Husband didn’t come home

[Anonymous]

Why do people start threads and not come back? I guess it was a troll.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You all are way too naive. If he’s not in a hospital and the police haven’t arrested him, he went home with a coworker. Period. Grown man didn’t get kidnapped.

Seriously, who wants a grown man??

You're as naive as the PP to whom you're responding. Neither of you seems to have any street smarts. No one might want to kidnap a grown man, but there are people who would want his car, his wallet, his PIN number for the bank card, his phone, and he would only be an easily threatened, then easily removed, obstacle between them and those things.

You are easily excited, aren’t you?

Not excited. Just glad I'm not as oblivious as you and that other PP seem to be. Have fun getting mugged. You'll make an easy target.

Are you medicated for your paranoia? If not, please consult someone. You don’t have to live this way.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My theory is OP is writing a mystery and wanted to tee up the premise to see what ideas it might generate here.

I’m convinced that all the juiciest posts on this forum are just writers trolling us for material.

Pp here. I mean really - your husband goes missing and before you call the cops you post for advice on DCUM? No.

She said she called police stations in her OP. It’s not a missing person until 24 hours for an adult. So she is probably dealing with police now.

DCUM Makes sense. It’s a responsive community, posting on real social media kind of airs your dirty laundry which she may not be ready to do yet, yet she feels very alone and unsure what to do. I might do it. Then someone will say “check the whole house even the attic” — maybe he hit is head and is unconscious in the attic because he wanted to get something out of storage? He Uber home and is passed out on bushes because he lost his keys.

[Anonymous]

I literally posted on DCUM 3 hours after I found out my DH was having an affair in the middle of the night while we were on a family trip on the other side of the world. I needed someone to talk me off a cliff and given the time difference, DCUMers responded right away. I got some really, really kind and empathetic responses that I read several times. So yes, I can see OP coming here for advice that you don't want to necessarily ask friends and family about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I literally posted on DCUM 3 hours after I found out my DH was having an affair in the middle of the night while we were on a family trip on the other side of the world. I needed someone to talk me off a cliff and given the time difference, DCUMers responded right away. I got some really, really kind and empathetic responses that I read several times. So yes, I can see OP coming here for advice that you don't want to necessarily ask friends and family about.

We know, you talk about it all the time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I literally posted on DCUM 3 hours after I found out my DH was having an affair in the middle of the night while we were on a family trip on the other side of the world. I needed someone to talk me off a cliff and given the time difference, DCUMers responded right away. I got some really, really kind and empathetic responses that I read several times. So yes, I can see OP coming here for advice that you don't want to necessarily ask friends and family about.

We know, you talk about it all the time.

I want to know if PP is one prolific mean person or if there are many on these boards. Get a life…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My theory is OP is writing a mystery and wanted to tee up the premise to see what ideas it might generate here.

I’m convinced that all the juiciest posts on this forum are just writers trolling us for material.

Pp here. I mean really - your husband goes missing and before you call the cops you post for advice on DCUM? No.

She said she called police stations in her OP. It’s not a missing person until 24 hours for an adult. So she is probably dealing with police now.

DCUM Makes sense. It’s a responsive community, posting on real social media kind of airs your dirty laundry which she may not be ready to do yet, yet she feels very alone and unsure what to do. I might do it. Then someone will say “check the whole house even the attic” — maybe he hit is head and is unconscious in the attic because he wanted to get something out of storage? He Uber home and is passed out on bushes because he lost his keys.

The 24 hour thing is a myth.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am not OP but I have done this once — got too excited about meeting a bunch of people I work with daily who were in town for a conference, overdrank, crashed with a coworker, came home at 6am. Super embarrassing more than anything else, but my husband was (surprisingly) not bothered by it at all.

Were you responsible for taking your children to school in the morning?

Well, no (never promise early morning things with known late night drinking!). Though I would have arrived home in time anyways for that, but still I would say it was generally immature spousal behavior that I do intend not to repeat. Hopefully the same for OP’s DH.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I literally posted on DCUM 3 hours after I found out my DH was having an affair in the middle of the night while we were on a family trip on the other side of the world. I needed someone to talk me off a cliff and given the time difference, DCUMers responded right away. I got some really, really kind and empathetic responses that I read several times. So yes, I can see OP coming here for advice that you don't want to necessarily ask friends and family about.

We know, you talk about it all the time.

Eff off. I also post here when I have a crisis. There are not many ways to get anonymous support.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My theory is OP is writing a mystery and wanted to tee up the premise to see what ideas it might generate here.

I’m convinced that all the juiciest posts on this forum are just writers trolling us for material.

Pp here. I mean really - your husband goes missing and before you call the cops you post for advice on DCUM? No.

She said she called police stations in her OP. It’s not a missing person until 24 hours for an adult. So she is probably dealing with police now.

DCUM Makes sense. It’s a responsive community, posting on real social media kind of airs your dirty laundry which she may not be ready to do yet, yet she feels very alone and unsure what to do. I might do it. Then someone will say “check the whole house even the attic” — maybe he hit is head and is unconscious in the attic because he wanted to get something out of storage? He Uber home and is passed out on bushes because he lost his keys.

The 24 hour thing is a myth.

Yeah the police will ignore you for way longer than 24 hours

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do people start threads and not come back? I guess it was a troll.

They're embarrassed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I literally posted on DCUM 3 hours after I found out my DH was having an affair in the middle of the night while we were on a family trip on the other side of the world. I needed someone to talk me off a cliff and given the time difference, DCUMers responded right away. I got some really, really kind and empathetic responses that I read several times. So yes, I can see OP coming here for advice that you don't want to necessarily ask friends and family about.

We know, you talk about it all the time.

DP. You should move along. I recognize your unhappiness causes you to lash out but you need to learn to edit yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My theory is OP is writing a mystery and wanted to tee up the premise to see what ideas it might generate here.

I’m convinced that all the juiciest posts on this forum are just writers trolling us for material.

Pp here. I mean really - your husband goes missing and before you call the cops you post for advice on DCUM? No.

She said she called police stations in her OP. It’s not a missing person until 24 hours for an adult. So she is probably dealing with police now.

DCUM Makes sense. It’s a responsive community, posting on real social media kind of airs your dirty laundry which she may not be ready to do yet, yet she feels very alone and unsure what to do. I might do it. Then someone will say “check the whole house even the attic” — maybe he hit is head and is unconscious in the attic because he wanted to get something out of storage? He Uber home and is passed out on bushes because he lost his keys.

The 24 hour thing is a myth.

Yeah the police will ignore you for way longer than 24 hours

True. Sadly I knew someone who committed suicide at home (lived alone). Police completely ignored her friend who was worried, and even when her family got involved, it was 5 days before they agreed to get her super to unlock the door.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I literally posted on DCUM 3 hours after I found out my DH was having an affair in the middle of the night while we were on a family trip on the other side of the world. I needed someone to talk me off a cliff and given the time difference, DCUMers responded right away. I got some really, really kind and empathetic responses that I read several times. So yes, I can see OP coming here for advice that you don't want to necessarily ask friends and family about.

We know, you talk about it all the time.

DP. You should move along. I recognize your unhappiness causes you to lash out but you need to learn to edit yourself.

I’ve actually never posted about that specific poster. She’s just all over the place. We get itttt…

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why do people start threads and not come back? I guess it was a troll.

They're embarrassed

No, they're not.