Do you care what other parents look like?

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Anonymous wrote:As a fat mom whose kids are at private school, we're aware why you don't hang out with us.

Why is the type of school relevant?

If you don't know rich moms are skinnier, prettier, and better dressed, I don't know what to tell you.

Yep, lots more of those in private

Much more important to be rich. You can be fat, just don’t be anything less than rich.

At my school the rich moms are top of the heap whether fat or not. I'm thin and poor and I get a lot of compliments from them about being cute but they don't invite me into their clique.

+1 it's your $$$$ not your commitment to anorexia.

we are rich and try to hide it nowadays because we dont like that crowd. btdt with so much drama and fake butt kissing. other rich people are exhausting.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. The pta president is skinny and blonde. The Girl Scouts troop leader is skinny and blonde. Dance moms are the same. So are the tennis moms. If it matters, I am not blonde.

pta leadership positions attract people who don't have full time jobs or demanding home situations (caring for littles or elderly parents or both), and people who don't have those kinds of commitments also have lots of time to exercise. when your free time is limited and precious, you tend to prioritize other things. i don't judge people who look "basic" and out of shape even though the have the money to look better because i don't know what else is going on in their life. you are too closed minded for your own good. there is so much more to life than a flat stomach and shiny hair.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. The pta president is skinny and blonde. The Girl Scouts troop leader is skinny and blonde. Dance moms are the same. So are the tennis moms. If it matters, I am not blonde.

Lots of obese dance and gymnastics moms- sort of like pageant moms. More so than any other sport IMO

My daughter does ballet and all the girls and moms are thin or average weight.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. The pta president is skinny and blonde. The Girl Scouts troop leader is skinny and blonde. Dance moms are the same. So are the tennis moms. If it matters, I am not blonde.

pta leadership positions attract people who don't have full time jobs or demanding home situations (caring for littles or elderly parents or both), and people who don't have those kinds of commitments also have lots of time to exercise. when your free time is limited and precious, you tend to prioritize other things. i don't judge people who look "basic" and out of shape even though the have the money to look better because i don't know what else is going on in their life. you are too closed minded for your own good. there is so much more to life than a flat stomach and shiny hair.

Our last pta president was a lawyer. The one before her was pretty but not thin. Current PTA is a working mom.

At our last school, the entire pta board worked including every single pta president. The only one mom who didn’t work was a military mom with a special needs child.

Working moms usually have better hair than SAHMs. We live in an affluent neighborhood. There just aren’t many fat people. You are in the minority if you are fat. Working moms also not fat.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. The pta president is skinny and blonde. The Girl Scouts troop leader is skinny and blonde. Dance moms are the same. So are the tennis moms. If it matters, I am not blonde.

pta leadership positions attract people who don't have full time jobs or demanding home situations (caring for littles or elderly parents or both), and people who don't have those kinds of commitments also have lots of time to exercise. when your free time is limited and precious, you tend to prioritize other things. i don't judge people who look "basic" and out of shape even though the have the money to look better because i don't know what else is going on in their life. you are too closed minded for your own good. there is so much more to life than a flat stomach and shiny hair.

Our last pta president was a lawyer. The one before her was pretty but not thin. Current PTA is a working mom.

At our last school, the entire pta board worked including every single pta president. The only one mom who didn’t work was a military mom with a special needs child.

Working moms usually have better hair than SAHMs. We live in an affluent neighborhood. There just aren’t many fat people. You are in the minority if you are fat. Working moms also not fat.

our current pta leadership is made up of women in their late 30s-late 40s who have part time jobs or work from home and no young kids. it has always been people like that, occasionally there is a work from home old-dad in the mix. i'm surprised (and a little skeptical) to hear of a pta whose leadership is all people with tons of more important things on their plate. maybe your school's pta doesn't do much.

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Anonymous wrote:op is trolly trollinda mctrollface. first get a husband. then have kids then troll a parenting forum.

Agree, and not even a good one.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. The pta president is skinny and blonde. The Girl Scouts troop leader is skinny and blonde. Dance moms are the same. So are the tennis moms. If it matters, I am not blonde.

pta leadership positions attract people who don't have full time jobs or demanding home situations (caring for littles or elderly parents or both), and people who don't have those kinds of commitments also have lots of time to exercise. when your free time is limited and precious, you tend to prioritize other things. i don't judge people who look "basic" and out of shape even though the have the money to look better because i don't know what else is going on in their life. you are too closed minded for your own good. there is so much more to life than a flat stomach and shiny hair.

Our last pta president was a lawyer. The one before her was pretty but not thin. Current PTA is a working mom.

At our last school, the entire pta board worked including every single pta president. The only one mom who didn’t work was a military mom with a special needs child.

Working moms usually have better hair than SAHMs. We live in an affluent neighborhood. There just aren’t many fat people. You are in the minority if you are fat. Working moms also not fat.

our current pta leadership is made up of women in their late 30s-late 40s who have part time jobs or work from home and no young kids. it has always been people like that, occasionally there is a work from home old-dad in the mix. i'm surprised (and a little skeptical) to hear of a pta whose leadership is all people with tons of more important things on their plate. maybe your school's pta doesn't do much.

NP, maybe you don’t live in the right area PP. At our school, all the involved moms worked and many with high power jobs.

Some people are very good at multi-tasking, time management, and getting stuff done. That’s how they rose up to management/leadership, and higher level.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. The pta president is skinny and blonde. The Girl Scouts troop leader is skinny and blonde. Dance moms are the same. So are the tennis moms. If it matters, I am not blonde.

pta leadership positions attract people who don't have full time jobs or demanding home situations (caring for littles or elderly parents or both), and people who don't have those kinds of commitments also have lots of time to exercise. when your free time is limited and precious, you tend to prioritize other things. i don't judge people who look "basic" and out of shape even though the have the money to look better because i don't know what else is going on in their life. you are too closed minded for your own good. there is so much more to life than a flat stomach and shiny hair.

Our last pta president was a lawyer. The one before her was pretty but not thin. Current PTA is a working mom.

At our last school, the entire pta board worked including every single pta president. The only one mom who didn’t work was a military mom with a special needs child.

Working moms usually have better hair than SAHMs. We live in an affluent neighborhood. There just aren’t many fat people. You are in the minority if you are fat. Working moms also not fat.

our current pta leadership is made up of women in their late 30s-late 40s who have part time jobs or work from home and no young kids. it has always been people like that, occasionally there is a work from home old-dad in the mix. i'm surprised (and a little skeptical) to hear of a pta whose leadership is all people with tons of more important things on their plate. maybe your school's pta doesn't do much.

Why would you make such a blanket statement? Can’t you fathom that different areas are comprised of different demographics?

We moved from a mixed SES to a high SES neighborhood. We have a very active PTA full of working moms, SAHMs, work from home, PT, business owners, etc. I have friends in areas where no one steps up and have no PTA or skeleton PTA. Our PTA has 40-50 very involved parents with positions.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. The pta president is skinny and blonde. The Girl Scouts troop leader is skinny and blonde. Dance moms are the same. So are the tennis moms. If it matters, I am not blonde.

pta leadership positions attract people who don't have full time jobs or demanding home situations (caring for littles or elderly parents or both), and people who don't have those kinds of commitments also have lots of time to exercise. when your free time is limited and precious, you tend to prioritize other things. i don't judge people who look "basic" and out of shape even though the have the money to look better because i don't know what else is going on in their life. you are too closed minded for your own good. there is so much more to life than a flat stomach and shiny hair.

Our last pta president was a lawyer. The one before her was pretty but not thin. Current PTA is a working mom.

At our last school, the entire pta board worked including every single pta president. The only one mom who didn’t work was a military mom with a special needs child.

Working moms usually have better hair than SAHMs. We live in an affluent neighborhood. There just aren’t many fat people. You are in the minority if you are fat. Working moms also not fat.

our current pta leadership is made up of women in their late 30s-late 40s who have part time jobs or work from home and no young kids. it has always been people like that, occasionally there is a work from home old-dad in the mix. i'm surprised (and a little skeptical) to hear of a pta whose leadership is all people with tons of more important things on their plate. maybe your school's pta doesn't do much.

NP, maybe you don’t live in the right area PP. At our school, all the involved moms worked and many with high power jobs.

Some people are very good at multi-tasking, time management, and getting stuff done. That’s how they rose up to management/leadership, and higher level.

Our pta is full of go getters whether they work or not. I became friends with one pta board member. She had a very senior position and 3 kids. I remember how she would send out pta emails at midnight. She volunteered and attended all the school events. Another mom I assumed was a SAHM. I was surprised she was a lawyer. One pta mom was the most organized person ever, also a lawyer. She doesn’t waste time and just gets things done.

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Fat mom who just moved to a new neighborhood last year. I am invisible but it’s ok because I already have friends.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t care what other parents look like, but more because I don’t try very hard to be friends with them. I’m a fat mom with a big job. I don’t hang with the SAHMs that do Pilates and play tennis, because I have nothing in common with them. They talk about their jewelry making business and vacations. They make cookies with each team members name in icing. I have no interest in this at all. They are all fit and pretty, but I can’t stand being with them for any period of time.

My kids play sports and I tend to hang with the dads. My job is more in line with theirs and I know more than most moms about sports.

Yiiikes this is so cringey. Big “NoT LiKe OtHeR gIrLs” energy 😬

Not really. I’m a thin mom with no job and those women scare me too.

Except " big job" mom is not admitting they scare her. She is talking big and trying to sound tough in oder to hide her insecurities and ignorance. Big " small penis" energy. It's a good thing she hangs out with the guys. She is one of them.

I used to have a big job. DH has a bigger job. I ended up staying home. I have friends who are killing it in the corporate world, are SAHMs and everything in between. I am not crafty. I hate cooking. I appreciate the moms who do this well. They are a mix of both working and stay at homes. I throw good parties and host lots of play dates.

I’m not sure that being overweight and having a big career are related at all. There are the super moms who have big jobs and they are often very well put together, more put together than the athleisure moms I hang out with.

+1.

There are female law firm partners who are very much into cooking and pilates.

This. I'm an AUSA and I put a lot of effort into my appearance.

I'm also a mediocre cook at best, my house is always messy, and I'm not crafty. I'm terrible at planning parties and kid events. I also don't care what my mom friends look like or whether they work or SAH. Anyone who is kind and has a good sense of humor is welcome in my circle. Life is too short to judge people by their shoes.

This. I don’t assume the Botox women are vapid and they don’t assume I’m lazy because I’m 20lb more than I was when I was 20.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. The pta president is skinny and blonde. The Girl Scouts troop leader is skinny and blonde. Dance moms are the same. So are the tennis moms. If it matters, I am not blonde.

Lots of obese dance and gymnastics moms- sort of like pageant moms. More so than any other sport IMO

My daughter does ballet and all the girls and moms are thin or average weight.

Not the case in competitive dance

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t care what other parents look like, but more because I don’t try very hard to be friends with them. I’m a fat mom with a big job. I don’t hang with the SAHMs that do Pilates and play tennis, because I have nothing in common with them. They talk about their jewelry making business and vacations. They make cookies with each team members name in icing. I have no interest in this at all. They are all fit and pretty, but I can’t stand being with them for any period of time.

My kids play sports and I tend to hang with the dads. My job is more in line with theirs and I know more than most moms about sports.

Yiiikes this is so cringey. Big “NoT LiKe OtHeR gIrLs” energy 😬

Not really. I’m a thin mom with no job and those women scare me too.

Except " big job" mom is not admitting they scare her. She is talking big and trying to sound tough in oder to hide her insecurities and ignorance. Big " small penis" energy. It's a good thing she hangs out with the guys. She is one of them.

I used to have a big job. DH has a bigger job. I ended up staying home. I have friends who are killing it in the corporate world, are SAHMs and everything in between. I am not crafty. I hate cooking. I appreciate the moms who do this well. They are a mix of both working and stay at homes. I throw good parties and host lots of play dates.

I’m not sure that being overweight and having a big career are related at all. There are the super moms who have big jobs and they are often very well put together, more put together than the athleisure moms I hang out with.

+1.

There are female law firm partners who are very much into cooking and pilates.

This. I'm an AUSA and I put a lot of effort into my appearance.

I'm also a mediocre cook at best, my house is always messy, and I'm not crafty. I'm terrible at planning parties and kid events. I also don't care what my mom friends look like or whether they work or SAH. Anyone who is kind and has a good sense of humor is welcome in my circle. Life is too short to judge people by their shoes.

This. I don’t assume the Botox women are vapid and they don’t assume I’m lazy because I’m 20lb more than I was when I was 20.

Would they if you were 60 lbs more?

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Anonymous wrote:As a fat mom whose kids are at private school, we're aware why you don't hang out with us.

Why is the type of school relevant?

If you don't know rich moms are skinnier, prettier, and better dressed, I don't know what to tell you.

Yep, lots more of those in private

Much more important to be rich. You can be fat, just don’t be anything less than rich.

At my school the rich moms are top of the heap whether fat or not. I'm thin and poor and I get a lot of compliments from them about being cute but they don't invite me into their clique.

OP here. I thought about it since I posted. I guess I don’t actively seek out fat or ugly women to be friends with. I am naturally thin and we are rich. I absolutely don’t exclude anyone based on looks. I am very friendly with moms of all different backgrounds.

I am active in my PTA. When we first came to the school, I thought everyone was super fit and blonde and cliquey. The PTA changes every year. The president is once again skinny and blonde but she is so nice and I am friends with her and now part of the group I once thought was cliquey. It isn’t like we hang out. We just do school stuff together. Our kids are in different grades. The same parents are the ones who do pta, scouts and sports. We overlap.

This is a joke, right?

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. The pta president is skinny and blonde. The Girl Scouts troop leader is skinny and blonde. Dance moms are the same. So are the tennis moms. If it matters, I am not blonde.

Lots of obese dance and gymnastics moms- sort of like pageant moms. More so than any other sport IMO

My daughter does ballet and all the girls and moms are thin or average weight.

Not the case in competitive dance

Yep. My brother was an elite athlete, and my mom actually gained a ton of weight once he got really good. Less sleep, crappy food on the road, less time to exercise yourself, etc. It's pretty common.