Was I married to a stranger? Even socialites get ghosted. Modern Love!

[Anonymous]

Can someone unlock this article on their wedding announcement in NYT in 1999?
https://www.nytimes.com/1999/06/06/style/belle-burden-and-henry-davis.html

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Timing is everything. Why post now? More interested in learning that.

The kids would be 15 and 18 now? I'd understand it if they were both legal adults but when they are minors- why make what your DH did worse by making it (more) public fodder? The youngest will now have to deal with her classmates KNOWING her dad is a dick- not just hearing whispers of it.

My biggest takeaway is that she is lucky that wealth provides the greatest therapy. I mean this in that you have time to literally do nothing...not panic and struggle to pay bills during pandemic, or once spouse has left... or both.

What she went through was hard but damn, it could have been harder. I hope she creates a non-profit/donates a sh!tload of money to women's groups and shelters that provide tuition/job training, so that economic constraints are not a barrier to women claiming the life they want if they are left in the lurch. She could even name the non-profit after her ex, with a giant photo of him and this article in the foyer of the office for all to read.

PS if we make this into a movie and do a Hollywood ending rewrite, Paul Rudd can play the other woman's DH who calls to spill the beans... and as they meet in person and care 'n' share over the details/pulling it all together/comparing notes and processing what went wrong, they engage in various high jinks, grow closer, and end up consummating their love by shagging the blueberry bushes flat into the ground. In a shocking return to the cinema, Kevin Spacey can play the ex husband.

DP. I don’t know that making it public is any worse than just the basics of their dad working to not share custody.

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Anonymous wrote:I am so curious about the author’s motivation for publishing this. She is so connected that I would have thought she would rather keep things private.

Way too googleable. Hard to believe there’s no revenge motive, since she portrays herself as pure as the driven snow. (And she lost 20 pounds of excess mom weight — yippie). Perhaps she thinks she is innocent of vengefulness because she goes easy on him. But really his reputation has been sullied. Which I am sure she is more than fine with.

The easiest way to protect your reputation is not to do this type of stuff to begin with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The MV house is worth $4.7m apparently, on top of her multi-million dollar NYC apartment. She's a descendant of the Vanderbilt family. And just to keep it current, the Daily Mail notes that she's a Harvard alum whose family has donated a building and lots of $$. Doesn't make her husband less of a jerk, but the story is a bit less compelling when you realize she is an uber-wealthy socialite.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-12252243/NYC-lawyer-shares-anguish-husband-20-years-left-woman-pandemic.html

Eh. Disagree. My takeaway was he saw her as an opportunity to move up in the world, as a senior associate probably already knew he wasn’t making partner, and he likely never loved her. Then because of the pandemic he just pulled the plug on the whole farce since he didn’t want to be stuck in the house with her and the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am so curious about the author’s motivation for publishing this. She is so connected that I would have thought she would rather keep things private.

Way too googleable. Hard to believe there’s no revenge motive, since she portrays herself as pure as the driven snow. (And she lost 20 pounds of excess mom weight — yippie). Perhaps she thinks she is innocent of vengefulness because she goes easy on him. But really his reputation has been sullied. Which I am sure she is more than fine with.

The easiest way to protect your reputation is not to do this type of stuff to begin with.

+1 You are what you are. You are what you do. Live your life in a way that it won't matter what's shared with others.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This article had everything. Vineyard house. Weight loss. Blueberry bushes. Revenge, served cold in the New York Times. I f$&ing loved it.

Haha me too-could eat this up with a knife and fork!

Yep. Basically a Hildebrand novel setup.

Yes!! And the mystery would be to untangle the WHY!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can someone unlock this article on their wedding announcement in NYT in 1999?
https://www.nytimes.com/1999/06/06/style/belle-burden-and-henry-davis.html

Here you go:

https://www.nytimes.com/1999/06/06/style/belle-burden-and-henry-davis.html?unlocked_article_code=701kbDBD0mxSNsFVgHkh3-IvjgPM6EywCsIbyTg4wOd3y-7p1HSxQFd86xQxYmWNcybZKIcvh3Q6MeimnOfW2GCvKW7fWRacCM9nRjqYS-pguIIZCXT0rZHkoDrviBNNDFUQ2g4D98oiiOYVCt61rlOZemIjcEg3tF9tqixh5rbBg6qPGG1MjWw2nbcZjJTiDd1TJSu1cHFTbfxzvNgAbIZzvL0b1jTMjrorLn5zzVJ-ds75UuZJ_3uOjFgdExB3NktRK5HrMUlh2_MHHZFMpF5uT-GKHqk67LhYrah-vLX2SXp3-WKOZUg2_qjdjZoPFi7ZSgnmpEpYhRYjLRso0FHU_g&smid=url-share

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The MV house is worth $4.7m apparently, on top of her multi-million dollar NYC apartment. She's a descendant of the Vanderbilt family. And just to keep it current, the Daily Mail notes that she's a Harvard alum whose family has donated a building and lots of $$. Doesn't make her husband less of a jerk, but the story is a bit less compelling when you realize she is an uber-wealthy socialite.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-12252243/NYC-lawyer-shares-anguish-husband-20-years-left-woman-pandemic.html

Eh. Disagree. My takeaway was he saw her as an opportunity to move up in the world, as a senior associate probably already knew he wasn’t making partner, and he likely never loved her. Then because of the pandemic he just pulled the plug on the whole farce since he didn’t want to be stuck in the house with her and the kids.

20 years is an awfully long time for a farce.

[Anonymous]

It’s fascinating. Would love to have insight into his mind.
Would love to know what intimacy was like between them leading up to his exit. Many times you hear everything has fine, and there is truly no warning. Hard to imagine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s fascinating. Would love to have insight into his mind.
Would love to know what intimacy was like between them leading up to his exit. Many times you hear everything has fine, and there is truly no warning. Hard to imagine.

It’s not that complicated. Men are very simple.

His wife was like preoccupied, vapid and entitled. He met someone attractive and a joy to be with. Then Covid hit and he couldn’t see her anymore. He was stuck inside a mansion with a woman he couldn’t stand. He wanted to get away from her so badly that he even left the kids. The end.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s fascinating. Would love to have insight into his mind.
Would love to know what intimacy was like between them leading up to his exit. Many times you hear everything has fine, and there is truly no warning. Hard to imagine.

It’s not that complicated. Men are very simple.

His wife was like preoccupied, vapid and entitled. He met someone attractive and a joy to be with. Then Covid hit and he couldn’t see her anymore. He was stuck inside a mansion with a woman he couldn’t stand. He wanted to get away from her so badly that he even left the kids. The end.

Oh I see. It was the wife’s fault. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can someone unlock this article on their wedding announcement in NYT in 1999?
https://www.nytimes.com/1999/06/06/style/belle-burden-and-henry-davis.html

Here you go:

https://www.nytimes.com/1999/06/06/style/belle-burden-and-henry-davis.html?unlocked_article_code=701kbDBD0mxSNsFVgHkh3-IvjgPM6EywCsIbyTg4wOd3y-7p1HSxQFd86xQxYmWNcybZKIcvh3Q6MeimnOfW2GCvKW7fWRacCM9nRjqYS-pguIIZCXT0rZHkoDrviBNNDFUQ2g4D98oiiOYVCt61rlOZemIjcEg3tF9tqixh5rbBg6qPGG1MjWw2nbcZjJTiDd1TJSu1cHFTbfxzvNgAbIZzvL0b1jTMjrorLn5zzVJ-ds75UuZJ_3uOjFgdExB3NktRK5HrMUlh2_MHHZFMpF5uT-GKHqk67LhYrah-vLX2SXp3-WKOZUg2_qjdjZoPFi7ZSgnmpEpYhRYjLRso0FHU_g&smid=url-share

Thanks! It's like they've come full circle.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s fascinating. Would love to have insight into his mind.
Would love to know what intimacy was like between them leading up to his exit. Many times you hear everything has fine, and there is truly no warning. Hard to imagine.

It’s not that complicated. Men are very simple.

His wife was like preoccupied, vapid and entitled. He met someone attractive and a joy to be with. Then Covid hit and he couldn’t see her anymore. He was stuck inside a mansion with a woman he couldn’t stand. He wanted to get away from her so badly that he even left the kids. The end.

Oh I see. It was the wife’s fault. Thank you.

probably so? If he was crazy and the type to leave a 20 year old marriage for no reason, then there would have been plenty of signs he was a terrible person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s fascinating. Would love to have insight into his mind.
Would love to know what intimacy was like between them leading up to his exit. Many times you hear everything has fine, and there is truly no warning. Hard to imagine.

It’s not that complicated. Men are very simple.

His wife was like preoccupied, vapid and entitled. He met someone attractive and a joy to be with. Then Covid hit and he couldn’t see her anymore. He was stuck inside a mansion with a woman he couldn’t stand. He wanted to get away from her so badly that he even left the kids. The end.

Oh I see. It was the wife’s fault. Thank you.

probably so? If he was crazy and the type to leave a 20 year old marriage for no reason, then there would have been plenty of signs he was a terrible person.

I think he finally realized her name was FLOBELLE and got the hell out of there. WTH were her parents thinking?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s fascinating. Would love to have insight into his mind.
Would love to know what intimacy was like between them leading up to his exit. Many times you hear everything has fine, and there is truly no warning. Hard to imagine.

It’s not that complicated. Men are very simple.

His wife was like preoccupied, vapid and entitled. He met someone attractive and a joy to be with. Then Covid hit and he couldn’t see her anymore. He was stuck inside a mansion with a woman he couldn’t stand. He wanted to get away from her so badly that he even left the kids. The end.

Oh I see. It was the wife’s fault. Thank you.

Completely disagree about it being the wife's fault (we don't know these people...) but the rest of the above seems completely right. He was sick of his life for whatever reason but having that affair made it manageable for him to stick it out and continue to charade. Once he could no longer see AP, he imploded.