Any moms do it all on their own?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I had an unintended pregnancy 17 yrs ago. My ex was involved when he felt like it which was more frequent than my DS was younger. Now my ex lives far away and hasn't seen our child in many, many years. He is married and has more kids. It is hard but I started off doing it alone. I'm sure it's harder if you have a partner and then they leave. I sometimes get child support but I don't count on it because it isn't always on time or the total amount. Good luck to you. Make sure you really want this child because it's much too hard to do when you regret your decision.

Thanks for sharing your story. I do really, really want this child. I know it will be hard but I do have a great support system.

Did you get pregnant on purpose?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course you can do it! Ditch him, have him sign away his rights and be free of him. Raise your child in a loving environment.

It still messes a child up to have one parent who didn't want them. That is written in your bones and never, ever goes away.

Yes. I wonder if putting up for adoption is better vs. worse than growing up with an emotionally unavailable father or no father. I don't know. I'm so sorry OP you are faced with this.

Adopted parents divorce as well
I know one family that adopted 2, divorced and the adoptive father got kids of his own from the new wife. No contact with ones he adopted

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course you can do it! Ditch him, have him sign away his rights and be free of him. Raise your child in a loving environment.

It still messes a child up to have one parent who didn't want them. That is written in your bones and never, ever goes away.

Yes. I wonder if putting up for adoption is better vs. worse than growing up with an emotionally unavailable father or no father. I don't know. I'm so sorry OP you are faced with this.

Adopted parents divorce as well
I know one family that adopted 2, divorced and the adoptive father got kids of his own from the new wife. No contact with ones he adopted

NP and you have to consider the statistical odds though. Here, perhaps (?) a 100% odds of an uninvolved father vs. whatever the odds of an uninvolved father in the case of an adoption situation. There's no guarantees in life but it seems like in the adoption situation the odds of having involved parents are significantly higher.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course you can do it! Ditch him, have him sign away his rights and be free of him. Raise your child in a loving environment.

It still messes a child up to have one parent who didn't want them. That is written in your bones and never, ever goes away.

Yes. I wonder if putting up for adoption is better vs. worse than growing up with an emotionally unavailable father or no father. I don't know. I'm so sorry OP you are faced with this.

Adopted parents divorce as well
I know one family that adopted 2, divorced and the adoptive father got kids of his own from the new wife. No contact with ones he adopted

NP and you have to consider the statistical odds though. Here, perhaps (?) a 100% odds of an uninvolved father vs. whatever the odds of an uninvolved father in the case of an adoption situation. There's no guarantees in life but it seems like in the adoption situation the odds of having involved parents are significantly higher.

At the same time, you could be married in a few years and have your new spouse as an involved parent
An adoptee has 100% uninvolved bio parents

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course you can do it! Ditch him, have him sign away his rights and be free of him. Raise your child in a loving environment.

It still messes a child up to have one parent who didn't want them. That is written in your bones and never, ever goes away.

Yes. I wonder if putting up for adoption is better vs. worse than growing up with an emotionally unavailable father or no father. I don't know. I'm so sorry OP you are faced with this.

Adopted parents divorce as well
I know one family that adopted 2, divorced and the adoptive father got kids of his own from the new wife. No contact with ones he adopted

NP and you have to consider the statistical odds though. Here, perhaps (?) a 100% odds of an uninvolved father vs. whatever the odds of an uninvolved father in the case of an adoption situation. There's no guarantees in life but it seems like in the adoption situation the odds of having involved parents are significantly higher.

At the same time, you could be married in a few years and have your new spouse as an involved parent
An adoptee has 100% uninvolved bio parents

Sometimes the bio dad does become involved later
I would not call it 100% odds of ever being involved

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course you can do it! Ditch him, have him sign away his rights and be free of him. Raise your child in a loving environment.

It still messes a child up to have one parent who didn't want them. That is written in your bones and never, ever goes away.

Yes. I wonder if putting up for adoption is better vs. worse than growing up with an emotionally unavailable father or no father. I don't know. I'm so sorry OP you are faced with this.

Adopted parents divorce as well
I know one family that adopted 2, divorced and the adoptive father got kids of his own from the new wife. No contact with ones he adopted

NP and you have to consider the statistical odds though. Here, perhaps (?) a 100% odds of an uninvolved father vs. whatever the odds of an uninvolved father in the case of an adoption situation. There's no guarantees in life but it seems like in the adoption situation the odds of having involved parents are significantly higher.

At the same time, you could be married in a few years and have your new spouse as an involved parent
An adoptee has 100% uninvolved bio parents

Oh honey, absolutely not true. Absolutely NOT true in our home.

[Anonymous]

OP have the kid. If you stay off DCUM you will have lots of time.

Build your village and do it.

Harpies - how many professional women do you know who were pregnant and gave the kid up for adoption? Give everyone a break

Abortion is an option. Not for you and your weird pro life agenda

These women w unlimited budgets (ie rich husband) are so overwhelmed. Yet a lot of us have been doing it solo for years and we don’t complain. One single mom by choice parent runs the PTA.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course you can do it! Ditch him, have him sign away his rights and be free of him. Raise your child in a loving environment.

It still messes a child up to have one parent who didn't want them. That is written in your bones and never, ever goes away.

Yes. I wonder if putting up for adoption is better vs. worse than growing up with an emotionally unavailable father or no father. I don't know. I'm so sorry OP you are faced with this.

Adopted parents divorce as well
I know one family that adopted 2, divorced and the adoptive father got kids of his own from the new wife. No contact with ones he adopted

NP and you have to consider the statistical odds though. Here, perhaps (?) a 100% odds of an uninvolved father vs. whatever the odds of an uninvolved father in the case of an adoption situation. There's no guarantees in life but it seems like in the adoption situation the odds of having involved parents are significantly higher.

At the same time, you could be married in a few years and have your new spouse as an involved parent
An adoptee has 100% uninvolved bio parents

Oh honey, absolutely not true. Absolutely NOT true in our home.

Not in yours. It does happen.
People marry people with kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course you can do it! Ditch him, have him sign away his rights and be free of him. Raise your child in a loving environment.

It still messes a child up to have one parent who didn't want them. That is written in your bones and never, ever goes away.

Yes. I wonder if putting up for adoption is better vs. worse than growing up with an emotionally unavailable father or no father. I don't know. I'm so sorry OP you are faced with this.

Adopted parents divorce as well
I know one family that adopted 2, divorced and the adoptive father got kids of his own from the new wife. No contact with ones he adopted

NP and you have to consider the statistical odds though. Here, perhaps (?) a 100% odds of an uninvolved father vs. whatever the odds of an uninvolved father in the case of an adoption situation. There's no guarantees in life but it seems like in the adoption situation the odds of having involved parents are significantly higher.

At the same time, you could be married in a few years and have your new spouse as an involved parent
An adoptee has 100% uninvolved bio parents

Oh honey, absolutely not true. Absolutely NOT true in our home.

Not in yours. It does happen.
People marry people with kids

That is not what I mean. Not a step parent adoption.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course you can do it! Ditch him, have him sign away his rights and be free of him. Raise your child in a loving environment.

It still messes a child up to have one parent who didn't want them. That is written in your bones and never, ever goes away.

Yes. I wonder if putting up for adoption is better vs. worse than growing up with an emotionally unavailable father or no father. I don't know. I'm so sorry OP you are faced with this.

Adopted parents divorce as well
I know one family that adopted 2, divorced and the adoptive father got kids of his own from the new wife. No contact with ones he adopted

NP and you have to consider the statistical odds though. Here, perhaps (?) a 100% odds of an uninvolved father vs. whatever the odds of an uninvolved father in the case of an adoption situation. There's no guarantees in life but it seems like in the adoption situation the odds of having involved parents are significantly higher.

At the same time, you could be married in a few years and have your new spouse as an involved parent
An adoptee has 100% uninvolved bio parents

Oh honey, absolutely not true. Absolutely NOT true in our home.

Not in yours. It does happen.
People marry people with kids

I think PP was referring to the uninvolved bio parents. Many families have open adoptions where the Bio parents are very involved, or later become involved when the adoptee seeks them out. Like many types of families, these Types of arrangements are flexible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course you can do it! Ditch him, have him sign away his rights and be free of him. Raise your child in a loving environment.

It still messes a child up to have one parent who didn't want them. That is written in your bones and never, ever goes away.

Yes. I wonder if putting up for adoption is better vs. worse than growing up with an emotionally unavailable father or no father. I don't know. I'm so sorry OP you are faced with this.

Adopted parents divorce as well
I know one family that adopted 2, divorced and the adoptive father got kids of his own from the new wife. No contact with ones he adopted

NP and you have to consider the statistical odds though. Here, perhaps (?) a 100% odds of an uninvolved father vs. whatever the odds of an uninvolved father in the case of an adoption situation. There's no guarantees in life but it seems like in the adoption situation the odds of having involved parents are significantly higher.

At the same time, you could be married in a few years and have your new spouse as an involved parent
An adoptee has 100% uninvolved bio parents

Oh honey, absolutely not true. Absolutely NOT true in our home.

Are you seriously thinking about fixing single parenthood with infant adoption?
Adoption is not co-parenting.
Not in yours. It does happen.
People marry people with kids

I think PP was referring to the uninvolved bio parents. Many families have open adoptions where the Bio parents are very involved, or later become involved when the adoptee seeks them out. Like many types of families, these Types of arrangements are flexible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course you can do it! Ditch him, have him sign away his rights and be free of him. Raise your child in a loving environment.

It still messes a child up to have one parent who didn't want them. That is written in your bones and never, ever goes away.

Yes. I wonder if putting up for adoption is better vs. worse than growing up with an emotionally unavailable father or no father. I don't know. I'm so sorry OP you are faced with this.

Adopted parents divorce as well
I know one family that adopted 2, divorced and the adoptive father got kids of his own from the new wife. No contact with ones he adopted

NP and you have to consider the statistical odds though. Here, perhaps (?) a 100% odds of an uninvolved father vs. whatever the odds of an uninvolved father in the case of an adoption situation. There's no guarantees in life but it seems like in the adoption situation the odds of having involved parents are significantly higher.

At the same time, you could be married in a few years and have your new spouse as an involved parent
An adoptee has 100% uninvolved bio parents

Oh honey, absolutely not true. Absolutely NOT true in our home.

Not in yours. It does happen.
People marry people with kids

I think PP was referring to the uninvolved bio parents. Many families have open adoptions where the Bio parents are very involved, or later become involved when the adoptee seeks them out. Like many types of families, these Types of arrangements are flexible.

Often bio parents are also uninvolved because the custodial parents does not want them involved. Child support goes by visitation/custody so the less the NCP sees the kid, the more money they get. Plus, they want to play the single parent victim role.

[Anonymous]

Adoption means that parental rights are terminated. The placement is permanent.
Open adoption means some contact with bio family. The bio family is not part of the picture, but they have some contact. This contact can and does come to an end sometime.
Adoption is never co-parenting. Bio parents are not involved in the child's life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Adoption means that parental rights are terminated. The placement is permanent.
Open adoption means some contact with bio family. The bio family is not part of the picture, but they have some contact. This contact can and does come to an end sometime.
Adoption is never co-parenting. Bio parents are not involved in the child's life.

It depends on the adoption.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Adoption means that parental rights are terminated. The placement is permanent.
Open adoption means some contact with bio family. The bio family is not part of the picture, but they have some contact. This contact can and does come to an end sometime.
Adoption is never co-parenting. Bio parents are not involved in the child's life.

It depends on the adoption.

In every adoption parental rights are terminated
Adoptive parents can stop contact