On a scale of 0-10, how angry would you be

[Anonymous]

… if your spouse forgot to pick up your child from aftercare?

In this instance, there were two google calendar notifications, a verbal reminder the night before, and multiple phone calls and texts (that went unanswered) in the 2 hours leading up to pick up time?

And would your anger scale response change if this is something that happened 3-4 times per year?

[Anonymous]

I would be livid!

[Anonymous]

What was the end result? This would determine my anger level.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: … if your spouse forgot to pick up your child from aftercare?

In this instance, there were two google calendar notifications, a verbal reminder the night before, and multiple phone calls and texts (that went unanswered) in the 2 hours leading up to pick up time?

And would your anger scale response change if this is something that happened 3-4 times per year?

The first time it happened I would be an 8? The second, a 10. By the third, I'd have stopped having my spouse pick up my kid.

[Anonymous]

I would not trust him to take the kids anywhere in the summer. You hear about young children dying in cars due to absent minded fathers leaving them in hot cars.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What was the end result? This would determine my anger level.

End result: I had to cancel a meeting, sprint over to aftercare (because spouse had the car) and pick up the child. I was 2 minutes late. And strapping on a mask after sprinting is dizzying.

The excuse: “I was in a meeting.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What was the end result? This would determine my anger level.

End result: I had to cancel a meeting, sprint over to aftercare (because spouse had the car) and pick up the child. I was 2 minutes late. And strapping on a mask after sprinting is dizzying.

The excuse: “I was in a meeting.”

His response would put me at a 7,642 on a scale of 1-10.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not trust him to take the kids anywhere in the summer. You hear about young children dying in cars due to absent minded fathers leaving them in hot cars.

OP here, thankfully child is old enough to get out of a car. But the first few years, I was a nervous wreck every time thry were in the car on a hot day without me.

And it’s funny that you correctly assumed spouse is a “he.” Of course he’s a he.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What was the end result? This would determine my anger level.

End result: I had to cancel a meeting, sprint over to aftercare (because spouse had the car) and pick up the child. I was 2 minutes late. And strapping on a mask after sprinting is dizzying.

The excuse: “I was in a meeting.”

His response would put me at a 7,642 on a scale of 1-10.

Same tbh

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What was the end result? This would determine my anger level.

End result: I had to cancel a meeting, sprint over to aftercare (because spouse had the car) and pick up the child. I was 2 minutes late. And strapping on a mask after sprinting is dizzying.

The excuse: “I was in a meeting.”

His response would put me at a 7,642 on a scale of 1-10.

+1000. What the actual F?

[Anonymous]

I would be livid! You have a man child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What was the end result? This would determine my anger level.

End result: I had to cancel a meeting, sprint over to aftercare (because spouse had the car) and pick up the child. I was 2 minutes late. And strapping on a mask after sprinting is dizzying.

The excuse: “I was in a meeting.”

So he was working. I'd give him 1 out of 10. Raising kids are like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What was the end result? This would determine my anger level.

End result: I had to cancel a meeting, sprint over to aftercare (because spouse had the car) and pick up the child. I was 2 minutes late. And strapping on a mask after sprinting is dizzying.

The excuse: “I was in a meeting.”

If this was a first offense I've be 5/10 angry. Make sure he knew it was completely unacceptable. If it happened multiple times I'd take over all important childcare tasks myself and let him know I didn't trust him with those anymore. At that point it's on him to either step up entirely and reprioritize his life, or get phased out as a part of mine.

[Anonymous]

He can't do pickup anymore. Which is really sh*tty. Strategic incompetence. But, the child is more important so you have to step up.

[Anonymous]

You need to get an au pair or nanny and work around him. He will have to adjust his disposable income wants, accordingly.