What to do with my sweet boyfriend

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" I want you to tie me up" should do it

If she has to ask, it is not as much fun.

Totally kills the thrill. Completely.

This exchange reminds me of the Louis C.K. bit where he talked about a woman who kept saying no but the next day she says “I just wanted you to go for it.” To which he responds, "you wanted me to RAPE you, on the off chance that you might be into that shit?"

Oh please. No I don’t want anyone to rape me. I want my partner to have enough skill and intelligence to test the waters and listen to my feedback and observe the way my body is responding.

It’s the same as the guys who as “may I kiss you” instead of using body language to figure it out.

If I have to tell you in explicit detail what to do with me, the interactivity is totally lost and I will get very bored.

That’s not to say we can’t discuss what we like and don’t like. But in the moment, don’t make me give you instructions like I’m a piece of IKEA furniture; this is not how you build tension and excitement.

As for Louis CK, he jokes a lot about raping little children so the fact you brought him up at all is 🤮.

If you have never had a tall hot man ask if he can kiss you, already knowing the answer, you are missing out on life.

I have. I preferred the one who leaned in without asking.

OP, if this is you, you sound impossible to deal with. Just communicate. Men cannot read your mind.

I can pick up on signals. But I mostly don't want to. I want a woman who can and will use her words. Letting me pick up on signals isn't charming or preserving some kind of intriguing mystery. It's off putting.

Tell me you don’t know much about seduction without telling me you don’t know much about seduction.

And to the P-PP, no that’s not OP, it’s a different poster (me).

If I have to draw it out for you, we're not a match, but for every pot, there’s a lid.

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Anonymous wrote:

" I want you to tie me up" should do it

If she has to ask, it is not as much fun.

Totally kills the thrill. Completely.

This exchange reminds me of the Louis C.K. bit where he talked about a woman who kept saying no but the next day she says “I just wanted you to go for it.” To which he responds, "you wanted me to RAPE you, on the off chance that you might be into that shit?"

Oh please. No I don’t want anyone to rape me. I want my partner to have enough skill and intelligence to test the waters and listen to my feedback and observe the way my body is responding.

It’s the same as the guys who as “may I kiss you” instead of using body language to figure it out.

If I have to tell you in explicit detail what to do with me, the interactivity is totally lost and I will get very bored.

That’s not to say we can’t discuss what we like and don’t like. But in the moment, don’t make me give you instructions like I’m a piece of IKEA furniture; this is not how you build tension and excitement.

As for Louis CK, he jokes a lot about raping little children so the fact you brought him up at all is 🤮.

If you have never had a tall hot man ask if he can kiss you, already knowing the answer, you are missing out on life.

I have. I preferred the one who leaned in without asking.

OP, if this is you, you sound impossible to deal with. Just communicate. Men cannot read your mind.

I can pick up on signals. But I mostly don't want to. I want a woman who can and will use her words. Letting me pick up on signals isn't charming or preserving some kind of intriguing mystery. It's off putting.

I’m using my words to tell you that you paying attention to my body and signals (including dirty talk in the moment) is what turns me on. I also pay attention in return so that sex is more like a hot dance, instead of a negotiation (yawn).

You sound a little lazy, no offense.

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I assume the couple is in their 20s

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

" I want you to tie me up" should do it

If she has to ask, it is not as much fun.

Totally kills the thrill. Completely.

This exchange reminds me of the Louis C.K. bit where he talked about a woman who kept saying no but the next day she says “I just wanted you to go for it.” To which he responds, "you wanted me to RAPE you, on the off chance that you might be into that shit?"

Oh please. No I don’t want anyone to rape me. I want my partner to have enough skill and intelligence to test the waters and listen to my feedback and observe the way my body is responding.

It’s the same as the guys who as “may I kiss you” instead of using body language to figure it out.

If I have to tell you in explicit detail what to do with me, the interactivity is totally lost and I will get very bored.

That’s not to say we can’t discuss what we like and don’t like. But in the moment, don’t make me give you instructions like I’m a piece of IKEA furniture; this is not how you build tension and excitement.

As for Louis CK, he jokes a lot about raping little children so the fact you brought him up at all is 🤮.

If you have never had a tall hot man ask if he can kiss you, already knowing the answer, you are missing out on life.

I have. I preferred the one who leaned in without asking.

OP, if this is you, you sound impossible to deal with. Just communicate. Men cannot read your mind.

I can pick up on signals. But I mostly don't want to. I want a woman who can and will use her words. Letting me pick up on signals isn't charming or preserving some kind of intriguing mystery. It's off putting.

I’m using my words to tell you that you paying attention to my body and signals (including dirty talk in the moment) is what turns me on. I also pay attention in return so that sex is more like a hot dance, instead of a negotiation (yawn).

You sound a little lazy, no offense.

Your dance metaphor is good. There are lots of women who aren't very good at flirting back. Romance, seduction, and all of that has a lot in common with improv - where you take your partner's premise and do the "yes, and..." technique. You go with whatever premise is offered, then add your own twist, hopefully elevating, amplifying, and turning the whole scene into something entertaining.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

" I want you to tie me up" should do it

If she has to ask, it is not as much fun.

Totally kills the thrill. Completely.

This exchange reminds me of the Louis C.K. bit where he talked about a woman who kept saying no but the next day she says “I just wanted you to go for it.” To which he responds, "you wanted me to RAPE you, on the off chance that you might be into that shit?"

Oh please. No I don’t want anyone to rape me. I want my partner to have enough skill and intelligence to test the waters and listen to my feedback and observe the way my body is responding.

It’s the same as the guys who as “may I kiss you” instead of using body language to figure it out.

If I have to tell you in explicit detail what to do with me, the interactivity is totally lost and I will get very bored.

That’s not to say we can’t discuss what we like and don’t like. But in the moment, don’t make me give you instructions like I’m a piece of IKEA furniture; this is not how you build tension and excitement.

As for Louis CK, he jokes a lot about raping little children so the fact you brought him up at all is 🤮.

If you have never had a tall hot man ask if he can kiss you, already knowing the answer, you are missing out on life.

I have. I preferred the one who leaned in without asking.

OP, if this is you, you sound impossible to deal with. Just communicate. Men cannot read your mind.

I can pick up on signals. But I mostly don't want to. I want a woman who can and will use her words. Letting me pick up on signals isn't charming or preserving some kind of intriguing mystery. It's off putting.

I’m using my words to tell you that you paying attention to my body and signals (including dirty talk in the moment) is what turns me on. I also pay attention in return so that sex is more like a hot dance, instead of a negotiation (yawn).

You sound a little lazy, no offense.

Your dance metaphor is good. There are lots of women who aren't very good at flirting back. Romance, seduction, and all of that has a lot in common with improv - where you take your partner's premise and do the "yes, and..." technique. You go with whatever premise is offered, then add your own twist, hopefully elevating, amplifying, and turning the whole scene into something entertaining.

PP here, exactly. (Lots of men aren’t very good at flirting either, if it’s any consolation…)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

" I want you to tie me up" should do it

If she has to ask, it is not as much fun.

Totally kills the thrill. Completely.

This exchange reminds me of the Louis C.K. bit where he talked about a woman who kept saying no but the next day she says “I just wanted you to go for it.” To which he responds, "you wanted me to RAPE you, on the off chance that you might be into that shit?"

Oh please. No I don’t want anyone to rape me. I want my partner to have enough skill and intelligence to test the waters and listen to my feedback and observe the way my body is responding.

It’s the same as the guys who as “may I kiss you” instead of using body language to figure it out.

If I have to tell you in explicit detail what to do with me, the interactivity is totally lost and I will get very bored.

That’s not to say we can’t discuss what we like and don’t like. But in the moment, don’t make me give you instructions like I’m a piece of IKEA furniture; this is not how you build tension and excitement.

As for Louis CK, he jokes a lot about raping little children so the fact you brought him up at all is 🤮.

If you have never had a tall hot man ask if he can kiss you, already knowing the answer, you are missing out on life.

I have. I preferred the one who leaned in without asking.

OP, if this is you, you sound impossible to deal with. Just communicate. Men cannot read your mind.

OP. It’s not me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

" I want you to tie me up" should do it

If she has to ask, it is not as much fun.

Totally kills the thrill. Completely.

This exchange reminds me of the Louis C.K. bit where he talked about a woman who kept saying no but the next day she says “I just wanted you to go for it.” To which he responds, "you wanted me to RAPE you, on the off chance that you might be into that shit?"

Oh please. No I don’t want anyone to rape me. I want my partner to have enough skill and intelligence to test the waters and listen to my feedback and observe the way my body is responding.

It’s the same as the guys who as “may I kiss you” instead of using body language to figure it out.

If I have to tell you in explicit detail what to do with me, the interactivity is totally lost and I will get very bored.

That’s not to say we can’t discuss what we like and don’t like. But in the moment, don’t make me give you instructions like I’m a piece of IKEA furniture; this is not how you build tension and excitement.

As for Louis CK, he jokes a lot about raping little children so the fact you brought him up at all is 🤮.

If you have never had a tall hot man ask if he can kiss you, already knowing the answer, you are missing out on life.

I have. I preferred the one who leaned in without asking.

OP, if this is you, you sound impossible to deal with. Just communicate. Men cannot read your mind.

OP. It’s not me.

That’s good, OP, so let’s go back to what you’d written earlier. We don’t need to know exactly what you want him to do, but do you know specifically enough that you could list things? Have you been clear about them with your boyfriend? He’s probably willing but clueless and won’t figure this out on his own, or won’t initiate anything without being told. I know what it’s like with an enthusiastic follower-type guy and the sex life is less electric but that’s what comes with the good aspects of his personality.