The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"What can I do to make them want to be alive and want to be with me?" she said. "That should be the first thought in the morning when you roll over and see your beloved.""

OMG no thanks.

well, both partners wanting to keep working on their relationships is good advise. Half of the relationships end because partners start taking each other for granted.

Yep. It's great advice for both husbands and wives. It sounds like that idea that marriage isn't 50/50, it's 100/100.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Love this letter to Dr. Laura in response to her opinion that gay people are "mistakes of nature."

Dear Dr. Laura,

Thank you for doing so much to educate people regarding God’s Law. I have learned a great deal from your show, and I try to share that knowledge with as many people as I can. When someone tries to defend the homosexual lifestyle, for example, I simply remind him that Leviticus 18:22 clearly states it to be an abomination. End of debate.

I do need some advice from you, however, regarding some of the specific laws and how to best follow them.

a) When I burn a bull on the altar as a sacrifice, I know it creates a pleasing odor for the Lord (Lev 1:9). The problem is my neighbors. They claim the odor is not pleasing to them. Should I smite them?

b) I would like to sell my daughter into slavery, as sanctioned in Exodus 21:7. In this day and age, what do you think would be a fair price for her?

c) I know that I am allowed no contact with a woman while she is in her period of menstrual uncleanliness (Lev 15:19-24). The problem is, how do I tell? I have tried asking, but most women take offense.

d) Lev. 25:44 states that I may indeed possess slaves, both male and female, provided they are purchased from neighboring nations. A friend of mine claims that this applies to Mexicans, but not Canadians. Can you clarify? Why can’t I own Canadians?

e) I have a neighbor who insists on working on the Sabbath. Exodus 35:2 clearly states he should be put to death. Am I morally obligated to kill him myself?

f) A friend of mine feels that even though eating shellfish is an Abomination (Lev 11:10), it is a lesser abomination than homosexuality. I don’t agree. Can you settle this?

g) Lev 21:20 states that I may not approach the altar of God if I have a defect in my sight. I have to admit that I wear reading glasses. Does my vision have to be 20/20, or is there some wiggle room here?

h) Most of my male friends get their hair trimmed, including the hair around their temples, even though this is expressly forbidden by Lev 19:27. How should they die?

i) I know from Lev 11:6-8 that touching the skin of a dead pig makes me unclean, but may I still play football if I wear gloves?

j) My uncle has a farm. He violates Lev 19:19 by planting two different crops in the same field, as does his wife by wearing garments made of two different kinds of thread (cotton/polyester blend). He also tends to curse and blaspheme a lot. Is it really necessary that we go to all the trouble of getting the whole town together to stone them? (Lev 24:10-16) Couldn’t we just burn them to death at a private family affair like we do with people who sleep with their in-laws? (Lev. 20:14)

I know you have studied these things extensively, so I am confident you can help.

Thank you again for reminding us that God’s word is eternal and unchanging.

NP. I think the point about menstruating women is brilliant and a sign that women had a hand in authoring these laws. Who wouldn’t want to lie in a hammock and not be touched for a week? Brilliant!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Love this letter to Dr. Laura in response to her opinion that gay people are "mistakes of nature."

Dear Dr. Laura,

Thank you for doing so much to educate people regarding God’s Law. I have learned a great deal from your show, and I try to share that knowledge with as many people as I can. When someone tries to defend the homosexual lifestyle, for example, I simply remind him that Leviticus 18:22 clearly states it to be an abomination. End of debate.

I do need some advice from you, however, regarding some of the specific laws and how to best follow them.

a) When I burn a bull on the altar as a sacrifice, I know it creates a pleasing odor for the Lord (Lev 1:9). The problem is my neighbors. They claim the odor is not pleasing to them. Should I smite them?

b) I would like to sell my daughter into slavery, as sanctioned in Exodus 21:7. In this day and age, what do you think would be a fair price for her?

c) I know that I am allowed no contact with a woman while she is in her period of menstrual uncleanliness (Lev 15:19-24). The problem is, how do I tell? I have tried asking, but most women take offense.

d) Lev. 25:44 states that I may indeed possess slaves, both male and female, provided they are purchased from neighboring nations. A friend of mine claims that this applies to Mexicans, but not Canadians. Can you clarify? Why can’t I own Canadians?

e) I have a neighbor who insists on working on the Sabbath. Exodus 35:2 clearly states he should be put to death. Am I morally obligated to kill him myself?

f) A friend of mine feels that even though eating shellfish is an Abomination (Lev 11:10), it is a lesser abomination than homosexuality. I don’t agree. Can you settle this?

g) Lev 21:20 states that I may not approach the altar of God if I have a defect in my sight. I have to admit that I wear reading glasses. Does my vision have to be 20/20, or is there some wiggle room here?

h) Most of my male friends get their hair trimmed, including the hair around their temples, even though this is expressly forbidden by Lev 19:27. How should they die?

i) I know from Lev 11:6-8 that touching the skin of a dead pig makes me unclean, but may I still play football if I wear gloves?

j) My uncle has a farm. He violates Lev 19:19 by planting two different crops in the same field, as does his wife by wearing garments made of two different kinds of thread (cotton/polyester blend). He also tends to curse and blaspheme a lot. Is it really necessary that we go to all the trouble of getting the whole town together to stone them? (Lev 24:10-16) Couldn’t we just burn them to death at a private family affair like we do with people who sleep with their in-laws? (Lev. 20:14)

I know you have studied these things extensively, so I am confident you can help.

Thank you again for reminding us that God’s word is eternal and unchanging.

NP. I think the point about menstruating women is brilliant and a sign that women had a hand in authoring these laws. Who wouldn’t want to lie in a hammock and not be touched for a week? Brilliant!

Amen. This is what women need, is there a way to get this amendment into constitution.

[Anonymous]

OP here, I am not a troll and as I nust stated above I found this book interesting and made me aware to be less self centered snd more grateful in my marriage. I live in US but I am originally from an other country so when I picked up the book I didn’t know about the controversies and the cultural wars surronding the author. I just wanted a feed back from other women who read the book because, until not long ago, I could have published a post full of complaints about my spouse too. This book is helping ME and MY marriage. Maybe could help somebody else too but instead of a respectful discussion about the content of the book, the thread is mutating in a very aggressive dems vs reps war. I don’t care about politics, or taking sides; this is not what this thread was intended to be!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Distinguishing marks of a troll post:

1) controversial, divisive topic, e.g. mommy wars, SAH vs WOH, etc.
2) many ad hominem follow up posts attacking people on both sides
3) posts that appear to be conciliatory but actually fan the flames more with vague, ideologically overdetermined statements
4) not speaking from personal experience with any kind of believable emotion or detail
5) extreme positions, black/ white thinking encouraged, eg either you only devote yourself to your family or you aren’t nurturing

We know this board has been targeted by Russian trolls due to the Political section, and we know that these trolls are paid to increase social tensions and negative feelings on social media.

Yes please don’t feed the troll

Sure you’re not a troll, OP? Many signs of the above in this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every psychologist I know is divorced or unhappy.

+1 yep.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Most women hate men on here so you won’t find them liking the advice.

I think most of those books in general are silly, but I have a very traditional marriage. I enjoy taking care of my husband pleasing and that includes cooking for him, sex usually whenever he wants, and alone time for him and us as a couple. In return he is a provider for our family. This doesn’t mean he is lazy - he does a lot of cooking, cleaning, and helping raise our kids, but I do think we have more defined roles and it works for us. He supports and respects me and I do the same for him. You would be surprised how easy supportive and loving a husband is when he has a wife who appreciates and respects him.

omg.. this made me barf. But, ok, you do you.

-signed happily married for 20 yrs woman

To each their own but it works for us. Some women actually enjoy being caretakers for their family. Sounds like you’re not one of them. I’m glad you felt like you needed to respond like a 5 year old. It shows your level of maturity.

troll

I don't think the cringe-worthy poster is a troll. There are people out there like this. If it works for them, fine. But it's cringe-worthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Distinguishing marks of a troll post:

1) controversial, divisive topic, e.g. mommy wars, SAH vs WOH, etc.
2) many ad hominem follow up posts attacking people on both sides
3) posts that appear to be conciliatory but actually fan the flames more with vague, ideologically overdetermined statements
4) not speaking from personal experience with any kind of believable emotion or detail
5) extreme positions, black/ white thinking encouraged, eg either you only devote yourself to your family or you aren’t nurturing

We know this board has been targeted by Russian trolls due to the Political section, and we know that these trolls are paid to increase social tensions and negative feelings on social media.

Yes please don’t feed the troll

Sure you’re not a troll, OP? Many signs of the above in this thread.

See my reply above

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I am not a troll and as I nust stated above I found this book interesting and made me aware to be less self centered snd more grateful in my marriage. I live in US but I am originally from an other country so when I picked up the book I didn’t know about the controversies and the cultural wars surronding the author. I just wanted a feed back from other women who read the book because, until not long ago, I could have published a post full of complaints about my spouse too. This book is helping ME and MY marriage. Maybe could help somebody else too but instead of a respectful discussion about the content of the book, the thread is mutating in a very aggressive dems vs reps war. I don’t care about politics, or taking sides; this is not what this thread was intended to be!!

I hear you op. I get it. People on DCUM can’t help themselves. We live in an “outrage culture”, and if people see an opportunity to be offended, they’ll take it.

I used to listen to Dr Laura, way back in the day, and read her books. I think there’s a lot of good info in her books and I certainly found some nuggets of wisdom. DCUM just isn’t capable of separating the work from the person or discussing this sort of thing, unfortunately. Sorry about that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I am not a troll and as I nust stated above I found this book interesting and made me aware to be less self centered snd more grateful in my marriage. I live in US but I am originally from an other country so when I picked up the book I didn’t know about the controversies and the cultural wars surronding the author. I just wanted a feed back from other women who read the book because, until not long ago, I could have published a post full of complaints about my spouse too. This book is helping ME and MY marriage. Maybe could help somebody else too but instead of a respectful discussion about the content of the book, the thread is mutating in a very aggressive dems vs reps war. I don’t care about politics, or taking sides; this is not what this thread was intended to be!!

I hear you op. I get it. People on DCUM can’t help themselves. We live in an “outrage culture”, and if people see an opportunity to be offended, they’ll take it.

I used to listen to Dr Laura, way back in the day, and read her books. I think there’s a lot of good info in her books and I certainly found some nuggets of wisdom. DCUM just isn’t capable of separating the work from the person or discussing this sort of thing, unfortunately. Sorry about that.

OP here. Thank you so much for your wise reply

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Say what you want about her, but a lot of things she says are true, but people don't want to admit it.

A broken clock is right twice a day. Mussolini was right about some things too. But there is nothing good that Dr. Laura offers that can’t be obtained from a source that doesn’t also have a bunch of terrible and even damaging advice.

Hitler made the trains run on time and brought Germany out of a depression. Not taking any advice from himi either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Say what you want about her, but a lot of things she says are true, but people don't want to admit it.

A broken clock is right twice a day. Mussolini was right about some things too. But there is nothing good that Dr. Laura offers that can’t be obtained from a source that doesn’t also have a bunch of terrible and even damaging advice.

Hitler made the trains run on time and brought Germany out of a depression. Not taking any advice from himi either.

Godwin’s law point reached

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Love this letter to Dr. Laura in response to her opinion that gay people are "mistakes of nature."

Dear Dr. Laura,

Thank you for doing so much to educate people regarding God’s Law. I have learned a great deal from your show, and I try to share that knowledge with as many people as I can. When someone tries to defend the homosexual lifestyle, for example, I simply remind him that Leviticus 18:22 clearly states it to be an abomination. End of debate.

I do need some advice from you, however, regarding some of the specific laws and how to best follow them.

a) When I burn a bull on the altar as a sacrifice, I know it creates a pleasing odor for the Lord (Lev 1:9). The problem is my neighbors. They claim the odor is not pleasing to them. Should I smite them?

b) I would like to sell my daughter into slavery, as sanctioned in Exodus 21:7. In this day and age, what do you think would be a fair price for her?

c) I know that I am allowed no contact with a woman while she is in her period of menstrual uncleanliness (Lev 15:19-24). The problem is, how do I tell? I have tried asking, but most women take offense.

d) Lev. 25:44 states that I may indeed possess slaves, both male and female, provided they are purchased from neighboring nations. A friend of mine claims that this applies to Mexicans, but not Canadians. Can you clarify? Why can’t I own Canadians?

e) I have a neighbor who insists on working on the Sabbath. Exodus 35:2 clearly states he should be put to death. Am I morally obligated to kill him myself?

f) A friend of mine feels that even though eating shellfish is an Abomination (Lev 11:10), it is a lesser abomination than homosexuality. I don’t agree. Can you settle this?

g) Lev 21:20 states that I may not approach the altar of God if I have a defect in my sight. I have to admit that I wear reading glasses. Does my vision have to be 20/20, or is there some wiggle room here?

h) Most of my male friends get their hair trimmed, including the hair around their temples, even though this is expressly forbidden by Lev 19:27. How should they die?

i) I know from Lev 11:6-8 that touching the skin of a dead pig makes me unclean, but may I still play football if I wear gloves?

j) My uncle has a farm. He violates Lev 19:19 by planting two different crops in the same field, as does his wife by wearing garments made of two different kinds of thread (cotton/polyester blend). He also tends to curse and blaspheme a lot. Is it really necessary that we go to all the trouble of getting the whole town together to stone them? (Lev 24:10-16) Couldn’t we just burn them to death at a private family affair like we do with people who sleep with their in-laws? (Lev. 20:14)

I know you have studied these things extensively, so I am confident you can help.

Thank you again for reminding us that God’s word is eternal and unchanging.

NP. I think the point about menstruating women is brilliant and a sign that women had a hand in authoring these laws. Who wouldn’t want to lie in a hammock and not be touched for a week? Brilliant!

Unfortunately the practice of exclusion was a much uglier reality. Women frequently died or were victims of assault during exclusion periods. It sounds nice but it was a terrible practice in reality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I am not a troll and as I nust stated above I found this book interesting and made me aware to be less self centered snd more grateful in my marriage. I live in US but I am originally from an other country so when I picked up the book I didn’t know about the controversies and the cultural wars surronding the author. I just wanted a feed back from other women who read the book because, until not long ago, I could have published a post full of complaints about my spouse too. This book is helping ME and MY marriage. Maybe could help somebody else too but instead of a respectful discussion about the content of the book, the thread is mutating in a very aggressive dems vs reps war. I don’t care about politics, or taking sides; this is not what this thread was intended to be!!

I hear you op. I get it. People on DCUM can’t help themselves. We live in an “outrage culture”, and if people see an opportunity to be offended, they’ll take it.

I used to listen to Dr Laura, way back in the day, and read her books. I think there’s a lot of good info in her books and I certainly found some nuggets of wisdom. DCUM just isn’t capable of separating the work from the person or discussing this sort of thing, unfortunately. Sorry about that.

I listened to her back in the early 90s. Is that what you mean by "back in the day"? I basically hatel-listened back then too. She was always self-righteous and full of awful advice, most of which she didn't follow herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Say what you want about her, but a lot of things she says are true, but people don't want to admit it.

A broken clock is right twice a day. Mussolini was right about some things too. But there is nothing good that Dr. Laura offers that can’t be obtained from a source that doesn’t also have a bunch of terrible and even damaging advice.

Hitler made the trains run on time and brought Germany out of a depression. Not taking any advice from himi either.

Godwin’s law point reached

It was more in response to someone bringing up Mussolini. But this being DCUM, someone usually does it by page 2. Even in the cooking forum.