So, Whose Husband Has Done Absolutely Nothing for Valentine’s Day?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do people hate the idea of gifts so much? I love giving and getting gifts as a way to show my love and attention.

People have different ways of expressing love. For some, the love language is a gift. For others, it’s something else.

It sounds like gifts are your love language. Just know that others may have different love languages.

[Anonymous]

Mine. Thank God. I didn’t do anything either.

[Anonymous]

my dh doesn't believe in Valentine's day, so nothing. ever. I get the kids some treats.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine! I haven't done anything for him, either. It's much easier this way.

Same here! We had a mini chocolate tasting for dessert with the kids and it was cute.

[Anonymous]

DH and I are in agreement that we do not support the commercialization of this day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you need a day out of the year to show love, then you're screwed. Real families and couples have things to do.

This is such a poor argument. Do you not celebrate Mother's Day? Father's Day? Birthdays? Mothers and fathers should be appreciated every day of the year blah blah but we all still choose to go above and beyond on that particular day because it's NICE. I feel sorry for anyone who can't fathom that we can love our partners daily but also choose to use the reminder of the calendar to show them in a different manner than usual.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you need a day out of the year to show love, then you're screwed. Real families and couples have things to do.

This is such a poor argument. Do you not celebrate Mother's Day? Father's Day? Birthdays? Mothers and fathers should be appreciated every day of the year blah blah but we all still choose to go above and beyond on that particular day because it's NICE. I feel sorry for anyone who can't fathom that we can love our partners daily but also choose to use the reminder of the calendar to show them in a different manner than usual.

I feel sorry for anyone who can't fathom that trite displays of affection/care just don't do it for everyone they way they might for you.

I HATE going out on mother's day. OMFG. I'd rather fast than go out for mother's day. Treat me kindly on a daily basis, and surprise me from time to time with things that show you actually GAF, not just because the calendar said so.

[Anonymous]

I hate these “life is a choice” posters SO MUCH. Sometimes people disappoint you or you make compromises you regret and it’s okay to vent. No one needs Accountability Annie wagging a sanctimonious finger as if they’re the only adult in the room.

You hate them because they illuminate your hypocrisy.

Adults look first to the one thing they can control in a relationship, which is their actions, and ask themselves how to do better. Middle-aged children (i.e., you) complain about how people disappoint them without considering how they have disappointed others.

People should wag a sanctimonious finger at you. You make it easy to do so, just like all the other posters who dodged the question about what they did when complaining about what he did not do.

How about looking at what you did and seeing if you can do better? And to any poster who replies with some long-winded tale of Valentine's woe, if the first line is not about what you can do better, then you should STFU.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you need a day out of the year to show love, then you're screwed. Real families and couples have things to do.

This is such a poor argument. Do you not celebrate Mother's Day? Father's Day? Birthdays? Mothers and fathers should be appreciated every day of the year blah blah but we all still choose to go above and beyond on that particular day because it's NICE. I feel sorry for anyone who can't fathom that we can love our partners daily but also choose to use the reminder of the calendar to show them in a different manner than usual.

I feel sorry for anyone who can't fathom that trite displays of affection/care just don't do it for everyone they way they might for you.

I HATE going out on mother's day. OMFG. I'd rather fast than go out for mother's day. Treat me kindly on a daily basis, and surprise me from time to time with things that show you actually GAF, not just because the calendar said so.

Please search all the posts on Mothers Day about the families who don't do sh*t for them and report back.

[Anonymous]

Wow so many people are so negative. Clearly the conversation has been had an unless a woman specifically says she doesn’t care about vday of course she does it’s not hard to put in some effort and it’s not an unreasonable expectation to have your partner show a little appreciation of you on special occassions. If it matters to you and you’ve expressed that it should damn well matter to him (if you matter to him) if that’s a boundary you can’t live with dump his ass because someone else will and you don’t have to be saddled with disappointment the rest of your life. Get out now it won’t change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Married 25 years. Exchanged cards. He gave me my favorite wine, some cheeses and chocolates from specialty shop. Teen boys gave me handwritten notes. We gave kids and the dog gift bags with favorite treats, dog a stuffie before they left for school. I made a steak dinner for everyone before kids had to leave for practice.

LOVE. Sweet. I think this is great.

[Anonymous]

Why does the husband have to do something for the wife? Wife can also plan a Valentine's Day, no?

- DW

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless there is some surprise coming later, which I strongly doubt, I am raising my hand.

Did he even acknowledge the day to you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you need a day out of the year to show love, then you're screwed. Real families and couples have things to do.

This is such a poor argument. Do you not celebrate Mother's Day? Father's Day? Birthdays? Mothers and fathers should be appreciated every day of the year blah blah but we all still choose to go above and beyond on that particular day because it's NICE. I feel sorry for anyone who can't fathom that we can love our partners daily but also choose to use the reminder of the calendar to show them in a different manner than usual.

I feel sorry for anyone who can't fathom that trite displays of affection/care just don't do it for everyone they way they might for you.

I HATE going out on mother's day. OMFG. I'd rather fast than go out for mother's day. Treat me kindly on a daily basis, and surprise me from time to time with things that show you actually GAF, not just because the calendar said so.

Please search all the posts on Mothers Day about the families who don't do sh*t for them and report back.

Nah. Most of the issue people have with Mothers Day is that there's 3 moms- Mom of little kids, dad's mom, and mom's mom. And the one who gets the least recognition is the mom of little kids.

I love Valentines day because there's so little I need to do for it. DH and I have a lovely dinner with our kids and give them chocolates. DH buys me flowers and I give him his favorite chocolate. Done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope for daily affection, kindness, and love. I never seek it on a calendar appointed day.

Grow up and stop wasting money & time.

I'm sad that you're too dumb to figure out that you can get flowers and chocolates ON valentines day AND ALSO throughout the entire year, every year. You can have BOTH in your life lol not just one or the other.