… if your spouse forgot to pick up your child from aftercare?
In this instance, there were two google calendar notifications, a verbal reminder the night before, and multiple phone calls and texts (that went unanswered) in the 2 hours leading up to pick up time? And would your anger scale response change if this is something that happened 3-4 times per year? |
I would be livid! |
What was the end result? This would determine my anger level. |
The first time it happened I would be an 8? The second, a 10. By the third, I'd have stopped having my spouse pick up my kid. |
I would not trust him to take the kids anywhere in the summer. You hear about young children dying in cars due to absent minded fathers leaving them in hot cars.
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End result: I had to cancel a meeting, sprint over to aftercare (because spouse had the car) and pick up the child. I was 2 minutes late. And strapping on a mask after sprinting is dizzying. The excuse: “I was in a meeting.” |
His response would put me at a 7,642 on a scale of 1-10. |
OP here, thankfully child is old enough to get out of a car. But the first few years, I was a nervous wreck every time thry were in the car on a hot day without me. And it’s funny that you correctly assumed spouse is a “he.” Of course he’s a he. |
Same tbh |
+1000. What the actual F? |
I would be livid! You have a man child. |
So he was working. I'd give him 1 out of 10. Raising kids are like that. |
If this was a first offense I've be 5/10 angry. Make sure he knew it was completely unacceptable. If it happened multiple times I'd take over all important childcare tasks myself and let him know I didn't trust him with those anymore. At that point it's on him to either step up entirely and reprioritize his life, or get phased out as a part of mine. |
He can't do pickup anymore. Which is really sh*tty. Strategic incompetence. But, the child is more important so you have to step up. |
You need to get an au pair or nanny and work around him. He will have to adjust his disposable income wants, accordingly. |