Mother of bride hosting bridal shower?

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Anonymous wrote:My DIL's mom and I co-hosted her shower at my house and I was happy to do it.

Of course you were happy to grab gifts for your son and DIL.

Most of the gifts were from the bride's young friends who just graduated from college or who are in grad school, which is why they didn't host. So, sorry to disappoint, but there was no "gift grab."

You can go STFU now.

Oh, it was a no-gifts shower? There was no registry? No gifts were accepted? Do tell.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is what you think about at 3am? Get a life.

Yes, my daughter had asked me to host her shower. It’s been awhile since I had been to one and immediately agreed. Ive mentioned it to a few people who seemed shocked, so trying to figure out if I’m committing a faux pas. Trust me, I have other issues as well, but this is the one on my mind tonight!

Yes you are committing a faux pas. The younger generations don’t care though. Don’t you have friends who could host or doesn’t she have friends who could host but you cover most of the expenses?

Agree, it's not good form.
I think you could subsidize a friend who wants to host but direct family hosting a shower smacks of family gift grubbing.
Everyone here says the opinion depends on your particular circle, which is a way of saying, if your circle is tacky and low-rent then this is acceptable.

We found the harpie.

As you can see, there are plenty of tacky, low-rent types on this board telling OP that this is no big deal.
Next, let's tell OP it's ok to instruct guests to BYOB.

OK, harpie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD is getting married and has opted out of a bridal shower or bachelorette party.

Her MOH and bridesmaids will be accompanying her for a spa day that we will pay for it. We will also pay for the bridesmaids dresses and jewelry for the wedding.

No one but both sets of parents. & the bride and the groom should be paying for the wedding. Certainly not the friends.

this is what I did.

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Anonymous wrote:In my circle, it’s becoming more common for the mothers to host bridal and baby showers. It used to be an aunt or cousin was the host, but maybe with people living far apart, it has been left to the mothers.

I also think the expense of them has made it more difficult for non-family to host.

Then . . . don't have one?

[Anonymous]

It's not ok.

I didn't have a shower because no one loved me enough to throw one. I would have never asked my mother to do it.

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Anonymous wrote:NONE of these “traditions” matter in the least.

There are no wedding etiquette rules, except those made up by uptight people.

Just do what you want.

And that's why it's fine to attend the wedding (or shower) and not send a gift, if that's what you want. Don't get hung up on other people's rules!

Exactly, it's customary to pay $250/pp as a cash gift? $500 for a couple? No. I don't even know you all or like you that much. I feel $100 from the two of us is generous enough.

I guess it’s all relative, but you should at least cover that cost of your meal. Or else don’t friggin go. How cheap and rude of you.

Host the party that YOU can afford to host. This isn't WDW - you aren't charging admission.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not ok.

I didn't have a shower because no one loved me enough to throw one. I would have never asked my mother to do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DIL's mom and I co-hosted her shower at my house and I was happy to do it.

Of course you were happy to grab gifts for your son and DIL.

Most of the gifts were from the bride's young friends who just graduated from college or who are in grad school, which is why they didn't host. So, sorry to disappoint, but there was no "gift grab."

You can go STFU now.

Oh, it was a no-gifts shower? There was no registry? No gifts were accepted? Do tell.

The gifts that weren't given by the bride's friends were given by family who would have given the couple gifts whether there was a shower or not.

So, once again, you can STFU and find some other perceived problem to ruminate over.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DIL's mom and I co-hosted her shower at my house and I was happy to do it.

Of course you were happy to grab gifts for your son and DIL.

Most of the gifts were from the bride's young friends who just graduated from college or who are in grad school, which is why they didn't host. So, sorry to disappoint, but there was no "gift grab."

You can go STFU now.

Oh, it was a no-gifts shower? There was no registry? No gifts were accepted? Do tell.

The gifts that weren't given by the bride's friends were given by family who would have given the couple gifts whether there was a shower or not.

So, once again, you can STFU and find some other perceived problem to ruminate over.

DP but did you at least acknowledge in some way that new grads or current students aren't always flush with cash? You probably could have bought those things yourselves as gifts rather than fleece the young friends. Hosting a party to extort them is pretty tacky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The boomers on this thread sure are boomering!

Really? Can’t tell what are the boomer views … I am close to boomer and could not care less who organizes the bridal shower as long as it is done in way that the bride and groom feel comfortable with.

DS’s wedding was beautiful and fun // so grateful DIL and her mom were low drama types … focus was on celebrating love with family and friends …

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:My DIL's mom and I co-hosted her shower at my house and I was happy to do it.

Of course you were happy to grab gifts for your son and DIL.

Most of the gifts were from the bride's young friends who just graduated from college or who are in grad school, which is why they didn't host. So, sorry to disappoint, but there was no "gift grab."

You can go STFU now.

Oh, it was a no-gifts shower? There was no registry? No gifts were accepted? Do tell.

The gifts that weren't given by the bride's friends were given by family who would have given the couple gifts whether there was a shower or not.

So, once again, you can STFU and find some other perceived problem to ruminate over.

So the bride’s friends gave gifts at a shower thrown by the family of the bride and the groom. Yes, yes, ruminating.