Is it evil stepmother behavior to sometimes buy fancy chocolate that’s mostly for me

[Anonymous]

Every now and then I treat myself to a box of the fancy, expensive Belgian chocolate from Rodman’s. Sometimes I let the kids have a piece or two as a treat but mostly I keep it for myself, eating a piece after dinner every day until the box is gone. This absolutely enrages DH, he thinks it’s evil stepmother behavior (his words) to keep any food for myself and deem it “off limits” to the kids, and seems to take special pleasure in giving the kids some whenever I’m not around to say no. I asked him please not to give away stuff I bought specifically for myself and he just went on an extended rant about how horrible I’m being, and how my own parents would never have done that to me (I feel like they would have, but admit I can’t recall any specific incidents). Does he have a point? I don’t even know.

[Anonymous]

It’s mean to eat it in front of them every day. If you hide it and eat it after bedtime that’s 100% ok.

[Anonymous]

Your husband is flat out crazy.

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

He’s wrong. I agree with pp, don’t do it in front of them, but totally save them for you! You don’t need to share them.

[Anonymous]

I (begrudgingly) share my good chocolate and bourbon with my husband, because it’s part of our marriage contract. But the kids? Ha!

[Anonymous]

Don’t let others know about your secret chocolate supply, problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Are they your children or your stepchildren?

[Anonymous]

If you're eating in front of people I think it's rude to not share food.
If your husband bought the same chocolates for the kids and forbid you from having one wouldn't you feel bad?

[Anonymous]

I do the same thing - buy things just for me - and I’m their mom. But I don’t eat it in front of people without sharing. That’s just bad manners. Your DH is off the rails though.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s pretty weird although I can’t really put my finger on why. Not evil stepmother, just weird. I also thought it was weird when growing up I would go to friends houses and they couldn’t finish the last of something because it always had to be saved for their dad for some reason. I just didn’t grow up that way and it doesn’t work that way in my family. If I want something I don’t want my kids to have I just don’t let them know it exists.

[Anonymous]

It’s weird. It’s just food. We share everything at home fancy or not.

[Anonymous]

Maybe buy 2

[Anonymous]

This is funny to me because I buy pricey things like gourmet chocolate and fresh squeezed organic oj - sort of for myself but not with the intention of hoarding it. And my husbands tucks it away because he doesn’t want his boys eating such fancy expensive food! He’s like, whatever, they can eat the regular stuff, they don’t need to eat such pricey stuff! And I wonder if they think it’s weird that they aren’t supposed to eat “my” pricey chocolate.

[Anonymous]

You husband is nuts. I don’t share my good chocolate with my bio kids, that would be a huge waste!