Taking adult child’s boyfriend on vacation - sleeping arrangement???
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Anonymous
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Ideally 3 rooms - your kids are growing up and family vacations are going to get more expensive, and more people.
But if that can't happen - 100% no to splitting by gender. So awkward for the boyfriend. Teens and young adults are used to sleeping near people they don't know well - camp, dorms, hotel rooms when you're young and broke and share with a group.... I would say high school boy with the parents. College kid and young couple together. |
Anonymous
| If you want your kid's SO to feel welcome and everyone to have enough space, just book an Airbnb. Its tempting to go frugal but if you are going for a trip, don't be stingy and make it happily memorable. |
Anonymous
Well, parents invited or okayed the invitation. |
Anonymous
| It depends on your budget. If HHI is $100k vs $500K, solutions would be different. |
Anonymous
+1. You get a kitchen and living room so good for everyone. |
Anonymous
This^? |
Anonymous
| We are a family of 4, and do three rooms to keep the peace. |
Anonymous
| We’re a family of 3 and book the entire floor so we don’t have to mix with any plebs. |
Anonymous
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I travel alone but book the entire hotel.
/s Some of these “solutions” are ridiculously expensive, but I guess that’s DCUM for ya. |
Anonymous
| What is your daughter comfortable with? Is she willing and able to split the cost of an extra hotel room with you, if she wants to room alone with the bf? Definitely take her input on it. It's clear different people have different expectations and comfort levels. This also sets the tone for welcoming future partners/spouses. |
Anonymous
| We don't invite nobody if we can't afford to have them. |
Anonymous
| +1 on a room for the “kids” and a room for you and DH. They are adults but they 21, not 51. At 21 they still easily hostel, share rooms, flats, it’s not such a big issue like for someone in their late 20s or 30s who are by then definitely over any sharing. If this is for a weekend / long weekend, then definitely can work especially that you say he spends time with your family and knows the siblings |
Anonymous
| Did the BF already accept the invitation without any discussion of sleeping arrangements? I can’t imagine he’s expecting his GF’s parents to foot the bill for the two of them to have a room to themselves. |
Anonymous
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If I'm taking a kid or kid's friend or SO with me, I wouldn't expect any payments from them. I wouldn't take them to Switzerland or Disneyland, instead do a lake or a national park so we can get a bigger place and all relax and enjoy.
If this BF turns out to be the one, would you want him to ever travel with you or avoid it because of the scare he got first time. |
Anonymous
| Get one large room and all sleep together. There is a word for that. |