My fantasy life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I live with my sweet DH and three beautiful children in a little house that is kind of small, but cozy and clean. I work part-time at a job I love, pick up my children from school and go to pool, playground or arboretum with them. On Saturday mornings we walk to our neighborhood bakery to pick up fresh bread, and they eat warm rolls on the way back. We read books at home and snuggle before bed. My DH cooks dinner and after the kids go to sleep, we watch Netflix but only about 10 minutes because he insists on pausing it every 30 seconds to tell me something (about the show, about his day, about something he read). We go to bed early and everything is calm. That’s my life and I think it’s better than any fantasy I could have!

Kudos to you with your attitude of gratitude! Here’s hoping your three kids inherit it from their mom!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I live in a cabin on a lake. Someplace remote, maybe in Maine or Alaska, or Canada. We have a Cessna 180 on floats that we use to get into town once every few weeks to socialize and stock up on supplies. We have a few friends around the lake, and kayak over to each other's house every now and then for a game of pinochle or an afternoon quilting together.

I keep a large vegetable garden, and spend most of August and September canning and "putting up for the winter". We hunt and fish. We keep chickens and bake our own bread. We have a couple spare rooms, or maybe a guest cabin, so friends or family can come stay with us for a few days. Our kids bring their kids to come learn to fish and kayak on the lake. We fly our 180 to even more remote lakes where we can hike up into the mountains and camp out. The stars are incredible.

Alaska poster from page 2. I love the idea of having a float plane! I’m adding that (and the lake!) to my fantasy. 😆

PP here. Maybe we'll be lake neighbors . Kayaking and cards on Thursday??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I live in a cabin on a lake. Someplace remote, maybe in Maine or Alaska, or Canada. We have a Cessna 180 on floats that we use to get into town once every few weeks to socialize and stock up on supplies. We have a few friends around the lake, and kayak over to each other's house every now and then for a game of pinochle or an afternoon quilting together.

I keep a large vegetable garden, and spend most of August and September canning and "putting up for the winter". We hunt and fish. We keep chickens and bake our own bread. We have a couple spare rooms, or maybe a guest cabin, so friends or family can come stay with us for a few days. Our kids bring their kids to come learn to fish and kayak on the lake. We fly our 180 to even more remote lakes where we can hike up into the mountains and camp out. The stars are incredible.

Alaska poster from page 2. I love the idea of having a float plane! I’m adding that (and the lake!) to my fantasy. 😆

PP here. Maybe we'll be lake neighbors . Kayaking and cards on Thursday??

Absolutely! We can take turns hosting. I’m sure we both have nice outdoor spaces for the summer and we can make an ice road over the lake for snowshoes/dog sled/skidoo in winter.

[Anonymous]

My fantasy life involves having houses in multiple locations and traveling between them. I have my same kids but my nanny lives with us. I don’t need to work but I am involved in politics. I can eat whatever I want and am in great health and have time every day to do different exercise. In my fantasy life I never have to blow dry my hair or unload the dishwasher, ever. Or put sheets on the bed. Oh and I have a dog that looks like a woolly ball.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, mine is simple. I raised my daughter on my own for many years while finishing my PhD, and securing a tenure-track position, not not to mention looking after her father developed a severe mental illness after her birth. He had so many issues, including infedelity and abuse. I have never had a real partner, and I prioritized my daughter’s well-being over dating and meeting someone new. She is off to college now. My fantasy is that I will meet a kind man, who is funny and smart, and I will feel a deep connection with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, mine is simple. I raised my daughter on my own for many years while finishing my PhD, and securing a tenure-track position, not not to mention looking after her father developed a severe mental illness after her birth. He had so many issues, including infedelity and abuse. I have never had a real partner, and I prioritized my daughter’s well-being over dating and meeting someone new. She is off to college now. My fantasy is that I will meet a kind man, who is funny and smart, and I will feel a deep connection with him.

I hope you achieve your fantasy PP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, mine is simple. I raised my daughter on my own for many years while finishing my PhD, and securing a tenure-track position, not not to mention looking after her father developed a severe mental illness after her birth. He had so many issues, including infedelity and abuse. I have never had a real partner, and I prioritized my daughter’s well-being over dating and meeting someone new. She is off to college now. My fantasy is that I will meet a kind man, who is funny and smart, and I will feel a deep connection with him.

Putting it out into the universe for you pp- you deserve it!

[Anonymous]

In my fantasy, my spouse and I live in a 200 year old building in Rasiglia in the Italian hills. Each morning we walk past the streams to the local café-bar. We sit there with our laptops and do our fully remote jobs interspersed with DCUM postings. The day progresses from espresso to Prosecco to limoncello to grappa. The sun-dappled little piazza is the perfect place to greet our friends as they pass by or come to the bar, and we’ll strike up conversations with the tourists who stop in for a bite. I keep up with my French, Italian, German, Spanish, and Dutch so I can chat with almost everyone. Every day I feel rested and fulfilled and tell myself I’ll focus on work more tomorrow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I live with my sweet DH and three beautiful children in a little house that is kind of small, but cozy and clean. I work part-time at a job I love, pick up my children from school and go to pool, playground or arboretum with them. On Saturday mornings we walk to our neighborhood bakery to pick up fresh bread, and they eat warm rolls on the way back. We read books at home and snuggle before bed. My DH cooks dinner and after the kids go to sleep, we watch Netflix but only about 10 minutes because he insists on pausing it every 30 seconds to tell me something (about the show, about his day, about something he read). We go to bed early and everything is calm. That’s my life and I think it’s better than any fantasy I could have!

Kudos to you with your attitude of gratitude! Here’s hoping your three kids inherit it from their mom!

+1

That was always my fantasy, too........It was literally all I've ever wanted from life. Sadly, nothing worked that way, except maybe I had a few years of bliss when my kids were younger, but minus the husband part because my real life husband was always miserable and wouldn't do anything about it. It made all of our lives miserable after a while. But I hope someone somewhere is leading this exact life because it is truly the only kind of life I ever wanted. I dreamt about having a life like that when I was a kid.

[Anonymous]

My currently miserable midlife-crisis-move-out-ask-for-divorce/wait-I-want-you-back-I’ll-do-anything situation is amicably resolved and we are on friendly terms.

My now middle schoolers are happily adjusted in college and don’t really need me much.

I have plenty of money to pay their tuition and fly over and check on them/attend events/help when wanted.

I work my current job which I love but which is emotionally draining so I only work 3 days a week.

I live in a city apartment with a balcony where I can walk to amazing coffee, butcher, bakery, yoga, gym, and walk through beautiful architecture—and walk to the water or up big hills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, mine is simple. I raised my daughter on my own for many years while finishing my PhD, and securing a tenure-track position, not not to mention looking after her father developed a severe mental illness after her birth. He had so many issues, including infedelity and abuse. I have never had a real partner, and I prioritized my daughter’s well-being over dating and meeting someone new. She is off to college now. My fantasy is that I will meet a kind man, who is funny and smart, and I will feel a deep connection with him.

Putting it out into the universe for you pp- you deserve it!

Thank you to the two peeps that said they are putting out there to the universe for me. I really appreciate it.

I will add a collection of Louis Louboutin shoes and Agent Provocateur lingerie since I will be dating again, and summer holidays in Sweden to spend time with my relatives there

[Anonymous]

I have a villa on Bali with an infinity pool, a view of the jungle, and a personal chef, housekeeper, and massage therapist. I have great friends nearby and love going to wonderful restaurants and the beaches and taking in the wonderfully welcoming culture with gratitude.

I split the year in Edinburgh, Scotland, where I spend summers. I explore the highlands, castles and the fringe festival and all the historical landmarks.

[Anonymous]

In my fantasy work, I am healthy. I have a nice home, not working and I don't have to pay any bills, and have free meals anywhere I go.
I spend my time volunteering, gardening, hanging out with non dysfunctional family and friends (only happy ones) and they agree to go and do whatever. And also the weather is always nice.
And also, in my fantasy world, my kids are perfect and they don't require me to manage or teach them anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a villa on Bali with an infinity pool, a view of the jungle, and a personal chef, housekeeper, and massage therapist. I have great friends nearby and love going to wonderful restaurants and the beaches and taking in the wonderfully welcoming culture with gratitude.

I split the year in Edinburgh, Scotland, where I spend summers. I explore the highlands, castles and the fringe festival and all the historical landmarks.

I love the eclectic nature of your dual locations, PP! Tropical paradise and bracing gray-stone European city. Satisifies two very different sides of a person, I agree. see you at the fantasy Fringe Festival!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my fantasy life, I live on the upper west side in NYC in a beautiful apartment. I have a green velvet couch and my place is full of plants. I have a huge terrace. I'm a curator at the Met, but I only work 30 hours a week. I have a trust fund. My lover is a gorgeous architect. We go out to eat twice a week and then make love for hours. He gets bagels and coffee the next morning and then leaves. I have a housekeeper but no pets or children.

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This sounds like an episode of Sex and the City.