How to outdo annoying SIL

[Anonymous]

I realize this is a pretty puerile issue to even consider but here we are. My SIL has always been the jealous competitive type. She triggers me and brings out MY jealous competitive side as well. She considers herself as the harbinger of taste and style and looks down on everyone except few select wealthy people who she tries to emulate.

I do not mean to brag but I am no Lula Mae or what have you. I am pretty well cultured and traveled and come from an upper class European family. Most of these things she aspires to were sort of all ways in abundance around me so I never paid particular attention to them. I was raised to always be polite and considerate. I am well dressed and put together. I know how to do my hair and makeup. She grew up tomboy and did not know 2 things about how to style herself. Which was fine and I never cared except she was a mean girl to me and put me down always.

She is now married to a rich guy and has resources to undergo a transformation of sorts. Bye bye tom boy, hello socialite. Everything she wears is designer and carefully curated. Her house is being done by interior decorators and she gets all sorts of skincare treatments.

My husband and I do ok but I would not feel comfortable with the casual display of wealth she and her husband are into.

Anyway, as silly as it is, now I feel jealous and like an outsider and am envious of her vast resources. I too, have good taste, you know. I just can't afford to always splurge!

[Anonymous]

Chill out Lula Mae

[Anonymous]

Lol this is foul. You felt superior to her until she landed more wealth and better status than you and now you gotta figure out a way to reassert yourself as superior. Kinda weird, sis. Poop on her doorstep or something, idk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lol this is foul. You felt superior to her until she landed more wealth and better status than you and now you gotta figure out a way to reassert yourself as superior. Kinda weird, sis. Poop on her doorstep or something, idk.

OP here. This is exactly it. I had more status than her all these years and I could tell she was jealous of me and would be a mean-girl and put me down even though I was always nice and wanted to be a friend. Turns out, she wanted what I had in spades and now that she has more resources than me, she is outdoing me in every way possible!

It IS really weird but I feel so awkward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lol this is foul. You felt superior to her until she landed more wealth and better status than you and now you gotta figure out a way to reassert yourself as superior. Kinda weird, sis. Poop on her doorstep or something, idk.

OP here. This is exactly it. I had more status than her all these years and I could tell she was jealous of me and would be a mean-girl and put me down even though I was always nice and wanted to be a friend. Turns out, she wanted what I had in spades and now that she has more resources than me, she is outdoing me in every way possible!

It IS really weird but I feel so awkward.

Crazy how someone can be so self aware yet so in need of therapy.

[Anonymous]

Isn’t this husband you’re referring to your brother since he’s your SIL? I’m so confused.

[Anonymous]

You’re referring to your SIL husband like you hardly know the guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Isn’t this husband you’re referring to your brother since he’s your SIL? I’m so confused.

Wow.

[Anonymous]

I think she feels she's getting her own back after all these years

As a fellow European from a similar social class, please, don't get down in the weeds with her. Just wish her well and stop engaging.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lol this is foul. You felt superior to her until she landed more wealth and better status than you and now you gotta figure out a way to reassert yourself as superior. Kinda weird, sis. Poop on her doorstep or something, idk.

OP here. This is exactly it. I had more status than her all these years and I could tell she was jealous of me and would be a mean-girl and put me down even though I was always nice and wanted to be a friend. Turns out, she wanted what I had in spades and now that she has more resources than me, she is outdoing me in every way possible!

It IS really weird but I feel so awkward.

Crazy how someone can be so self aware yet so in need of therapy.

OP here. I know its really silly and I am embarrassed it is even bothering me! It doesn't help that she is a massive show off and does annoying things like brag about how much $$ they have or how will look at us pitifully and say, "oh that was so cheap! we got a deal!"

OK. We get it! You have money!

[Anonymous]

You never had to worry about it because you always felt like you were her superior. But now your true colors are showing. This is who you've always been. Upper class European, but broke as a joke? Really?

But, I'm getting trolly vibes from this post. Did you forget to put a disclaimer that this is a movie plot or something you're just curious about and want to see how other people would react to a hypothetical situation you dreamed up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re referring to your SIL husband like you hardly know the guy.

Or SIL is married to husband’s brother.
Or SIL is husband’s sister.
But whatever, who cares about this nonsense?

[Anonymous]

Super troll vibes. I’m thinking someone has a creative writing assignment for their online college course. The assignment was to write a short narrative and include the words “harbinger” and “puerile.” Due next Thursday.

[Anonymous]

There is only some one mean girl in this scenario and it is not Sil.

[Anonymous]

She’s phony. Why do you want to stoop to that? Rise above and don’t play into her shallowness.

This is your husband’s sister?