How do low energy people parent?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm introverted. We have a great nanny who handles a lot of the mental load. We have cleaning people come twice a week. DH is a very involved parent.

Be well off. Noted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm introverted. We have a great nanny who handles a lot of the mental load. We have cleaning people come twice a week. DH is a very involved parent.

Be well off. Noted.

She didn’t blow your mind

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm introverted. We have a great nanny who handles a lot of the mental load. We have cleaning people come twice a week. DH is a very involved parent.

Be well off. Noted.

If you're going to have three kids? Yes. That should be obvious.

[Anonymous]

Wut does introverted have to do with the price of low energy

[Anonymous]

Only one kid and not a super demanding job. Its all we could handle.

[Anonymous]

OP, come back and clarify why you do laundry every day. Basically everyone here thinks this is overkill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, come back and clarify why you do laundry every day. Basically everyone here thinks this is overkill.

Cause she has three kids!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, come back and clarify why you do laundry every day. Basically everyone here thinks this is overkill.

DP here. I only have 2 kids and I do 6 loads a week (a load for each person so I don't have to sort it, plus a load of towels and a load of sheets.) Now, I do it in a burst and not every day, but some people prefer one load per day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you have to do laundry everyday. With kids that young, unless they soiled themselves they can wear the same clothes 2 or even 3 times.

Even if they change clothing frequently, most kids have PLENTY of clothing to last for multiple days!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, come back and clarify why you do laundry every day. Basically everyone here thinks this is overkill.

Cause she has three kids!

My mom had four kids and her number one complaint was laundry, which she said was endless -- she just always felt behind no matter how much of it she did.

Years later when doing my own family planning, I absolutely remembered my mom talking about this and factored it in. And my mom was a SAHM, so if she found laundry endless, imagine what it would feel like if you also worked. But I just had one because it's like this with everything -- you drown in laundry, dishes, meal-prep, school obligations.

I will say one thing that makes a difference is that my mom did all my dad's laundry, and he was a contractor and most days he got dressed twice -- once for work sites and once for meetings, so it was just a ton of laundry. Plus she ironed all his work shirts, too. It was an insane amount of laundry for just one person, before she even got to kids and towels and sheets. It's no wonder it felt endless to her. I'm so glad that's not my life, that my DH does laundry too, and also that no one in our family is that high maintenance.

Women of prior generations had it pretty bad, folks. That doesn't mean the way women today struggle isn't real, but I think about what women used to be expected to do, whether they worked or not, whether they had help or not, and it's insane. There is not enough money in the world to make me willing to be a housewife from the last century. It was a bad gig.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, come back and clarify why you do laundry every day. Basically everyone here thinks this is overkill.

Cause she has three kids!

I have three kids and work FT and don’t do laundry every day. Never did, hope I never will. Most of my kids’ clothes are hand-me-downs or second hand; I make sure they have enough to last ~10 days each. DH does his own laundry and handles the towels.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, come back and clarify why you do laundry every day. Basically everyone here thinks this is overkill.

I do laundry every day because one of my kids is a bet wetter. But the clothes only get washed once a week. And honestly laundry takes minimal effort. Its not something that would add stress to my day one way or another.

[Anonymous]

I don't do laundry every day, but a lot of online organization/home management experts recommend it so its not like its some crazy idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, come back and clarify why you do laundry every day. Basically everyone here thinks this is overkill.

Cause she has three kids!

I have three kids and work FT and don’t do laundry every day. Never did, hope I never will. Most of my kids’ clothes are hand-me-downs or second hand; I make sure they have enough to last ~10 days each. DH does his own laundry and handles the towels.

I also have three kids and work FT and do laundry once or twice a week. I wash my stuff and kitchen linens. The 3 kids wash their clothes together (abt 4 loads) with a little help from me. I take out of the dryer and divide into their hampers so they can put them away easily. My husband washes his own clothes and we divide up washing our bed linens and the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, come back and clarify why you do laundry every day. Basically everyone here thinks this is overkill.

DP. I have two teens and do two loads of laundry every day. Between the sports and the outfit changes, there just is a lot of laundry.