Why do some folks send Xmas cards so late?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP we are really busy too. My wife did Thanksgiving our house. We were all dressed up including the kids so did some Xmas photos that day. My wife then got card done Sunday after Thanksgiving and we mailed out 60 cards around December 1. So three weeks ago today.

We got 10 as of today. And of that 10 they were the busier people. Like my wife and I with three kids on school, work, traveling at Holidays we don’t have luxury of waiting till last minute.

Plus with a few Jewish friends on list we want it to teach them for their Holiday and with some European people on list can’t wait.

It's just effed up that you sit and rank the senders of cards to you for who is "busiest".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - I honestly think it is a bit mental disorder. I only say this as I have a childless aunt who never married. Years ago she decided for all her Nieces and Nephews she decided to give $2,500 a child every Xmas for their college fund.

But I know she really loves pictures of nieces and nephews on Xmas cards and such.

My BIL will take the cash and always sends cards way after Xmas to her and never a thank you note even though it really hurts her feelings and he knows this.So my aunt after five years just sends a card no money and he shows up in person Xmas eve looking for the money. Had balls to ask a d nice aunt gave it to him. My MIL is like look when you get her Xmas card with $7,500 in cash just write out one Xmas card back with some kids pictures on card and say thank you. He could not do it.

Then at the next Xmas he complained so slow at work he has nothing to do a few hours a day and his aunt whispered I thought he had no time.

We finally stopped inviting his family as they hi-jack every event by showing up late, not showing up at all, RSVP for five then 1 shows up. At her wedding we sat in church till 1:30 pm for a one pm mass as she was 1/2 hour late.

I can drop folks from Xmas list but I think thus is way more deep rooted.

I do greatly enjoying sending cards to all my elderly relatives who don’t send back. I don’t expect one.

My wife’s cousin is also queen of this. We mailed her cards on Dec 1. since they are going to his side this year and we normally exchange gifts on 12-10 mailed their kids gifts. No response. So don’t know. They are so late her mother now sends out Xmas cards with grandkids in them. They also do stuff like invite you to a birthday party day before. Or rsvp yes then change mind. My favorite they substitute themselves. They actually will give gift to someone attending for them. And one year had a joint birthday party with us without telling me. It was her kids birthday close by and had us do happy birthday song twice and she actually had folks her side to bring gifts.

Look i get a card, mail a card or don’t mail a card. Don’t be like evite where maybe us a RSVP choice.

I guess we will never know. My mailbox will have a bunch of cards next week I open, confirm address and throw out.

I guess all you late folks now know it is hurtful and mean and makes folks seem they were not important by sending late. You continue to do it then we’ll you all have issues I can’t fix

Oh my God. You can't make this level of crazy up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Now I think about it, I think there's a thread like this every year.

Perhaps it's a person who wants to pressure everyone to send their cards earlier... because they're insane.

There are Christmas card and Christmas tree threads every year. Then the "authentic Christmas" types pile in to beat the Epiphany dead horse until it's even deader. Everyone knows about Epiphany and if they don't, that's because they don't care and it doesn't matter at all. No one cares about your stupid special Epiphany club. It's not secret special knowledge. Anyone can join up a pediphelic church anytime and give them money each week to pay the legal bills of its corrupt patriarchal grifters, and partake of alllll the man-made invented rituals and speak the Latin words. Anyone! They just don't want anything to do with it, for good reason.

People celebrate Christmas in the month of December with their families and their traditions however they want to and there is nothing you can do about it. They can skip or celebrate the 12 days and again, your opinion about it is meaningless. Also, they don't care at all what you think if they show up to mass 2x a year in their jammies or their short skirts, your opinion does not matter at all and no one cares about your judgment. Now isn't that special!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - I honestly think it is a bit mental disorder. I only say this as I have a childless aunt who never married. Years ago she decided for all her Nieces and Nephews she decided to give $2,500 a child every Xmas for their college fund.

But I know she really loves pictures of nieces and nephews on Xmas cards and such.

My BIL will take the cash and always sends cards way after Xmas to her and never a thank you note even though it really hurts her feelings and he knows this.So my aunt after five years just sends a card no money and he shows up in person Xmas eve looking for the money. Had balls to ask a d nice aunt gave it to him. My MIL is like look when you get her Xmas card with $7,500 in cash just write out one Xmas card back with some kids pictures on card and say thank you. He could not do it.

Then at the next Xmas he complained so slow at work he has nothing to do a few hours a day and his aunt whispered I thought he had no time.

We finally stopped inviting his family as they hi-jack every event by showing up late, not showing up at all, RSVP for five then 1 shows up. At her wedding we sat in church till 1:30 pm for a one pm mass as she was 1/2 hour late.

I can drop folks from Xmas list but I think thus is way more deep rooted.

I do greatly enjoying sending cards to all my elderly relatives who don’t send back. I don’t expect one.

My wife’s cousin is also queen of this. We mailed her cards on Dec 1. since they are going to his side this year and we normally exchange gifts on 12-10 mailed their kids gifts. No response. So don’t know. They are so late her mother now sends out Xmas cards with grandkids in them. They also do stuff like invite you to a birthday party day before. Or rsvp yes then change mind. My favorite they substitute themselves. They actually will give gift to someone attending for them. And one year had a joint birthday party with us without telling me. It was her kids birthday close by and had us do happy birthday song twice and she actually had folks her side to bring gifts.

Look i get a card, mail a card or don’t mail a card. Don’t be like evite where maybe us a RSVP choice.

I guess we will never know. My mailbox will have a bunch of cards next week I open, confirm address and throw out.

I guess all you late folks now know it is hurtful and mean and makes folks seem they were not important by sending late. You continue to do it then we’ll you all have issues I can’t fix

OP you are a clucking old hen keeping score in your little book.

[Anonymous]

I think the latest I ever stopped sending for the previous year was August. After that, you just didn’t get one.

[Anonymous]

How old are you OP, 90?

[Anonymous]

As for hurtful and mean, usually the delayed ones are people who matter more and I want to write more than a signature. It means you matter more. If you interpret that as hurtful and mean, we’re probably not friends. BTW, I don’t mind if you send me the same Card and twice.

[Anonymous]

This tradition just needs to die already. People complain about a damn card FFS. I stopped sending them years ago bc of whiners like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lol to the idea that someone sending you a late holiday card is being passive aggressive. Lord, this one cracked me up! Thanks, OP.

I can't stop laughing, like this behavior is specifically directed at OP?!

[Anonymous]

You do realize that those people may be facing physical or mental illness, family issues including deaths, or perhaps Christmas card timeliness simply isn't one of their priorities?

I imagine you deal with a lot of perfectionism and anxiety if this is a major issue for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cmon. It’s not that hard to send in early Dec

Honestly if you keep a schedule it’s not hard to get them out on time. It’s just respectful to get them to their destination on time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cmon. It’s not that hard to send in early Dec

Honestly if you keep a schedule it’s not hard to get them out on time. It’s just respectful to get them to their destination on time.

A holiday card can be disrespectful? Wha?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is personally making me really glad I stopped sending them altogether.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it a passive aggressive thing? Control thing? Just Laziness?

I ask as a few folks year after year mail it so late.

I also go to NY to see family most years and some cousins will be at Xmas with us and when I get back home to the DMV the card is there. Why mail it so late that you see me in person at Xmas before I get the card? I get folks are busy we all been there. But I had one person mail literally a card that is a Christmas card I get it after Xmas every year the last 30 years!! I usually have taken down cards by then so awkward.

One year my wife and I had a lot of things going on Illness, death of my mother and paired down list and did not mail the late people as we assumed only sending us a card since we sent one to them. Guess what they still came. Usually day after Xmas.

Why do they do it? Two are now literally empty nesters and retired. So they have time.

Perhaps some people prefer to observe the TWELVE days of Christmas. It's a Christmas Season, my friend. Enjoy and be merry!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not a grinch, but holiday cards after December 25th aren't as nice. After December 31, they go straight in the trash after I open them. I love displaying cards and like it when they arrive 2 weeks before Christmas.

I have this pet peeve with birthday cards too. 90% of cards for me or my kids arrive after their birthday! Whereas I put up a birthday banner for the week before their birthday (I have little kids) and would like to leave the cards displayed on our island that week.

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I truly wonder how people like you and OP manage to get through your days.

Well, when someone displays cards on an island rather than a fireplace mantel where they should be properly displayed, that's all we need to know about them.