Is it a status symbol to marry young?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of the people that I know who married young are either really religious or they are poor and uneducated (often with kids).

+1

Not really an elite college thing.

Idk about elite college but certainly a thing among medical school students.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of the people that I know who married young are either really religious or they are poor and uneducated (often with kids).

+1

Not really an elite college thing.

I think the point of this thread is that it is a rich kid thing. Rich kids tend to go to elite schools so there is your connection.

Still not an elite college thing. Not all rich kids go to elite schools.

[Anonymous]

Definitely a thing. You have the privilege of money and don’t have to spend years clawing your way up the career ladder and then swiping on the apps for a spouse when you hit 30.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most people who marry early are either from affluent families or poor families, middle class has bigger challenges.

This.

[Anonymous]

I married at 24 to someone 8 years older. We are not ultra wealthy or poor. He was ready to start a family and I was done with my education. Had a baby 3 years later and two more after that. Now I’m 35 and all 3 kids are in school. I don’t think it’s weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I married at 24 to someone 8 years older. We are not ultra wealthy or poor. He was ready to start a family and I was done with my education. Had a baby 3 years later and two more after that. Now I’m 35 and all 3 kids are in school. I don’t think it’s weird.

I’m also MC and married when we were both 25 but it was young for our social group; most of our friends married early 30s. Also, I don’t think marrying young was seen as aspirational at the time. These days it seems like, especially with social media, this viewed as a positive when combined with a somewhat luxurious lifestyle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Those who marry before age 30 are significantly more likely to end up divorced. Those who spend a little time in adulthood learning more about themselves and maturing more are more likely to stay married once married.

In my personal experience most who married young are still married, fee divorced. Most who married later had more issues and quite a few divorced. When you have grown, you are more set in your ways and less likely to change for other person. When you are young, you often grow together. Some people are more flexible when they are older and lost their prime peak but there are no fixed age dependent rules.

The data doesn’t support what you’re saying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Those who marry before age 30 are significantly more likely to end up divorced. Those who spend a little time in adulthood learning more about themselves and maturing more are more likely to stay married once married.

In my personal experience most who married young are still married, fee divorced. Most who married later had more issues and quite a few divorced. When you have grown, you are more set in your ways and less likely to change for other person. When you are young, you often grow together. Some people are more flexible when they are older and lost their prime peak but there are no fixed age dependent rules.

The data doesn’t support what you’re saying.

Np from what I understand divorce rates are pretty much the same if married between 25-35 and are about equally higher for people younger or older than that. And this is based on age, alone. Genuinely curious if there are updated stats on this or if there is a study that focuses on wealthy married couples, specifically.

To me, it doesn’t really make logical sense that a wealthy, educated person married at 26 would be more likely to divorce than a 36yr old in the same position.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Those who marry before age 30 are significantly more likely to end up divorced. Those who spend a little time in adulthood learning more about themselves and maturing more are more likely to stay married once married.

In my personal experience most who married young are still married, fee divorced. Most who married later had more issues and quite a few divorced. When you have grown, you are more set in your ways and less likely to change for other person. When you are young, you often grow together. Some people are more flexible when they are older and lost their prime peak but there are no fixed age dependent rules.

The data doesn’t support what you’re saying.

It does if you’re talking about people who attend weekly religious services, who tend to marry younger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Those who marry before age 30 are significantly more likely to end up divorced. Those who spend a little time in adulthood learning more about themselves and maturing more are more likely to stay married once married.

In my personal experience most who married young are still married, fee divorced. Most who married later had more issues and quite a few divorced. When you have grown, you are more set in your ways and less likely to change for other person. When you are young, you often grow together. Some people are more flexible when they are older and lost their prime peak but there are no fixed age dependent rules.

The data doesn’t support what you’re saying.

I bet the data you are referring to doesn't control for wealth/income and/or education.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Those who marry before age 30 are significantly more likely to end up divorced. Those who spend a little time in adulthood learning more about themselves and maturing more are more likely to stay married once married.

In my personal experience most who married young are still married, fee divorced. Most who married later had more issues and quite a few divorced. When you have grown, you are more set in your ways and less likely to change for other person. When you are young, you often grow together. Some people are more flexible when they are older and lost their prime peak but there are no fixed age dependent rules.

The data doesn’t support what you’re saying.

I bet the data you are referring to doesn't control for wealth/income and/or education.

It would be fun to see more data on more specific groups. Getting a college degree, having a higher IQ, meeting in college, and making more than 75K a year all all factors that significantly reduce the likelihood you’re going to divorce and if there is cumulative impact it seems like you’re going to have good odds. Marrying at ages 20-25 increases your likelihood of divorce but I imagine that could be at least outweighed by all those other factors. Plus, getting married at 20 seems a lot different than getting married at 24.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Those who marry before age 30 are significantly more likely to end up divorced. Those who spend a little time in adulthood learning more about themselves and maturing more are more likely to stay married once married.

In my personal experience most who married young are still married, fee divorced. Most who married later had more issues and quite a few divorced. When you have grown, you are more set in your ways and less likely to change for other person. When you are young, you often grow together. Some people are more flexible when they are older and lost their prime peak but there are no fixed age dependent rules.

The data doesn’t support what you’re saying.

Np from what I understand divorce rates are pretty much the same if married between 25-35 and are about equally higher for people younger or older than that. And this is based on age, alone. Genuinely curious if there are updated stats on this or if there is a study that focuses on wealthy married couples, specifically.

To me, it doesn’t really make logical sense that a wealthy, educated person married at 26 would be more likely to divorce than a 36yr old in the same position.

Then you’re not very bright.

With age, no matter the SES comes wisdom, maturity and a level of understanding of life and relationships. Common sense should tell you that but common sense isn’t that common.

Furthermore, A 26 year old’s brain has just finished fully developing.

People who get married in their 30s are less likely to divorce than people who get married in their 20s which makes sense. Not sure why you don’t think it makes logical sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Those who marry before age 30 are significantly more likely to end up divorced. Those who spend a little time in adulthood learning more about themselves and maturing more are more likely to stay married once married.

In my personal experience most who married young are still married, fee divorced. Most who married later had more issues and quite a few divorced. When you have grown, you are more set in your ways and less likely to change for other person. When you are young, you often grow together. Some people are more flexible when they are older and lost their prime peak but there are no fixed age dependent rules.

The data doesn’t support what you’re saying.

I bet the data you are referring to doesn't control for wealth/income and/or education.

The data does control for income and education! LOL!

You can google this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Those who marry before age 30 are significantly more likely to end up divorced. Those who spend a little time in adulthood learning more about themselves and maturing more are more likely to stay married once married.

In my personal experience most who married young are still married, fee divorced. Most who married later had more issues and quite a few divorced. When you have grown, you are more set in your ways and less likely to change for other person. When you are young, you often grow together. Some people are more flexible when they are older and lost their prime peak but there are no fixed age dependent rules.

The data doesn’t support what you’re saying.

Np from what I understand divorce rates are pretty much the same if married between 25-35 and are about equally higher for people younger or older than that. And this is based on age, alone. Genuinely curious if there are updated stats on this or if there is a study that focuses on wealthy married couples, specifically.

To me, it doesn’t really make logical sense that a wealthy, educated person married at 26 would be more likely to divorce than a 36yr old in the same position.

Then you’re not very bright.

With age, no matter the SES comes wisdom, maturity and a level of understanding of life and relationships. Common sense should tell you that but common sense isn’t that common.

Furthermore, A 26 year old’s brain has just finished fully developing.

People who get married in their 30s are less likely to divorce than people who get married in their 20s which makes sense. Not sure why you don’t think it makes logical sense.

NP, but it's pretty rich to begin a comment with "you're not very bright" and then go off in a direction that's unsupported by the data. Data from recent years shows people who marry after 35 having a higher rate of divorce than people who marry between 25 and 29 (https://ifstudies.org/blog/want-to-avoid-divorce-wait-to-get-married-but-not-too-long) not a lower chance (even the older data showed a essentially flat difference in risk after your mid 20s).

[Anonymous]

I see a ton of very young nurses marrying rather schleppy guys and immediately buying a nice house together.