Do you care what other parents look like?

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t care what other parents look like, but more because I don’t try very hard to be friends with them. I’m a fat mom with a big job. I don’t hang with the SAHMs that do Pilates and play tennis, because I have nothing in common with them. They talk about their jewelry making business and vacations. They make cookies with each team members name in icing. I have no interest in this at all. They are all fit and pretty, but I can’t stand being with them for any period of time.

My kids play sports and I tend to hang with the dads. My job is more in line with theirs and I know more than most moms about sports.

Yiiikes this is so cringey. Big “NoT LiKe OtHeR gIrLs” energy 😬

Right? I have a “smart” job but I would rather hang out with the crafty moms then this fat b posting above

[Anonymous]

Trollllll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have one friend who is obese. All my other friends have normal bodies. A couple are very pretty. All my friends say I am always the prettiest and have all said so multiple times.

All my moms friends are slim though I am not sure they are all beautiful. My obese friend is an old friend from grad school. I love her and she is one of the few people I can really be myself with. She was not always this big and multiple health issues have brought about a large weight gain. I don’t think she cares at all that I am pretty and fit.

Adult women talk about who in their friend group is the prettiest? Lmao

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a fat mom whose kids are at private school, we're aware why you don't hang out with us.

Why is the type of school relevant?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Reality is majority of people gravitate to those like them, whether that is looks, interest, economic status, etc…

People who are fit, pretty, and put together of course are drawn to others like them. Implicit bias or intentional.

And yes the good looking people in this world get better treatment, more respect, and noticed more in life, work, etc.

That’s life and if you don’t think so, you are in denial.

It’s certainly human nature and we can all do better in recognizing and resisting that bias. Unless you think it’s ok to judge people by their looks and/or how much like ourselves others might be?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I don’t believe your DH said this. You sound shallow.

He absolutely did say this and I was offended that it seemed like he was saying I was shallow. Then he said everyone does this and consciously or subconsciously is drawn to more physically attractive people.

The conversation started because we went to a party and I saw a mom I have known for years. We have many friends in common but we were never friends. DH said I probably don’t like her because she is ugly. I thought Dh was shallow and offended he thought that way of me.

Maybe the truth hurt you a little?

[Anonymous]

I am thin and white and I've noticed the other thin white moms at our school approach me a lot. Like if I'm at a BTS night and there are 10 families in the room, and 5 are POC and 3 are bigger people, the one other thin, white woman will come sit at my table. I do think it's implicit bias and I am sure I do it too, but because I've noticed it in others I try to make a conscious choice NOT to do this.

But I'm not really friends with other parents at our school. As others have pointed out, those friendships can get complicated quickly and I don't want it to impact my kid. So I keep it cordial but don't socialize. My friend group is pretty diverse, including in body size, and is drawn mostly from friends from grad school and the years after. Many of us are mons now, but that's not how we became friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I don’t believe your DH said this. You sound shallow.

He absolutely did say this and I was offended that it seemed like he was saying I was shallow. Then he said everyone does this and consciously or subconsciously is drawn to more physically attractive people.

The conversation started because we went to a party and I saw a mom I have known for years. We have many friends in common but we were never friends. DH said I probably don’t like her because she is ugly. I thought Dh was shallow and offended he thought that way of me.

Maybe the truth hurt you a little?

So her DH is the one who called the woman ugly, then told her it was OK not to like ugly people because everyone does this.

Who talks like this in real life? Where did you meet this prick, OP?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As a fat mom whose kids are at private school, we're aware why you don't hang out with us.

Why is the type of school relevant?

If you don't know rich moms are skinnier, prettier, and better dressed, I don't know what to tell you.

[Anonymous]

Being obese is a sign of a mental health problem; be it (food)addiction, depression, anxiety, something else. Something is not right. That isn’t to say thin and pretty people don’t have these struggles- they just aren’t obvious by appearance. That itself is a barrier to friendship

[Anonymous]

My friends are all fit and attractive. More so than me at this point, honestly. But that is because I like very active people and active events and workouts are a part of my social life. Keeps people fit and good looking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a fat mom whose kids are at private school, we're aware why you don't hang out with us.

Why is the type of school relevant?

If you don't know rich moms are skinnier, prettier, and better dressed, I don't know what to tell you.

Lots of rich families are in public school. Ever hear of Langley? McLean? Oakton? Yorktown?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being obese is a sign of a mental health problem; be it (food)addiction, depression, anxiety, something else. Something is not right. That isn’t to say thin and pretty people don’t have these struggles- they just aren’t obvious by appearance. That itself is a barrier to friendship

Now all fat people are crazy. Never change DCUM

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a fat mom whose kids are at private school, we're aware why you don't hang out with us.

Why is the type of school relevant?

If you don't know rich moms are skinnier, prettier, and better dressed, I don't know what to tell you.

Yep, lots more of those in private

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a fat mom whose kids are at private school, we're aware why you don't hang out with us.

Why is the type of school relevant?

If you don't know rich moms are skinnier, prettier, and better dressed, I don't know what to tell you.

Yep, lots more of those in private

Much more important to be rich. You can be fat, just don’t be anything less than rich.