Is it a status symbol to marry young?

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Anonymous wrote:A bad marriage is a bad marriage, no matter when you got married. Age helps with maturity but age of maturity is different for every one. Life experience doesn’t help much as second and third marriages are more likely to end in divorce.

No one would agree that an 18 yearly old and a 28 year old would have similar judgment and you damn well know that with age comes maturity.
If second and third marriages often fail as you say, why would you condone young marriages?

At 18, you don’t have a college degree or a job so it is early. I only support 21+ marriages. However, some people have higher IQ and EQ so their marriages will be better no matter if they marry at 24 or 34. Ones with different IQ and EQ will have marital issues, no matter if they marry at 24 or 34. No matter if it’s their first marriage or fourth.

Oh yeah, a 21 year old is so ready for marriage. We should all promote those with the same IQ and EQ to wed young.

If it’s a marriage of equals and they aren’t rushing into parenting, they might be better off in a marriage then dating random weirdos from dating apps. One plus one can be 11 in handling life together vs handling it as a single.

This.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op is spot on.

If you are 7/10 attractive, attend a t20, and have wealthy parents (enough wealth where your parents gifted you a trust/portfolio that earns roughly 100k passive income) before your own work/earnings….

….yeah this gen z set are def marrying earlier than millenials

They saw millenials and decided not to want that

?????? What does that have to do with anything.

Seriously I don’t understand the wealth -> marriage correlation.

Wedding, housing, parenting, living are easier if you have money and not so easy if you have low income, debt and no savings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Op is spot on.

If you are 7/10 attractive, attend a t20, and have wealthy parents (enough wealth where your parents gifted you a trust/portfolio that earns roughly 100k passive income) before your own work/earnings….

….yeah this gen z set are def marrying earlier than millenials

They saw millenials and decided not to want that

?????? What does that have to do with anything.

Seriously I don’t understand the wealth -> marriage correlation.

Wedding, housing, parenting, living are easier if you have money and not so easy if you have low income, debt and no savings.

Parenting is easier if you are married, and it costs almost nothing to go to a Courthouse and get married. It is certainly cheaper to rent a 1BR apt on two incomes than one, and you won't be denied on the basis of ''brothel'' laws if you are married. The social, financial and legal benefits are endless.

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The obsession so many women have with marry is pathetic

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Marrying a peer from college beats marrying a desperate stranger from Tinder. How is that difficult to understand?

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Anonymous wrote:The obsession so many women have with marry is pathetic

There are young men in their 20’s who want to marry too. It’s not just the women.

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We are middle class and married young at 24/25. We didn’t have kids until 32/33. It worked for us - we are very established now. Own a $6m home and a vacation home worth $2m. We spent a lot of our 20s travelling and having fun but did it together and also got into the property market early. We aren’t religious but very committed to our families

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, I have noticed it's become more common for wealthy young adults to marry right after undergrad.

Not so common for the middle class.

really? why?

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I'm still laughing at the idea that a 25 year old is some kind of child bride.

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Anonymous wrote:Marrying a peer from college beats marrying a desperate stranger from Tinder. How is that difficult to understand?

How is it difficult to understand that those are not the only 2 choices?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm still laughing at the idea that a 25 year old is some kind of child bride.

No, just not enough life experience and hence the partner would likely be similar in age. Therefore, you’ve got 2 young people making a lifetime commitment.
Try not to be stupid again and choose good judgment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are middle class and married young at 24/25. We didn’t have kids until 32/33. It worked for us - we are very established now. Own a $6m home and a vacation home worth $2m. We spent a lot of our 20s travelling and having fun but did it together and also got into the property market early. We aren’t religious but very committed to our families

Good for you. You are not an example for overwhelming majority of people at that age. Don’t promote it like it works.

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Anonymous wrote:Marrying a peer from college beats marrying a desperate stranger from Tinder. How is that difficult to understand?

How is it difficult to understand that those are not the only 2 choices?

People deep down don’t want “ran-thru” spouses.

That goes for both genders.

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I got married when I was 27 20 years ago. UMC. I felt very young, much younger than peers.
But I have no idea what money has to do with it -- or HAS to have to do with it. We both worked and had careers and paid off loans but without kids for years. If anything, our life was cheaper with two earners.

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Anonymous wrote:Marrying a peer from college beats marrying a desperate stranger from Tinder. How is that difficult to understand?

How is it difficult to understand that those are not the only 2 choices?

People deep down don’t want “ran-thru” spouses.

That goes for both genders.

So marry young not for love. They’ll end up divorced and dating those “ran-they” people that they in turn will become.