College results broke my heart

[Anonymous]

I know it is about my DC’s choices, but now the top options are so so far away (because the results didn’t work out the way we had hoped). It is so heart to imagine my DC being so so far away.

[Anonymous]

Think of it as being a useful growing experience for your child, OP. But sorry, I'd feel the same way.

[Anonymous]

Hugs. I'm not there yet, but I could be in the future. And it won't be pretty! Lol

It's hard to put this kind of thing in perspective when all you're thinking about is missing your baby. But, it's just one of those things like, it could really work out for the best and be a wonderful thing for everybody. Chin up. You can do it mama.

[Anonymous]

Doesn’t really matter how far away they are. Even if they were close you should only be seeing them for major holidays and long breaks.

[Anonymous]

It’s okay, my child is 3 hours away and is homesick 24/7.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know it is about my DC’s choices, but now the top options are so so far away (because the results didn’t work out the way we had hoped). It is so heart to imagine my DC being so so far away.

It'll be fine. I have one in Michigan and one in Rhode Island. Both a short flight away. Even if they were closer, they're busy in college and it would be hard for them to come home, unless they were *really* local (like Georgetown) and wanted their laundry done.

It's hard at first, but you get used to it. Plan trips for games or long weekends, both for them to come home and for you to visit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know it is about my DC’s choices, but now the top options are so so far away (because the results didn’t work out the way we had hoped). It is so heart to imagine my DC being so so far away.

You mean geographically far away? My kid has college friends that are from 3 mile's to campus to 3000 miles away to half way around the world. They all do fine. The ones closer to home, often invite those from far flung locales to visit their more local homes during breaks.

[Anonymous]

Well, to put things in perspective, I went to university 500+ miles away from my home in the '80s and was only able to communicate with my parents by letter or a once-a-week long distance call (it was too expensive to call more often) from the common use phones in the dorm. Much easier now to stay connected -- perhaps too easy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, to put things in perspective, I went to university 500+ miles away from my home in the '80s and was only able to communicate with my parents by letter or a once-a-week long distance call (it was too expensive to call more often) from the common use phones in the dorm. Much easier now to stay connected -- perhaps too easy?

Nope. I actually believe that what you’re describing is a major cause of mental illness among college students who have it.

[Anonymous]

We’re you thinking you would visit your kid every weekend or something? You may be overestimating the impact of the greater difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, to put things in perspective, I went to university 500+ miles away from my home in the '80s and was only able to communicate with my parents by letter or a once-a-week long distance call (it was too expensive to call more often) from the common use phones in the dorm. Much easier now to stay connected -- perhaps too easy?

Nope. I actually believe that what you’re describing is a major cause of mental illness among college students who have it.

PP here. By that I mean I think going 500+ miles away from college is a very bad idea for most kids, contributing to anxiety, rugged individualism and loneliness. Life is short and young adults should spend time with their families.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, to put things in perspective, I went to university 500+ miles away from my home in the '80s and was only able to communicate with my parents by letter or a once-a-week long distance call (it was too expensive to call more often) from the common use phones in the dorm. Much easier now to stay connected -- perhaps too easy?

Nope. I actually believe that what you’re describing is a major cause of mental illness among college students who have it.

PP here. By that I mean I think going 500+ miles away from college is a very bad idea for most kids, contributing to anxiety, rugged individualism and loneliness. Life is short and young adults should spend time with their families.

So you're against studying abroad for a semester or year? I studied in the UK and had an AMAZING experience that I wouldn't have traded for the world. The other U.S. students in my program felt the same way.

[Anonymous]

Best gift I ever got was California university system having a totally different application from common app. My kid just didn’t have the bandwidth / even though she was originally focused on ucla and Berkley. Whew. Feel like I dodged a bullet. You have my sympathy OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, to put things in perspective, I went to university 500+ miles away from my home in the '80s and was only able to communicate with my parents by letter or a once-a-week long distance call (it was too expensive to call more often) from the common use phones in the dorm. Much easier now to stay connected -- perhaps too easy?

Nope. I actually believe that what you’re describing is a major cause of mental illness among college students who have it.

PP here. By that I mean I think going 500+ miles away from college is a very bad idea for most kids, contributing to anxiety, rugged individualism and loneliness. Life is short and young adults should spend time with their families.

So you're against studying abroad for a semester or year? I studied in the UK and had an AMAZING experience that I wouldn't have traded for the world. The other U.S. students in my program felt the same way.

No, I would be fine with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, to put things in perspective, I went to university 500+ miles away from my home in the '80s and was only able to communicate with my parents by letter or a once-a-week long distance call (it was too expensive to call more often) from the common use phones in the dorm. Much easier now to stay connected -- perhaps too easy?

Nope. I actually believe that what you’re describing is a major cause of mental illness among college students who have it.

PP here. By that I mean I think going 500+ miles away from college is a very bad idea for most kids, contributing to anxiety, rugged individualism and loneliness. Life is short and young adults should spend time with their families.

I couldn’t disagree more.