Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Real question here. I understand this is probably a situation that's really rare but here goes...
I married a bi cis woman when I was still presenting myself as a man to the world (so a regular heterosexual marriage). I transitioned from male to female. Many marriages don't survive this but our marriage is stronger than ever. So now I'm a transgender woman married to a cisgender woman but we got married as a heterosexual couple.
I have not changed my gender market on my birth certificate or other legal paperwork yet. If I change my gender marker and Obergefell is reversed, would my marriage now be invalid in some states or would it always be valid because I was considered male when we were married. What about if I don't change my gender marker despite the fact that I look sound, dress, present myself as a woman. I've also changed my name.
I've been wanting to change my gender marker but it's actually fairly difficult to do and I haven't got around to doing it. Is it better to just leave it as "M" now?
If you don’t change your gender marker, it would be harder for them to say your marriage is illegal. However, if they go after gay marriage and succeed, it will be open season again on harassing you for being trans and out. They’ll want you to hide all of that.
I'm 100% pro choice but wasn't able to attend any of the protests after the leak because I got sick that weekend. I hope there are new ones, I want to participate. I obviously cannot get pregnant but I still stand with those that can.
Thomas' remarks are definitely hitting me hard. As I mentioned earlier, I haven't changed my gender marker. I had been thinking about doing it but was waiting for the ruling. It isn't a fast process anyway. At this point, I'm not sure I should do it.
I hope it doesn't become acceptable to harass me for being openly gay/transgender (really queer in general) like you're saying. I already receive enough harassment as it is. I won't go back into the closet. I can't go back into the closet even if I wanted. You probably wouldn't be surprised to hear it can be difficult to be hidden after being on cross sex hormones.