Found a hotel notepad from a hotel we've never stayed at

[Anonymous]

OMG these hotel notepads are all over the place in offices where many people travel. No, a Fairmont is not too fancy for work to have paid for. If the notepad is the whole story even asking about this is slightly deranged-sounding.

[Anonymous]

There is no way in hell a man having an affair will take and use a notepad from that hotel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think men having affairs spring for high-end hotels for their dalliances. I would say expect more a Fairfield than Fairmont for that TBH

This is NOT true. I used to work at the Ritz Carlton.

My thoughts exactly. It’s all about the illusion and fantasy for both parties. Especially is the woman is really attractive. He needs to put her on a pedestal in order to cheat. It’s worth it in his mind because she’s so —- (fill in the superlative).

A fancy hotel feeds the ego. The Red Roof Inn says I’m a bad dirty guy who is into bad dirty women. If he’s not self loathing low budget won’t do. He and she must have the best.

But personally I’d let it go. Stick your head back in the sand for now. You have little kids to raise and that’s a tough to do alone when the kids are babies. They need your time and attention focus on them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First, Fairmont is not that high end of a hotel. Depending on the location, it is very average. If your husband travels a lot for work, he could very easily have gone there whether to spend the night or for a meeting.

Second, you either trust your husband or you don’t. I recently found a strange woman’s underwear in the laundry. I asked DH about it. He just looked confused about the question. I showed him and he shrugged. Then he asked our teen who looked equally puzzled. Then our other son said he found it on the side of the bed at a hotel and put it in the laundry bag thinking it was mine (mom’s). Mystery solved.

Omg. U buy that? Ha!

Seriously! When have you ever stayed in a hotel where a random pair of woman’s underwear was out on the dude if the bed ???? I’m 53 and travel extensively and never have had someone else’s clothing out —much less underwear on the side of the bed. I freak out if a pube is in the tub or toilet on check in. I’ve yet to find underwear, and the kid found it in the middle of a stay??? Very fishy

Obviously the kid, or one of his other brothers if over 14yrs old is up to hijinks in the family home. Make sure he’s using protection.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think men having affairs spring for high-end hotels for their dalliances. I would say expect more a Fairfield than Fairmont for that TBH

This is NOT true. I used to work at the Ritz Carlton.

My thoughts exactly. It’s all about the illusion and fantasy for both parties. Especially is the woman is really attractive. He needs to put her on a pedestal in order to cheat. It’s worth it in his mind because she’s so —- (fill in the superlative).

A fancy hotel feeds the ego. The Red Roof Inn says I’m a bad dirty guy who is into bad dirty women. If he’s not self loathing low budget won’t do. He and she must have the best.

But personally I’d let it go. Stick your head back in the sand for now. You have little kids to raise and that’s a tough to do alone when the kids are babies. They need your time and attention focus on them.

Quit flattering yourself-ha! A lot of men will only stay in the high end hotels to begin with. I also had the sage reaction ‘Fairmont?’ That’s not so fancy. My husband and I both talk about the hotels you never would want to take your shoes off in so he’d never go to a Motel 6, but he would schlump to a Marriott for a day hump- not for a vacation or overnight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My first thought is someone left them laying around the office or even put them in the supply cabinet. People in my office get rid of their junk like that all the time. Leave it in the break room, whatever.

My mind would not go to affair over a notepad.

+1

That used to happen at my old office too. And like PP, my mind would not go to an affair over a notepad. So, OP, there must be more to why you're so primed to jump to that thought. Dig deeper. Why did your mind go there immediately? Is it really just about a notepad? If it is, please, double down on talking to a professional about why that happened. I'm not being snarky, I'm being serious.

Got other issues re: fidelity and trust? The suspicion is more understandable. Just this one strange little trigger? Work on why you're suspicious without reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First, Fairmont is not that high end of a hotel. Depending on the location, it is very average. If your husband travels a lot for work, he could very easily have gone there whether to spend the night or for a meeting.

Second, you either trust your husband or you don’t. I recently found a strange woman’s underwear in the laundry. I asked DH about it. He just looked confused about the question. I showed him and he shrugged. Then he asked our teen who looked equally puzzled. Then our other son said he found it on the side of the bed at a hotel and put it in the laundry bag thinking it was mine (mom’s). Mystery solved.

Omg. U buy that? Ha!

Seriously! When have you ever stayed in a hotel where a random pair of woman’s underwear was out on the dude if the bed ???? I’m 53 and travel extensively and never have had someone else’s clothing out —much less underwear on the side of the bed. I freak out if a pube is in the tub or toilet on check in. I’ve yet to find underwear, and the kid found it in the middle of a stay??? Very fishy

I checked into a room and women’s underwear were made into the bed. A upper level hotel. I was with my wife, we checked in together and had a good laugh, then she went ballistic on the hotel manager, because that is just unsanitary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think men having affairs spring for high-end hotels for their dalliances. I would say expect more a Fairfield than Fairmont for that TBH

This is NOT true. I used to work at the Ritz Carlton.

My thoughts exactly. It’s all about the illusion and fantasy for both parties. Especially is the woman is really attractive. He needs to put her on a pedestal in order to cheat. It’s worth it in his mind because she’s so —- (fill in the superlative).

A fancy hotel feeds the ego. The Red Roof Inn says I’m a bad dirty guy who is into bad dirty women. If he’s not self loathing low budget won’t do. He and she must have the best.

But personally I’d let it go. Stick your head back in the sand for now. You have little kids to raise and that’s a tough to do alone when the kids are babies. They need your time and attention focus on them.

Quit flattering yourself-ha! A lot of men will only stay in the high end hotels to begin with. I also had the sage reaction ‘Fairmont?’ That’s not so fancy. My husband and I both talk about the hotels you never would want to take your shoes off in so he’d never go to a Motel 6, but he would schlump to a Marriott for a day hump- not for a vacation or overnight.

Your DH is too fancy to even stay at a Marriott? How UC are you exactly?

[Anonymous]

I never wasted $ on an AP. It was wham bam. When I take my wife for a getaway or family on vacation we stay at 5-star hotels or luxury Airbnbs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think men having affairs spring for high-end hotels for their dalliances. I would say expect more a Fairfield than Fairmont for that TBH

This is NOT true. I used to work at the Ritz Carlton.

My thoughts exactly. It’s all about the illusion and fantasy for both parties. Especially is the woman is really attractive. He needs to put her on a pedestal in order to cheat. It’s worth it in his mind because she’s so —- (fill in the superlative).

A fancy hotel feeds the ego. The Red Roof Inn says I’m a bad dirty guy who is into bad dirty women. If he’s not self loathing low budget won’t do. He and she must have the best.

But personally I’d let it go. Stick your head back in the sand for now. You have little kids to raise and that’s a tough to do alone when the kids are babies. They need your time and attention focus on them.

Quit flattering yourself-ha! A lot of men will only stay in the high end hotels to begin with. I also had the sage reaction ‘Fairmont?’ That’s not so fancy. My husband and I both talk about the hotels you never would want to take your shoes off in so he’d never go to a Motel 6, but he would schlump to a Marriott for a day hump- not for a vacation or overnight.

Your DH is too fancy to even stay at a Marriott? How UC are you exactly?

$500/night for a hotel isn't Elon Musk territory.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I’ve looked everywhere for this notepad and can’t find it. It’s gone.

I’m not gonna ask him about it without it so just taking a mental note I guess. Thanks for those responded.

For those asking, I would normally ask him as soon as I saw it but he was on a call so I was in and out. I came back to look it for it when he was finished so I could casually bring it up but it was gone.

Well obviously you can't make a written note.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never wasted $ on an AP. It was wham bam. When I take my wife for a getaway or family on vacation we stay at 5-star hotels or luxury Airbnbs.

You just wanted the sex, nothing more. If you actually wanted something more with the AP you would have done the opposite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never wasted $ on an AP. It was wham bam. When I take my wife for a getaway or family on vacation we stay at 5-star hotels or luxury Airbnbs.

You just wanted the sex, nothing more. If you actually wanted something more with the AP you would have done the opposite.

Duh

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never wasted $ on an AP. It was wham bam. When I take my wife for a getaway or family on vacation we stay at 5-star hotels or luxury Airbnbs.

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Both the frugality and the lavishness described here are pretty sick flexes. But I figure this PP won't comprehend why. I hope his wife is an ex-wife, if not already, then very soon. And that she gets pots and pots of money in the divorce. Since he saved so much by not spending on those APs.

[Anonymous]

Promo notepads dont usually have many pieces of paper on them. Sometimes only 5-10. Could DH have just used all of the paper and thrown the cardboard backing piece in the trash?