Roomie wants to discuss decorating?

[Anonymous]

Yes. My kid’s school (the students on the campus environmental committee) has requested that students bring as little as possible and also to forgo the use of foam toppers.

[Anonymous]

Headboard seems stupid to me - if the roommate wants one great - if your daughter wants one great - but if she isn't into it just say "I'm not getting one" and move on. My daughter had the cutest space that was quite different from her roommates and it was fine - they don't have to match.

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Anonymous wrote:My rising college sophomore is texting her apartment roommate right now about how to decorate their new place. Yes, it is a thing. I don't know why this is a problem for you, OP. Feeling a loss of control? Let your daughter dream and look forward to things!

Sure. And people have budgets. Many kids in my state school were either on scholarship or took out loans. You are also a dolt

Wow. Talk about dolts. You've never heard of thrift shops? Goodwill? Dollar Stores? Wal-Mart? Grow up.
DP

You can get matching twin headboards at Goodwill?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. My kid’s school (the students on the campus environmental committee) has requested that students bring as little as possible and also to forgo the use of foam toppers.

Has your kid slept on the mattresses yet?
I am also opposed to waste, but those mattresses are terrible. Cut the headboard but keep the topper. Also, you can reuse the toppers or pass them along to younger sib or friend. At one of my kids’ schools someone collected used toppers and made them into dog beds for shelters. I thought that was brilliant. My kids kept them in their apartments and sometimes when a friend slept over they used it as a mattress on the floor and covered it with a blanket.

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Anonymous wrote:Is the roommate from the south? I am, and judging from my Facebook feed, some southern moms and their daughters get very into having a coordinated room decor. It’s seems over the top to me personally but to each her own.

Has your daughter already shopped for her things?

It’s fine not to get a headboard. I would be pleasant and coordinate a but by let roommate know you are only planning on bringing x, y, and a. Maybe let the roommate take the lead on deciding colors if your daughter doesn’t care and doesn’t have her stuff yet.

Well all of the DMV is in the South..., but it is not just a southern thing. I've had one at UMD and one at Boston College. Both coordinated decorations. All of these dorm room decorations and furniture (like headboards) are super cheap now. It is not like when we were in school.

The DC area is not the South.

-Southerner

DC is definitely NOT the south. People only started saying y'all here in an attempt to be woke in the last few years. Is it Yankee land? Not...but not Southern. People would have to become a heck of a lot more talkative and dress a lot better!

- Southerner from the real South

Of course it is.
DP

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. My kid’s school (the students on the campus environmental committee) has requested that students bring as little as possible and also to forgo the use of foam toppers.

That would be a request I ignore. You absolutely need a mattress topper. Unless you like sleeping on the ground. My kids are pretty minimalist about their rooms but that was the one thing they absolutely needed.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. My kid’s school (the students on the campus environmental committee) has requested that students bring as little as possible and also to forgo the use of foam toppers.

Has your kid slept on the mattresses yet?
I am also opposed to waste, but those mattresses are terrible. Cut the headboard but keep the topper. Also, you can reuse the toppers or pass them along to younger sib or friend. At one of my kids’ schools someone collected used toppers and made them into dog beds for shelters. I thought that was brilliant. My kids kept them in their apartments and sometimes when a friend slept over they used it as a mattress on the floor and covered it with a blanket.

DD reluctantly bought a foam topper for her 8 week internship staying in a dorm. She just could not sleep on the mattress and it was a new lovely dorm otherwise.

[Anonymous]

I would just see this as a good reason for them to be in touch, hopefully get to know each other and bond a little prior to the start of school which are all good things.

Specifically to the headboard, I think they are common in dorm rooms as there is limited seating and it makes it easier to sit in bed and lean against something versus the wall. Don’t overreact—her roomie wanting to coordinate and work together is a great thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of you have weird feelings about headboards. Who knew something random like that that would set off such a reaction!?! I haven't posted at all in this thread. I am simply a mom marveling at how adamantly opposed some of you are to something that seems so normal.

The question is which is a bigger DCUM deal, freshman roommate asking about headboards OR displaying family photos on hallway wall in the house?

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Anonymous wrote:Ugh. Giving control freak vibes, privately. To your DD, try to be enrhusiastic and see this as an opportunity for both self expression and get to know roomate better before school starts.

+1 Yes, afraid this may be a control freak too. I showed my DD some nice pillows I found that can be put on the bed like a headboard sort of..but not. You just lean up against it or put it on the wall for a comfortable sitting area on your bed. Roommate said "well, we need to find out where the beds are placed first!" Seemed like she was really taking charge and I have the most mild mannered DD. So, yes, I am afraid of a control freak roommate and pray this won't be the case for DD's first semester.

As I said, don't want to get off on the wrong foot or be seen as a kill joy. Idea to coordinate colors is a good one.

Honestly, I never thought of this way back when. AS long as my roommate was clean and decent and not scr$wing someone in my room everynight, things were great by me.

You are way too invested in your daughters college roommates decor choices. Let your daughter handle this.

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Anonymous wrote:It's been a thing for many, many years. Just googled dorm decorating and you'll see features.

There's a whole website for it called Dormify.

https://www.dormify.com/

...and it's ridiculous.

I think the roomie is spending too much time on the net!

On the net? Great Aunt Doris is that you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pretty common for girls and honestly... how much could this cost? Cheap headboard, some posters, some knick knacks from target...

My neighbor said she spent over $1000 decorating her DD's dorm room last year. That's a lot of money IMO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. My kid’s school (the students on the campus environmental committee) has requested that students bring as little as possible and also to forgo the use of foam toppers.

Well, too bad. If they want to upgrade the disgusting mattresses, that's one thing. But since no school is going to do this, foam toppers it is.

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Anonymous wrote:My rising college sophomore is texting her apartment roommate right now about how to decorate their new place. Yes, it is a thing. I don't know why this is a problem for you, OP. Feeling a loss of control? Let your daughter dream and look forward to things!

Sure. And people have budgets. Many kids in my state school were either on scholarship or took out loans. You are also a dolt

Wow. Talk about dolts. You've never heard of thrift shops? Goodwill? Dollar Stores? Wal-Mart? Grow up.
DP

You can get matching twin headboards at Goodwill?

Is that all you can fixate on? Are you aware of all the other things one can find at the above places? No one has to get a matching headboard if they choose not to.

[Anonymous]

I don't even have a headboard on my bed and it's a twin bed too. Thank God I have a boy who was surprised that I asked him what he was going to bring to school. He said "I'll just bring my stuff from home." He doesn't care that his comforter will be too small. I did buy him a set of XL sheets but other than that, he's good to go.