained to me about the congested parking lot. How Romantic. Why don't I just give it up and walk.

Yes. Mine always buys the cheapest flowers and thinks he is being so cute with it being “our flower.” It’s not cute, it makes me sad every time and knows it. Buy real flowers.

what kind of flowers are they?

[Anonymous]

I get roses from the florist every year for dw. Not that hard

[Anonymous]

I just want flowers (not roses!) and chocolate plus help with dinner for our kids. We throw a little party for our kids and make it special.

I absolutely love Valentines Day and always have. Even when I was single I celebrated with my other single girl friends.

[Anonymous]

Not mine. DH bought me flowers, chocolate and a card and cooks dinner for me since I don't want to go out to eat. I made him semi-fancy lunch and chocolate covered strawberries and got him a card. We are both happy.

[Anonymous]

There are too many holidays. Between birthday, anniversary, Christmas, Valentine’s Day each year, it’s ridiculous (and too expensive) to roll out a red carpet for each one. Couples should make life easier by agreeing which of there actually warrant a fuss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why does the husband have to do something for the wife? Wife can also plan a Valentine's Day, no?

- DW

Yes, but I'm assuming the OP is either a gay man or a straight woman so is posting about their husband. Duh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Read the empowered wife. Then you will get valentines. Seriously.

Tell us more.

I assume it's a joke. I'm a big fan of Laura Doyle and empowered wife, but we have never once done valentine's day... And I wouldn't want us to either. We are both forgetful of birthdays and anniversaries and yet we're very happy together.

I don't get at all why this performance has to play out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why do people hate the idea of gifts so much? I love giving and getting gifts as a way to show my love and attention.

People have different ways of expressing love. For some, the love language is a gift. For others, it’s something else.
It sounds like gifts are your love language. Just know that others may have different love languages.

No, I get that. There are LOTS of ways to express love. Gifts are not my love language, actually, but what I'm talking about is the level of hate on this type thread engenders - why is it that if some folks don't celebrate Valentines Day or don't expect a Christmas gift they feel superior to all of the gift-enjoying humans? And seem to want to make it knows that only mature adults like gifts. And that if you enjoy gifts you are a selfish, gold-digging, money grubbing whiner.

It's simply not true. Gifts are nice. Not too many of them. Not too expensive. But a nicely thought out gift (like ... pick me up a mini peppermint pattie, not a snickers bar and I'll know you've been paying attention!!) is lovely.

[Anonymous]

I'd like to officially opt out of all holidays, please. Thank you very much. I can buy myself flowers. Now if I didn't keep bowing to the unending societal pressures to keep up keeping up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Read the empowered wife. Then you will get valentines. Seriously.

Tell us more.

I assume it's a joke. I'm a big fan of Laura Doyle and empowered wife, but we have never once done valentine's day... And I wouldn't want us to either. We are both forgetful of birthdays and anniversaries and yet we're very happy together.

I don't get at all why this performance has to play out.

Why did you respond you literally had nothing to add to the PP's question. It's strange.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Read the empowered wife. Then you will get valentines. Seriously.

Tell us more.

I assume it's a joke. I'm a big fan of Laura Doyle and empowered wife, but we have never once done valentine's day... And I wouldn't want us to either. We are both forgetful of birthdays and anniversaries and yet we're very happy together.

I don't get at all why this performance has to play out.

Why did you respond you literally had nothing to add to the PP's question. It's strange.

And you consider your comment adding value?

[Anonymous]

DH got a box of chocolates for the family, I got a box of desserts for the family. Happy V day! No stress!