Is it a status symbol to marry young?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think anyone marries with “status symbol” as the reason. My DD is getting married relatively young at 23 but it’s because she found the right guy and they both have 6 figure careers and we can afford a wedding. A lot of their similar aged friends are also marrying. I don’t think it’s status symbol so much as being at the right place in life and that does involve having a good job.

23?????!!!!!!

Try to get out more.

Getting out more is exactly what a 23 should be doing. Certainly not getting married.

“Should be doing”? Grow up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can agree with the above post, but definitely not under any circumstance in early to mid 20’s. No, no, no

What do you mean? You’re going to tell your 25 year old they can’t get married? Good luck with that.

Yeah, and you’re going to tell your kids not to do drugs. Good luck with that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think anyone marries with “status symbol” as the reason. My DD is getting married relatively young at 23 but it’s because she found the right guy and they both have 6 figure careers and we can afford a wedding. A lot of their similar aged friends are also marrying. I don’t think it’s status symbol so much as being at the right place in life and that does involve having a good job.

23?????!!!!!!

Try to get out more.

Getting out more is exactly what a 23 should be doing. Certainly not getting married.

“Should be doing”? Grow up.

“Get out more”. Grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A bad marriage is a bad marriage, no matter when you got married. Age helps with maturity but age of maturity is different for every one. Life experience doesn’t help much as second and third marriages are more likely to end in divorce.

No one would agree that an 18 yearly old and a 28 year old would have similar judgment and you damn well know that with age comes maturity.
If second and third marriages often fail as you say, why would you condone young marriages?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think anyone marries with “status symbol” as the reason. My DD is getting married relatively young at 23 but it’s because she found the right guy and they both have 6 figure careers and we can afford a wedding. A lot of their similar aged friends are also marrying. I don’t think it’s status symbol so much as being at the right place in life and that does involve having a good job.

23?????!!!!!!

Try to get out more.

Are you one of the Duggars?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A bad marriage is a bad marriage, no matter when you got married. Age helps with maturity but age of maturity is different for every one. Life experience doesn’t help much as second and third marriages are more likely to end in divorce.

No one would agree that an 18 yearly old and a 28 year old would have similar judgment and you damn well know that with age comes maturity.
If second and third marriages often fail as you say, why would you condone young marriages?

At 18, you don’t have a college degree or a job so it is early. I only support 21+ marriages. However, some people have higher IQ and EQ so their marriages will be better no matter if they marry at 24 or 34. Ones with different IQ and EQ will have marital issues, no matter if they marry at 24 or 34. No matter if it’s their first marriage or fourth.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A bad marriage is a bad marriage, no matter when you got married. Age helps with maturity but age of maturity is different for every one. Life experience doesn’t help much as second and third marriages are more likely to end in divorce.

No one would agree that an 18 yearly old and a 28 year old would have similar judgment and you damn well know that with age comes maturity.
If second and third marriages often fail as you say, why would you condone young marriages?

18 is a ridiculous extreme. A 24 and 28 year old will have similar judgments. There is also something to be said for a couple maturing together instead of coming together after they are both totally set in their lifestyles.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A bad marriage is a bad marriage, no matter when you got married. Age helps with maturity but age of maturity is different for every one. Life experience doesn’t help much as second and third marriages are more likely to end in divorce.

No one would agree that an 18 yearly old and a 28 year old would have similar judgment and you damn well know that with age comes maturity.
If second and third marriages often fail as you say, why would you condone young marriages?

At 18, you don’t have a college degree or a job so it is early. I only support 21+ marriages. However, some people have higher IQ and EQ so their marriages will be better no matter if they marry at 24 or 34. Ones with different IQ and EQ will have marital issues, no matter if they marry at 24 or 34. No matter if it’s their first marriage or fourth.

Oh yeah, a 21 year old is so ready for marriage. We should all promote those with the same IQ and EQ to wed young.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A bad marriage is a bad marriage, no matter when you got married. Age helps with maturity but age of maturity is different for every one. Life experience doesn’t help much as second and third marriages are more likely to end in divorce.

No one would agree that an 18 yearly old and a 28 year old would have similar judgment and you damn well know that with age comes maturity.
If second and third marriages often fail as you say, why would you condone young marriages?

18 is a ridiculous extreme. A 24 and 28 year old will have similar judgments. There is also something to be said for a couple maturing together instead of coming together after they are both totally set in their lifestyles.

A 24 year old and a 28 year old are not the same.

[Anonymous]

Op is spot on.

If you are 7/10 attractive, attend a t20, and have wealthy parents (enough wealth where your parents gifted you a trust/portfolio that earns roughly 100k passive income) before your own work/earnings….

….yeah this gen z set are def marrying earlier than millenials

They saw millenials and decided not to want that

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think this trend stems from watching so many 35+women struggle with fertility, healthy children and the energy to be a present parent. I had my kid late many younger women ask me about my experience. I tell the truth and explain that I had a premature baby who spent months in the hospital. I tell them that I have very little energy to chase after a 7 year old, work full time and deal with mid life changes. Plus many of the people who would help raise the kid are old or dead (grandparents, aunts and uncles). Most people over 35 must pay thousands for IVF. Even if insurance covers it, the damage it does to the woman's body and to the baby are just too much to stress about.

The only benefit is that I have more money which ultimately goes to hire more help and take more vacations because I am so tired.


If I knew that my parenting years would have been such a challenge, I would have had kids in my late 20s and early 30s.

Most young people today can’t afford to have children in their twenties.

Op isn’t talking about proles

Op is talking about the top 10%

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think this trend stems from watching so many 35+women struggle with fertility, healthy children and the energy to be a present parent. I had my kid late many younger women ask me about my experience. I tell the truth and explain that I had a premature baby who spent months in the hospital. I tell them that I have very little energy to chase after a 7 year old, work full time and deal with mid life changes. Plus many of the people who would help raise the kid are old or dead (grandparents, aunts and uncles). Most people over 35 must pay thousands for IVF. Even if insurance covers it, the damage it does to the woman's body and to the baby are just too much to stress about.

The only benefit is that I have more money which ultimately goes to hire more help and take more vacations because I am so tired.


If I knew that my parenting years would have been such a challenge, I would have had kids in my late 20s and early 30s.

Most young people today can’t afford to have children in their twenties.

Op isn’t talking about proles

Op is talking about the top 10%

In income? Have you seen how much debt young doctors have? How newly minted PhDs are fighting for TT positions?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op is spot on.

If you are 7/10 attractive, attend a t20, and have wealthy parents (enough wealth where your parents gifted you a trust/portfolio that earns roughly 100k passive income) before your own work/earnings….

….yeah this gen z set are def marrying earlier than millenials

They saw millenials and decided not to want that

?????? What does that have to do with anything.

Seriously I don’t understand the wealth -> marriage correlation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op is spot on.

If you are 7/10 attractive, attend a t20, and have wealthy parents (enough wealth where your parents gifted you a trust/portfolio that earns roughly 100k passive income) before your own work/earnings….

….yeah this gen z set are def marrying earlier than millenials

They saw millenials and decided not to want that

Classic DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A bad marriage is a bad marriage, no matter when you got married. Age helps with maturity but age of maturity is different for every one. Life experience doesn’t help much as second and third marriages are more likely to end in divorce.

No one would agree that an 18 yearly old and a 28 year old would have similar judgment and you damn well know that with age comes maturity.
If second and third marriages often fail as you say, why would you condone young marriages?

At 18, you don’t have a college degree or a job so it is early. I only support 21+ marriages. However, some people have higher IQ and EQ so their marriages will be better no matter if they marry at 24 or 34. Ones with different IQ and EQ will have marital issues, no matter if they marry at 24 or 34. No matter if it’s their first marriage or fourth.

Oh yeah, a 21 year old is so ready for marriage. We should all promote those with the same IQ and EQ to wed young.

If it’s a marriage of equals and they aren’t rushing into parenting, they might be better off in a marriage then dating random weirdos from dating apps. One plus one can be 11 in handling life together vs handling it as a single.