Was I married to a stranger? Even socialites get ghosted. Modern Love!

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Anonymous wrote:This article had everything. Vineyard house. Weight loss. Blueberry bushes. Revenge, served cold in the New York Times. I f$&ing loved it.

Haha me too-could eat this up with a knife and fork!

Yep. Basically a Hildebrand novel setup.

. I am thinking miniseries on Netflix with Reese Witherspoon. Photogenic shots of Martha’s Vineyard. Who are we casting as the philandering husband?.

One of the Chrises (Evans or Pine) or Paul Rudd.

I see him more as a Paul Bettany or Aaron Ekhart or Billy Crudup or Viggo Mortensen. Somebody who can play like 15% psychopath.

Featuring Keifer Sutherland as the blueberry bushes.

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Anonymous wrote:This article had everything. Vineyard house. Weight loss. Blueberry bushes. Revenge, served cold in the New York Times. I f$&ing loved it.

Haha me too-could eat this up with a knife and fork!

Yep. Basically a Hildebrand novel setup.

. I am thinking miniseries on Netflix with Reese Witherspoon. Photogenic shots of Martha’s Vineyard. Who are we casting as the philandering husband?.

One of the Chrises (Evans or Pine) or Paul Rudd.

I see him more as a Paul Bettany or Aaron Ekhart or Billy Crudup or Viggo Mortensen. Somebody who can play like 15% psychopath.

Featuring Keifer Sutherland as the blueberry bushes.

Alexander Skarsgard….he does a-hole well: big little lies and succession.

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Anonymous wrote:The humble brag about losing 20 lbs was annoying
Yeah, I don't feel so sorry for her. She'll be fine, he was probably an ass anyway.

Not a humblebrag. She notes that she decided to stop drinking after she found out, given it just made her sadder. When I decided to give up my daily 1-3 glasses of wine, I dropped 19 pounds the first month. Went from 154 to 135 (I’m 5’5” and 57) and then a few more pounds over the next few weeks. I discovered my own husband’s three affairs stretching back seven years 95 days into sobriety and while I lost a few more pounds (and I could not keep food down, or - ah - in). Could be the alcohol reduction contributed vastly to the weight loss. In my case I’m so glad I had stopped drinking three months before I found out. I was in a much better place emotionally as I wasn’t using alcohol to mask depression, and my antidepressant finally had a chance to work effectively. And my mind was much sharper and ready to take on this massive issue and nuclear meltdown of my marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:This article had everything. Vineyard house. Weight loss. Blueberry bushes. Revenge, served cold in the New York Times. I f$&ing loved it.

Haha me too-could eat this up with a knife and fork!

Yep. Basically a Hildebrand novel setup.

. I am thinking miniseries on Netflix with Reese Witherspoon. Photogenic shots of Martha’s Vineyard. Who are we casting as the philandering husband?.

One of the Chrises (Evans or Pine) or Paul Rudd.

I see him more as a Paul Bettany or Aaron Ekhart or Billy Crudup or Viggo Mortensen. Somebody who can play like 15% psychopath.

Featuring Keifer Sutherland as the blueberry bushes.

I think Crudup is perfect.

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Timing is everything. Why post now? More interested in learning that.

The kids would be 15 and 18 now? I'd understand it if they were both legal adults but when they are minors- why make what your DH did worse by making it (more) public fodder? The youngest will now have to deal with her classmates KNOWING her dad is a dick- not just hearing whispers of it.

My biggest takeaway is that she is lucky that wealth provides the greatest therapy. I mean this in that you have time to literally do nothing...not panic and struggle to pay bills during pandemic, or once spouse has left... or both.

What she went through was hard but damn, it could have been harder. I hope she creates a non-profit/donates a sh!tload of money to women's groups and shelters that provide tuition/job training, so that economic constraints are not a barrier to women claiming the life they want if they are left in the lurch. She could even name the non-profit after her ex, with a giant photo of him and this article in the foyer of the office for all to read.

PS if we make this into a movie and do a Hollywood ending rewrite, Paul Rudd can play the other woman's DH who calls to spill the beans... and as they meet in person and care 'n' share over the details/pulling it all together/comparing notes and processing what went wrong, they engage in various high jinks, grow closer, and end up consummating their love by shagging the blueberry bushes flat into the ground. In a shocking return to the cinema, Kevin Spacey can play the ex husband.

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Anonymous wrote:The humble brag about losing 20 lbs was annoying
Yeah, I don't feel so sorry for her. She'll be fine, he was probably an ass anyway.

Not a humblebrag. She notes that she decided to stop drinking after she found out, given it just made her sadder. When I decided to give up my daily 1-3 glasses of wine, I dropped 19 pounds the first month. Went from 154 to 135 (I’m 5’5” and 57) and then a few more pounds over the next few weeks. I discovered my own husband’s three affairs stretching back seven years 95 days into sobriety and while I lost a few more pounds (and I could not keep food down, or - ah - in). Could be the alcohol reduction contributed vastly to the weight loss. In my case I’m so glad I had stopped drinking three months before I found out. I was in a much better place emotionally as I wasn’t using alcohol to mask depression, and my antidepressant finally had a chance to work effectively. And my mind was much sharper and ready to take on this massive issue and nuclear meltdown of my marriage.

I’m one of those posters. Nope. I wasn’t a drinker. My was adrenaline, anxiety, stress inability to sleep or eat. My metabolism speeds up like crazy under very stressful times. In 2 weeks of affair discovery I couldn’t fit into my size 2-4 clothes they were hanging off of me.

I also became skeletal when my dad was battling terminal cancer.

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Anonymous wrote:Timing is everything. Why post now? More interested in learning that.

The kids would be 15 and 18 now? I'd understand it if they were both legal adults but when they are minors- why make what your DH did worse by making it (more) public fodder? The youngest will now have to deal with her classmates KNOWING her dad is a dick- not just hearing whispers of it.

My biggest takeaway is that she is lucky that wealth provides the greatest therapy. I mean this in that you have time to literally do nothing...not panic and struggle to pay bills during pandemic, or once spouse has left... or both.

What she went through was hard but damn, it could have been harder. I hope she creates a non-profit/donates a sh!tload of money to women's groups and shelters that provide tuition/job training, so that economic constraints are not a barrier to women claiming the life they want if they are left in the lurch. She could even name the non-profit after her ex, with a giant photo of him and this article in the foyer of the office for all to read.

PS if we make this into a movie and do a Hollywood ending rewrite, Paul Rudd can play the other woman's DH who calls to spill the beans... and as they meet in person and care 'n' share over the details/pulling it all together/comparing notes and processing what went wrong, they engage in various high jinks, grow closer, and end up consummating their love by shagging the blueberry bushes flat into the ground. In a shocking return to the cinema, Kevin Spacey can play the ex husband.

In those social circles, all the kids’ friends already knew. Trust me.

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Anonymous wrote:I am so curious about the author’s motivation for publishing this. She is so connected that I would have thought she would rather keep things private.

Why? Why should the world not know that her husband is a complete piece of S#!%? And that his family are too?

I think her kids are old enough that they should have had a say in whether she published this, but the idea that she should have kept it to herself is asking her to accept blame/feel shame for something her husband did.

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Anonymous wrote:This article had everything. Vineyard house. Weight loss. Blueberry bushes. Revenge, served cold in the New York Times. I f$&ing loved it.

+1.

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Anonymous wrote:This article had everything. Vineyard house. Weight loss. Blueberry bushes. Revenge, served cold in the New York Times. I f$&ing loved it.

Haha me too-could eat this up with a knife and fork!

Yep. Basically a Hildebrand novel setup.

. I am thinking miniseries on Netflix with Reese Witherspoon. Photogenic shots of Martha’s Vineyard. Who are we casting as the philandering husband?.

One of the Chrises (Evans or Pine) or Paul Rudd.

I see him more as a Paul Bettany or Aaron Ekhart or Billy Crudup or Viggo Mortensen. Somebody who can play like 15% psychopath.

Featuring Keifer Sutherland as the blueberry bushes.

Alexander Skarsgard….he does a-hole well: big little lies and succession.

Yeah, but you need someone you think can be good to start with. Casting Skarsgard gives it away. Ryan Gosling or one of the Chrises. Crudup is not aging well and I think Bettany and Viggo are both a little old for the role.

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Anonymous wrote:This article had everything. Vineyard house. Weight loss. Blueberry bushes. Revenge, served cold in the New York Times. I f$&ing loved it.

+1.

It's written like a 90s Vogue article--sly but not so sly causual hints at luxury--not saying this is bad, but not very original

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Anonymous wrote:Alright I went a little deep on the Davis family. Found the brother's? wedding announcement in the NYT (2002). And I think these white people jumped a broom at their wedding and said it was 100 year old tradition??? The pics are hard to make out, but I think they are all white. What the what??

Please link it!

https://www.nytimes.com/2002/09/22/style/weddings-celebrations-vows-bridget-elias-and-townsend-davis.html

You political junkies might find that page interesting because of another wedding writeup on it: Apple Lord and Michael Sussman. That's right, the same Michael Sussman that was prosecuted and acquitted by John Durham in relation to the Crossfire Hurricane stuff from the 2016 election/Trump administration.

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Anonymous wrote:I am so curious about the author’s motivation for publishing this. She is so connected that I would have thought she would rather keep things private.

Why? Why should the world not know that her husband is a complete piece of S#!%? And that his family are too?

I think her kids are old enough that they should have had a say in whether she published this, but the idea that she should have kept it to herself is asking her to accept blame/feel shame for something her husband did.

Um, it's a little something called discretion? Plenty of us have been treated badly by others in big ways, but didn't feel the need to air our dirty laundry. It's pettiness.

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Anonymous wrote:I am so curious about the author’s motivation for publishing this. She is so connected that I would have thought she would rather keep things private.

Why? Why should the world not know that her husband is a complete piece of S#!%? And that his family are too?

I think her kids are old enough that they should have had a say in whether she published this, but the idea that she should have kept it to herself is asking her to accept blame/feel shame for something her husband did.

Um, it's a little something called discretion? Plenty of us have been treated badly by others in big ways, but didn't feel the need to air our dirty laundry. It's pettiness.

Meh. Hubs figured he could abruptly walk out on his family, play hardball on the dicvorce, and live the high life with OW while everyone else politely keeps quiet. It didn't work out.

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Maybe earlier in their divorce she clung to the hope that he would be an engaged parent. Now that being a good Dad is clearly not his intention, she is out for revenge. I personally would find this element the most infuriating- cheating is bad enough, but ignoring their children is like taking an eraser to the chalkboard of this woman’s life.
And let’s face it: this story is only a fun, gossipy read because she is so wealthy and connected. We secretly long for a little comeuppance and to be reminded that no one gets a pain exemption in life.