Husband didn’t come home

[Anonymous]

Call his work, identify who was with him. Don’t delay. Getting kids to school is secondary.

[Anonymous]

Regarding the car OP. When you call Police to report him missing they can check the tow log to see if car was towed. You don’t need to go calling different tow companies. We do this all the time when people call us to report their car stolen and it was actually repossessed or towed.
Good luck ( 911 dispatcher)

[Anonymous]

Any word, OP? Please update. i am thinking about you and your family.

[Anonymous]

I don't think police will jump on a missing adult with no evidence in under 1 day. You can report, but have to wait, or push a "missing/stole car" angle and risk trouble from that.

Talk to work and coworkers, and ask the restaurant if anyone there has info.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately the DC police will likely think your husband is having an affair.

If you have any chance of pushing past their default of doing as little as possible you need to be very assertive and direct that he is not having an affair, this is unprecedented, etc etc. they still probably won’t do much but run tags, see who was booked last night, and do their own check of hospitals.

You could try a private investigator if the police give you the uninterested vibe… depends on means.

Well…he might be.

[Anonymous]

It's possible he got too drunk and someone took him to their home near the restaurant to avoid the long drive to his home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's possible he got too drunk and someone took him to their home near the restaurant to avoid the long drive to his home.

I usually put coworkers in Ubers in this situation. I don’t take them to my house.

[Anonymous]

Any history at all of substance/alcohol abuse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately the DC police will likely think your husband is having an affair.

If you have any chance of pushing past their default of doing as little as possible you need to be very assertive and direct that he is not having an affair, this is unprecedented, etc etc. they still probably won’t do much but run tags, see who was booked last night, and do their own check of hospitals.

You could try a private investigator if the police give you the uninterested vibe… depends on means.

Well…he might be.

Unfortunately this was my first thought.

[Anonymous]

Doesn't Life 360 tracking work even if the phone is turned off?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is not like him. He takes the kids to school every morning. It’s 6am and he still isn’t home. I will go by the restaurant after i drop the kids this morning. However it is downtown so I imagine the car could be towed if it was parked on the street overnight

Then there’s another thing to do, AFTER you call the police: someone (maybe not you: can you delegate?) should call all the companies that tow from the area around the restaurant to find out if a car with his plates is there.

Again, though:

1. Call the police. Now. Don’t delay.
2. Get your kids to school — or, if there is anyone you can call right now to ask to take them for you, do that.
3. Call or visit his office.

Nearly 9 a.m. now and hoping that OP has located her DH and he's OK, but if she hasn't locatd him: Adding to the list above, if you feel you must leave the house, get someone to come there immediately if you can. You want someone to be at your house if possible, in case he shows up or the police come to the door.

I agree with others above that going to the restaurant is a waste of time; you'd be cruising the DC streets at rmorning rush hour trying to spot a parked car, who knows where. Ask the cops about tow logs instead as someone noted. Thinking of you, OP. Hoping you don't reply because you're with him somewhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Doesn't Life 360 tracking work even if the phone is turned off?

yes but it’s an app. If you don’t have that app not much you can do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately the DC police will likely think your husband is having an affair.

If you have any chance of pushing past their default of doing as little as possible you need to be very assertive and direct that he is not having an affair, this is unprecedented, etc etc. they still probably won’t do much but run tags, see who was booked last night, and do their own check of hospitals.

You could try a private investigator if the police give you the uninterested vibe… depends on means.

Well…he might be.

Unfortunately this was my first thought.

Folks, please, let's not derail this into yet another DCUM affair thread. This is an immediate and urgent situation and OP has already said how extremely out of character this is. Please take her at her word on that right now, and just leave the speculation alone. Our 'first thoughts" about anything (other than how she might locate him) are not helpful in any way at this moment.

[Anonymous]

Call the police wherever you are located. They will ask for a lot of information so be prepared with the following:

- what was he wearing when you last saw him
- where was the last place you had actual knowledge of him being
- what were his plans - where did you expect him to go after that
- what are the names and phone numbers of the people you expected him to be with. If you don’t know because this was a work event, what is a contact for who would know or who could get that information
- when did you expect to see him
- vehicle information - make, model, tag, VIN, title
- names and phone numbers of all friends
- where is the next place or places you expect him to be
- how is his mental health
- any possibility he has an affair partner and what is that information

This is just a start. Also hospitals won’t necessarily tell you if someone is there. So don’t believe that you got good information.

I just had to do this a week ago and this is everything I remember. I hope this ends well for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately the DC police will likely think your husband is having an affair.

If you have any chance of pushing past their default of doing as little as possible you need to be very assertive and direct that he is not having an affair, this is unprecedented, etc etc. they still probably won’t do much but run tags, see who was booked last night, and do their own check of hospitals.

You could try a private investigator if the police give you the uninterested vibe… depends on means.

Well…he might be.

Even if so, it would be extremely weird not to send an excuse text. Just ghosting his family with no prior history is super weird.

I'd be reaching out to his coworkers.