I have a real life “The Notebook” situation on my hands and I have no clue who to choose.

[Anonymous]

OP is contemplating marrying a guy that she blocked and who is erratic and who sent her a letter?
That he, no doubt, wrote drunk or when he was feeling low. And you are such a flake yourself you think to marry someone whom you refused to hear from for a while because he was so much trouble?
You deserve no.1, not that he is serious about you, TBH. He sounds like an utter nutter and so do you.

[Anonymous]

Has OP come back to say how old she is?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has OP come back to say how old she is?

I’m 30

[Anonymous]

Marry whichever one is willing to give you a fair pre nup. Including support if he cheats and leaves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has OP come back to say how old she is?

I’m 30

DP. So really the issue is you’re feeling anxious to settle down and be married, even though neither of these guys are really a good fit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has OP come back to say how old she is?

I’m 30

I personally think 30 is too young to be a stepmom. It the second guy was the love of your life, absolutely. I would move on from both.

I’m now 43yo. My best friend wasted her prime good years going back to an ex. It was painful to watch. She then got married in haste and ended up divorced. She is now also 43 divorced and childless. Please don’t waste your prime reproductive years on a bad ex or a guy who isn’t right for you. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is not at all a Notebook situation. You have an ex with a messy past with you and a single dad you are not so in love with. And your situation does not sound like it is class based family opposition like in the Notebook. Don’t romanticize your situation.

Totally agree. How old are you OP? You sound desperate to get married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is not at all a Notebook situation. You have an ex with a messy past with you and a single dad you are not so in love with. And your situation does not sound like it is class based family opposition like in the Notebook. Don’t romanticize your situation.

Totally agree. How old are you OP? You sound desperate to get married.

I’m not desperate to get married. I pointed out that they both want to marry me, so these two men aren’t just people that I’m dating but consider serious relationships. I know I don’t have to marry anyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is not at all a Notebook situation. You have an ex with a messy past with you and a single dad you are not so in love with. And your situation does not sound like it is class based family opposition like in the Notebook. Don’t romanticize your situation.

Totally agree. How old are you OP? You sound desperate to get married.

I’m not desperate to get married. I pointed out that they both want to marry me, so these two men aren’t just people that I’m dating but consider serious relationships. I know I don’t have to marry anyone.

DP. Then why are you debating between a train wreck and a guy you’re not all that excited about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is not at all a Notebook situation. You have an ex with a messy past with you and a single dad you are not so in love with. And your situation does not sound like it is class based family opposition like in the Notebook. Don’t romanticize your situation.

Totally agree. How old are you OP? You sound desperate to get married.

I’m not desperate to get married. I pointed out that they both want to marry me, so these two men aren’t just people that I’m dating but consider serious relationships. I know I don’t have to marry anyone.

And not to burst your bubble but saying you want to get married and the steps to get married are far different. I’m pretty sure every guy I have ever dated and was a boyfriend has told me he wanted to marry me at some point. When I was engaged to Dh, my ex also told me he wanted to marry me. He told me he wanted to marry me when we were dating too. My high school boyfriend said the same thing and we would daydream about it. We talked about how cute our kids would be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is not at all a Notebook situation. You have an ex with a messy past with you and a single dad you are not so in love with. And your situation does not sound like it is class based family opposition like in the Notebook. Don’t romanticize your situation.

Totally agree. How old are you OP? You sound desperate to get married.

I’m not desperate to get married. I pointed out that they both want to marry me, so these two men aren’t just people that I’m dating but consider serious relationships. I know I don’t have to marry anyone.

And not to burst your bubble but saying you want to get married and the steps to get married are far different. I’m pretty sure every guy I have ever dated and was a boyfriend has told me he wanted to marry me at some point. When I was engaged to Dh, my ex also told me he wanted to marry me. He told me he wanted to marry me when we were dating too. My high school boyfriend said the same thing and we would daydream about it. We talked about how cute our kids would be.

It’s not bursting my bubble. I know this already.

[Anonymous]

I’m surprised no one has asked you this - have you even met his daughter yet? I didn’t let my children meet my new SO until we had been dating seriously for a year.

[Anonymous]

Neither, but if one of them then #2 who sounds like he would be a good husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised no one has asked you this - have you even met his daughter yet? I didn’t let my children meet my new SO until we had been dating seriously for a year.

I haven’t. We met a year ago but have been dating officially for 6 months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised no one has asked you this - have you even met his daughter yet? I didn’t let my children meet my new SO until we had been dating seriously for a year.

I haven’t. We met a year ago but have been dating officially for 6 months.

This whole situation is laughable. I love the Notebook and for OP to say her situation is like the Notebook is silly.

You haven’t even met your boyfriend’s daughter and only dating 6 months. OP is delusional thinking both of these men want to marry her.