Scorned woman strikes again - Yoga teacher murders the 'other' woman in Austin

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dude bought her the gun. It was almost like he played her to do his dirty work for him... Did Mo friendzone him for better-looking guys?

Nah, that’s just #CoupleGoals in Texas

The rest of Texas, maybe...but Austin? Blue as the sea Democratic Austin?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Obviously this is terrible and please don't misconstrue anything I'm about to write as a defense of what this woman did. She murdered someone, it's terrible, I feel awful for the victim and her family. No one deserves that.

I used to see stuff like this and view it with detachment, like "oh that person must just be a bad person, I can't relate, why are people so terrible." But I went through something in the last few years (not a cheating partner, thankfully, something totally different) and experienced what I can only describe as social humiliation. It was crushing and really messed me up. I feel like I'd been deprived of my humanity, unfairly. I got very paranoid for a time and felt like everyone I knew was laughing at me and pitying me behind my back. I wound up quitting my job for a time, doing intensive therapy, and making several other big changes, and eventually got through it. It was the hardest thing I've ever done.

But now I understand how this stuff happens. I didn't kill anyone when this happened to me and I really don't think I would (I'm a pacifist and abhor guns), but now I get how it happens. When you feel humiliated in this way, it feels like there is nothing left to lose. If you are convinced that everyone hates you anyway, especially if it feels like they hate you for things that are not your fault and out of your control, it's like, well what's left? It's like your connection to society is severed. It's terrifying.

I think PPs are right that her anger stemmed from feeling like she was losing her plan for her future, and feeling this woman stole it from her. But I think the thing that made her willing to kill this woman, instead of just yelling at her spreading nasty rumors or something, was the sense of humiliation. It was being lied to and then finding out, feeling like everyone was in on a joke that she was the butt of. Or at least that's what I think. When I was going through this, I had violent thoughts I can't believe I had. Thoughts that scared me.

I've since vowed that if anyone I know ever goes through there, to show up and let them know they are loved and valued, that I'm not laughing at them. To remind them they are still human and they are still connected to someone. I wish this woman had had something like that.

Gently, you should seek therapy.

“I wound up quitting my job for a time, doing intensive therapy, and making several other big changes, and eventually got through it. It was the hardest thing I've ever done.”

Gently, you should seek baseline reading comprehension skills.

I read that. It sounds though, that you need perhaps more consistent therapy to manage violent tendencies generally, given your history.

Telling someone you don't know, who has just stated they are in therapy, that they "seek therapy" makes no sense. Also, violent thoughts are not the same as violent tendencies. It's actually a common response to trauma. People who have experienced physical or sexual abuse often report having violent fantasies about hurting their abuser or even people who enabled the abuse. It can be upsetting and alarming, but is not the same as having "violent tendencies." Most likely it is an instinctual response to feeling powerless and threatened, a way for their subconscious to try to re-assert control over their body.

It might scare you to hear about it but these are things people deal with. It takes courage to say, even anonymously, "I have been through this and found a healthy and productive way to get through it." Maybe if we talked more honestly about dealing with feelings like this, we'd see fewer horrible crimes like this one. If we normalized the idea that having negative, vengeful, even violent thoughts does not mean you are an evil person or that you need to act on those thoughts, but instead can and should seek out places to talk through them, maybe more people would do so and we would be a less violent society.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dude bought her the gun. It was almost like he played her to do his dirty work for him... Did Mo friendzone him for better-looking guys?

Nah, that’s just #CoupleGoals in Texas

The rest of Texas, maybe...but Austin? Blue as the sea Democratic Austin?

Austin is the Capitol of the anti-vaxxed. Blue means something different there.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not wanting to ride with a slow girlfriend just sounds like a bs excuse to keep her away so he can creep on his fan girls. The guy is clearly a scumbag late bloomer Lothario.

He’s a champion pro cyclist, which means he has to practice at a level in which 99.5% of us couldn’t “keep up.” I totally get not wanting to ride with your S/O who can’t match his speed. Of course, the problem with this is that between a day job and many hours of training per day, he’s probably spending very little time with the girlfriend.

He was just a guy who shouldn’t have been in a relationship with someone who wasn’t as equally independent as him.

I agree they shouldn't have been in a relationship but I would not describe him as "independent". Friends and acquaintances said this was a pattern with him -- choosing needy, mentally unstable women, stringing them along, and then betraying them in ways small and large, resulting in fireworks. He was obviously addicted to the drama or the co-dependency or something. This isn't a defense of the girlfriend but this guy is not just some innocent bystander in this.

Some people get off on seeking out people who are obsessive, dependent, slavishly devoted to them. A mentally healthy person will not enjoy that kind of attention or relationship. Would you want a partner who was intensely attached to you to the point of neediness, who would fly off the handle if they sense you were pulling away? I definitely would not, and I question the mental stability of people who enjoy that kind of drama. It's really sad that the victim got caught up in this game he was playing. He may not have murdered anyone, but he's not innocent either.

He probably subconsciously seeks out these types of relationships and doesn’t even realize it. I doubt he’s self-actualized.

[Anonymous]

Moral of the story: this guy is a huge egomaniac a**, women get killed and abused by men probably every single minute all over the world but who cares and we matter only when our oocytes are considered A+ quality by the brunch psycho.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dude bought her the gun. It was almost like he played her to do his dirty work for him... Did Mo friendzone him for better-looking guys?

Nah, that’s just #CoupleGoals in Texas

The rest of Texas, maybe...but Austin? Blue as the sea Democratic Austin?

Or a bike-riding Republican environmental scientist? Does such a thing exist?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dude bought her the gun. It was almost like he played her to do his dirty work for him... Did Mo friendzone him for better-looking guys?

Nah, that’s just #CoupleGoals in Texas

The rest of Texas, maybe...but Austin? Blue as the sea Democratic Austin?

Or a bike-riding Republican environmental scientist? Does such a thing exist?

It’s still Texas. There are plenty of democrats who own guns.

[Anonymous]

Why did the police let her go after questioning her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why did the police let her go after questioning her?

Definitely some white privilege at play.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dude bought her the gun. It was almost like he played her to do his dirty work for him... Did Mo friendzone him for better-looking guys?

Nah, that’s just #CoupleGoals in Texas

The rest of Texas, maybe...but Austin? Blue as the sea Democratic Austin?

Austin is the Capitol of the anti-vaxxed. Blue means something different there.

Wait, I was talking about guns, not vaccination.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why did the police let her go after questioning her?

Definitely some white privilege at play.

Stop.

[Anonymous]

This missing Yoga 🧘🏻‍♀️ teacher should have been angrier at her boyfriend (though not enough to kill him or anyone else!!)

This is so common - a man cheats yet is immediately forgiven yet their collective anger is usually reserved for the “other woman” who receives all the blame.

Kind of reminds me of how Khloé Kardashian blamed Jordyn Woods for the break-up of her “family.”

This whole situation is just very tragic.

I am betting the scorned woman will likely shot herself before spending the rest of her entire remaining yrs. behind bars.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never understand in these situations why a woman kills the other woman rather than the cheating man.

Oh they often kill the innocent wife or husband so they can be together…and sometimes for the insurance $.

The Jessica Birk thing is all about the OW murdering the wife.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I never understand in these situations why a woman kills the other woman rather than the cheating man.

Oh they often kill the innocent wife or husband so they can be together…and sometimes for the insurance $.

The Jessica Birk thing is all about the OW murdering the wife.

^Biel—Candy

[Anonymous]

Betty what’s her name in california killed both her husband and the OW while they slept. He mentally abused her and she snapped.