Is it a status symbol to marry young?

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Anonymous wrote:Those who marry before age 30 are significantly more likely to end up divorced. Those who spend a little time in adulthood learning more about themselves and maturing more are more likely to stay married once married.


In my personal experience most who married young are still married, fee divorced. Most who married later had more issues and quite a few divorced. When you have grown, you are more set in your ways and less likely to change for other person. When you are young, you often grow together. Some people are more flexible when they are older and lost their prime peak but there are no fixed age dependent rules.


The data doesn’t support what you’re saying.


Np from what I understand divorce rates are pretty much the same if married between 25-35 and are about equally higher for people younger or older than that. And this is based on age, alone. Genuinely curious if there are updated stats on this or if there is a study that focuses on wealthy married couples, specifically.

To me, it doesn’t really make logical sense that a wealthy, educated person married at 26 would be more likely to divorce than a 36yr old in the same position.


Then you’re not very bright.

With age, no matter the SES comes wisdom, maturity and a level of understanding of life and relationships. Common sense should tell you that but common sense isn’t that common.

Furthermore, A 26 year old’s brain has just finished fully developing.

People who get married in their 30s are less likely to divorce than people who get married in their 20s which makes sense. Not sure why you don’t think it makes logical sense.


People who enter into marriage at 26 versus 36 will likely have different challenges entering into a union at these different ages but, unless you can cite something that states that there is a meaningful difference in divorce rates between these ages in wealthy, educated people I’m not sure why are you are so confident in your opinions.
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Anonymous wrote:Those who marry before age 30 are significantly more likely to end up divorced. Those who spend a little time in adulthood learning more about themselves and maturing more are more likely to stay married once married.


In my personal experience most who married young are still married, fee divorced. Most who married later had more issues and quite a few divorced. When you have grown, you are more set in your ways and less likely to change for other person. When you are young, you often grow together. Some people are more flexible when they are older and lost their prime peak but there are no fixed age dependent rules.


The data doesn’t support what you’re saying.


I bet the data you are referring to doesn't control for wealth/income and/or education.


The data does control for income and education! LOL!

You can google this.


NP. They don’t break it down specifically. There is data about college-educate v not college educated, but not college-educated plus married at age 20-24 v college-educated and married at age 26-30 or 31-38. However, looking at all the stats as a whole, it’s a good bet that those who have all the other stats going for them outside of marrying at the statistically optimal time are likely to be fine.
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Is it a status symbol to be two fully functioning mature adults when a pair gets married?
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What else people are putting on hold till their "brains fully mature"? Driving? Pilot license? Medical school? Job at NASA? NFL offer? Using power tools? Taking LSAT? Going to war? Joining police? Study abroad?
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I say why add restrictions and responsibilities to your life at 22, live it up until 30's unless you are in love and other person is a gem which you don't want to lose. Its possible you'll never find someone as good so know the risk and weigh it against benefits.
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Life is rough and a good partner can make it easier, a bad partner can make it more difficult.
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Anonymous wrote:What else people are putting on hold till their "brains fully mature"? Driving? Pilot license? Medical school? Job at NASA? NFL offer? Using power tools? Taking LSAT? Going to war? Joining police? Study abroad?


Alcohol? Guns? Weed? Sex? Voting?
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Anonymous wrote:The obsession so many women have with marry is pathetic


It really is.


Marrying and procreating (heirs, legacy) is literally the point of life; it’s how you leave a mark. Sorry sweetie, nobody is going to remember your projects and spreadsheets at work.


The. why is the richer and wealthier people are the less children they have? or more likely to have no children to begin with???

The data doesn’t reflect what you’re saying and only regular and poor people think procreating is leaving a legacy. LOL!


that isn't true.. or actually it proves truth: the truly wealthy have more in common with the "lower" classes than the working middle classes. The truly wealthy- people with family offices, huge business types who actually do make a mark on the world also have a lot of kids. The musks, gates, Vanderbilts, Gettys of the world have heirs- its the professional well paid working class who have fewer children and are focused on their 'careers' b/c they have to earn their life-style.
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Anonymous wrote:Those who marry before age 30 are significantly more likely to end up divorced. Those who spend a little time in adulthood learning more about themselves and maturing more are more likely to stay married once married.


In my personal experience most who married young are still married, fee divorced. Most who married later had more issues and quite a few divorced. When you have grown, you are more set in your ways and less likely to change for other person. When you are young, you often grow together. Some people are more flexible when they are older and lost their prime peak but there are no fixed age dependent rules.


The data doesn’t support what you’re saying.


What data? I am not seeing anything that controls for age, education level, and wealth combined.

Young people, under 25, are more likely to get divorced but often times these young people are also poor and uneducated. It doesn’t make sense to apply these stats to the demo OP is asking about.

Also, it’s ridiculous how some posters are infantilizing adults in their mid to late 20s as though they are teenagers. And I say that as someone who got married at 30 but feels that they could have been married earlier and would have preferred to.
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Anonymous wrote:I say why add restrictions and responsibilities to your life at 22, live it up until 30's unless you are in love and other person is a gem which you don't want to lose. Its possible you'll never find someone as good so know the risk and weigh it against benefits.


+1

Not worth it unless you meet someone truly amazing.
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Of course it is. Who wants to be desperately swiping around on the apps in your 30s?
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Anonymous wrote:Of course it is. Who wants to be desperately swiping around on the apps in your 30s?


I'd rather brunch than settle for a meh bruh.

Apps are not the only way to meet people.
Anonymous
If you marry later, your spouse may only be interested in you because of your success and wealth. Lots of gold diggers out there, both male and female.
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Anonymous wrote:Of course it is. Who wants to be desperately swiping around on the apps in your 30s?


I'd rather brunch than settle for a meh bruh.

Apps are not the only way to meet people.


Settling is the key word after 30.
Anonymous
Parents shouldn't pull or push, let young adults decide.
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