Do you find it alluring if a man orders for you at a restaurant?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess those who don't like it also don't like a man who opens the door for you.

Opening a door is not a gendered role. It's common courtesy. I appreciate anyone who opens a door for me. I also do my share of opening doors for others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess those who don't like it also don't like a man who opens the door for you.

Correct. If you want to help do something useful that’s actually annoying and hard to do. Like regrout my shower competently.

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[Anonymous]

I once dated a woman who said she wanted me to order for her when we went out. At the time I thought that this definitely is not the woman for me - it was one more tidbit that she would require more maintenance that I could manage. That was probably true but years later, I think it may have been that she had extreme social anxiety.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess those who don't like it also don't like a man who opens the door for you.

Opening a door is not a gendered role. It's common courtesy. I appreciate anyone who opens a door for me. I also do my share of opening doors for others.

What I really hate, as a woman, is when I get to the door first, hold it for a man behind me, and then he reaches around and grabs the door and gestures me through. No, dude, I'm holding the door for you and that's okay! Just say thank you and go TF through the door.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess those who don't like it also don't like a man who opens the door for you.

Opening a door is not a gendered role. It's common courtesy. I appreciate anyone who opens a door for me. I also do my share of opening doors for others.

What I really hate, as a woman, is when I get to the door first, hold it for a man behind me, and then he reaches around and grabs the door and gestures me through. No, dude, I'm holding the door for you and that's okay! Just say thank you and go TF through the door.

You sound delightful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess those who don't like it also don't like a man who opens the door for you.

Opening a door is not a gendered role. It's common courtesy. I appreciate anyone who opens a door for me. I also do my share of opening doors for others.

What I really hate, as a woman, is when I get to the door first, hold it for a man behind me, and then he reaches around and grabs the door and gestures me through. No, dude, I'm holding the door for you and that's okay! Just say thank you and go TF through the door.

You sound delightful.

Well, if you'd prefer, I can slam the door in your face.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love it!
But for that he'd need to be a real foodie, like me.

The fact that you used the word foodie negates you statement.

[Anonymous]

When I read the title I thought of Sean Connery as James Bond ordering for his “date”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find this very sexy! Take charge! Of course, I will convey my order first -- but I like to be ordered "for". And sometimes ordered around

Me too!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love it!
But for that he'd need to be a real foodie, like me.

The fact that you used the word foodie negates you statement.

It really doesn't, because they still decide what I'd eat and I enjoy that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As long as they ask me what I want first it’s fine.

this. It’s nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess those who don't like it also don't like a man who opens the door for you.

Wrong.

+1 I think it is polite for either gender to hold a door open for someone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find this somehow charming...yet I know it's odd!

No, it's rude and smacks of Downton Abby vibes, unless it's an Indian or Ethiopian restaurant and they know the dishes well. Nothing about this is charming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I once dated a woman who said she wanted me to order for her when we went out. At the time I thought that this definitely is not the woman for me - it was one more tidbit that she would require more maintenance that I could manage. That was probably true but years later, I think it may have been that she had extreme social anxiety.

Would social anxiety prevent someone from ordering from a menu? They managed to make it to the restaurant with a date just fine.

[Anonymous]

This entire thread reminds me of the French feminist who said thirty years ago she thought American feminists had ruined the relationship between the sexes.