Why do some folks send Xmas cards so late?

[Anonymous]

Y’all need a hobby if you have enough time to worry about other people sending you a card later than you’d like.

[Anonymous]

Op, are you like this in other areas of your life? Do you imagine others enjoy your company?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also, some people celebrate Christmas through Epiphany and don't take everything down December 26.

And some people don’t celebrate Christmas. We do a New Years card. Due to health issues and other issues, our cards won’t arrive until today (fingers crossed they actually arrive today). We’re ready with stamps and labels but our cards say Happy New Year. We hope to mail them this week. And we hope that they will give people a smile, just like other people’s cards have given us. We keep them hanging for a week or so after the new year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - I honestly think it is a bit mental disorder. I only say this as I have a childless aunt who never married. Years ago she decided for all her Nieces and Nephews she decided to give $2,500 a child every Xmas for their college fund.

But I know she really loves pictures of nieces and nephews on Xmas cards and such.

My BIL will take the cash and always sends cards way after Xmas to her and never a thank you note even though it really hurts her feelings and he knows this.So my aunt after five years just sends a card no money and he shows up in person Xmas eve looking for the money. Had balls to ask a d nice aunt gave it to him. My MIL is like look when you get her Xmas card with $7,500 in cash just write out one Xmas card back with some kids pictures on card and say thank you. He could not do it.

Then at the next Xmas he complained so slow at work he has nothing to do a few hours a day and his aunt whispered I thought he had no time.

We finally stopped inviting his family as they hi-jack every event by showing up late, not showing up at all, RSVP for five then 1 shows up. At her wedding we sat in church till 1:30 pm for a one pm mass as she was 1/2 hour late.

I can drop folks from Xmas list but I think thus is way more deep rooted.

I do greatly enjoying sending cards to all my elderly relatives who don’t send back. I don’t expect one.

My wife’s cousin is also queen of this. We mailed her cards on Dec 1. since they are going to his side this year and we normally exchange gifts on 12-10 mailed their kids gifts. No response. So don’t know. They are so late her mother now sends out Xmas cards with grandkids in them. They also do stuff like invite you to a birthday party day before. Or rsvp yes then change mind. My favorite they substitute themselves. They actually will give gift to someone attending for them. And one year had a joint birthday party with us without telling me. It was her kids birthday close by and had us do happy birthday song twice and she actually had folks her side to bring gifts.

Look i get a card, mail a card or don’t mail a card. Don’t be like evite where maybe us a RSVP choice.

I guess we will never know. My mailbox will have a bunch of cards next week I open, confirm address and throw out.

I guess all you late folks now know it is hurtful and mean and makes folks seem they were not important by sending late. You continue to do it then we’ll you all have issues I can’t fix

Wow, this is a very unusual way to think about friends and relatives.

Did you even take note of all the posters here telling you that Christmas doesn’t start until Christmas Day, or maybe Christmas Eve and runs until at least January 6th? These people are sending their cards exactly on time, not late at all.

You might be happier if you could think of other people in a kinder and more respectful way. Peace to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - I honestly think it is a bit mental disorder. I only say this as I have a childless aunt who never married. Years ago she decided for all her Nieces and Nephews she decided to give $2,500 a child every Xmas for their college fund.

But I know she really loves pictures of nieces and nephews on Xmas cards and such.

My BIL will take the cash and always sends cards way after Xmas to her and never a thank you note even though it really hurts her feelings and he knows this.So my aunt after five years just sends a card no money and he shows up in person Xmas eve looking for the money. Had balls to ask a d nice aunt gave it to him. My MIL is like look when you get her Xmas card with $7,500 in cash just write out one Xmas card back with some kids pictures on card and say thank you. He could not do it.

Then at the next Xmas he complained so slow at work he has nothing to do a few hours a day and his aunt whispered I thought he had no time.

We finally stopped inviting his family as they hi-jack every event by showing up late, not showing up at all, RSVP for five then 1 shows up. At her wedding we sat in church till 1:30 pm for a one pm mass as she was 1/2 hour late.

I can drop folks from Xmas list but I think thus is way more deep rooted.

I do greatly enjoying sending cards to all my elderly relatives who don’t send back. I don’t expect one.

My wife’s cousin is also queen of this. We mailed her cards on Dec 1. since they are going to his side this year and we normally exchange gifts on 12-10 mailed their kids gifts. No response. So don’t know. They are so late her mother now sends out Xmas cards with grandkids in them. They also do stuff like invite you to a birthday party day before. Or rsvp yes then change mind. My favorite they substitute themselves. They actually will give gift to someone attending for them. And one year had a joint birthday party with us without telling me. It was her kids birthday close by and had us do happy birthday song twice and she actually had folks her side to bring gifts.

Look i get a card, mail a card or don’t mail a card. Don’t be like evite where maybe us a RSVP choice.

I guess we will never know. My mailbox will have a bunch of cards next week I open, confirm address and throw out.

I guess all you late folks now know it is hurtful and mean and makes folks seem they were not important by sending late. You continue to do it then we’ll you all have issues I can’t fix

Mental disorder, you say?

[Anonymous]

I forget to buy cards until a day or two before Christmas. It’s not my thing. It’s not some personal agenda directed at you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - I honestly think it is a bit mental disorder. I only say this as I have a childless aunt who never married. Years ago she decided for all her Nieces and Nephews she decided to give $2,500 a child every Xmas for their college fund.

But I know she really loves pictures of nieces and nephews on Xmas cards and such.

My BIL will take the cash and always sends cards way after Xmas to her and never a thank you note even though it really hurts her feelings and he knows this.So my aunt after five years just sends a card no money and he shows up in person Xmas eve looking for the money. Had balls to ask a d nice aunt gave it to him. My MIL is like look when you get her Xmas card with $7,500 in cash just write out one Xmas card back with some kids pictures on card and say thank you. He could not do it.

Then at the next Xmas he complained so slow at work he has nothing to do a few hours a day and his aunt whispered I thought he had no time.

We finally stopped inviting his family as they hi-jack every event by showing up late, not showing up at all, RSVP for five then 1 shows up. At her wedding we sat in church till 1:30 pm for a one pm mass as she was 1/2 hour late.

I can drop folks from Xmas list but I think thus is way more deep rooted.

I do greatly enjoying sending cards to all my elderly relatives who don’t send back. I don’t expect one.

My wife’s cousin is also queen of this. We mailed her cards on Dec 1. since they are going to his side this year and we normally exchange gifts on 12-10 mailed their kids gifts. No response. So don’t know. They are so late her mother now sends out Xmas cards with grandkids in them. They also do stuff like invite you to a birthday party day before. Or rsvp yes then change mind. My favorite they substitute themselves. They actually will give gift to someone attending for them. And one year had a joint birthday party with us without telling me. It was her kids birthday close by and had us do happy birthday song twice and she actually had folks her side to bring gifts.

Look i get a card, mail a card or don’t mail a card. Don’t be like evite where maybe us a RSVP choice.

I guess we will never know. My mailbox will have a bunch of cards next week I open, confirm address and throw out.

I guess all you late folks now know it is hurtful and mean and makes folks seem they were not important by sending late. You continue to do it then we’ll you all have issues I can’t fix

You have a serious mental disorder (if being a Grade A b1tch can be viewed as one) if you think that someone not saying thank you via card is the same as people who don't send you a Christmas card on your timeline. JFC.

[Anonymous]

OP, if I knew you felt that way, I would stop sending you a card at all.

[Anonymous]

you might be on their B or C list.

[Anonymous]

Omg.

By sone miracle, Minted printed our cards on time. I hand wrote addresses and a brief personal note, stuffed and sealed the cards. They’ve been ready for two weeks.

Meanwhile, American Stationary screwed up my return address labels twice. I still don’t have them. Cards won’t go out until the 24th.

I’m sure many people have different versions of this. Or they get to cards later in the process, but they bake cookies on time (I haven’t baked anything yet… or finished done if the decorations, tbh).

We’re all just doing our best. I live getting cards any time. For those of you who send them Dec 30 - thank you!! We will appreciate your card and hang it with the others!

[Anonymous]

You know, a Christmas card is a nice gesture. Maybe they have been busy, sick, or the mail was slow. Just be grateful for the gesture. What a thing to complain about.

[Anonymous]

i sent mine late! just took a while to receive them, etc.
but i absolutely hope anyone i send them to knows i am thinking of them and not that i am only sending one to them because i received one. i agree with the PP who said anything is a victory! and i am happy to get cards late too - it's just nice to get them.

[Anonymous]

Because they are busy. What does it matter?

Are you are retired school teacher, grading their performance as a friend?

I really really would HATE to spend the time to remember you each year, only to trigger your judgement about whether I had made the arbitrary deadline that only exists in your head.

[Anonymous]

You seriously read into the timing of when someone thinks enough about you to mail a card?

[Anonymous]

Nobody loves holiday cards more than I do. I start thinking about them in the fall and I typically mail them the first week in December.

This year, Shutterfly didn't deliver for nearly two weeks. My cards were just mailed late last week. And, USPS is delivering everything slowly. I bet many people won't receive my card until Xmas or afterwards. And, I bet many of my traditional recipients won't be prompted to mail me a card until they receive mine and can easily copy the address from my return label.

I usually receive 65+ cards each year, and I've only received 25 thus far. I'm hoping to receive more once people receive mine.

I've heard several people say they are sending new years cards this year.

Regardless, I'm just happy to receive anything anytime.