the obsession with colleges

[Anonymous]

It can be exhausting.

Agreed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It can be exhausting.

Agreed?

A certain subset of UMC America thinks it matters where you go to college, both career-wise and in finding the "right" spouse.

This is what drives 90% of college obsession.

[Anonymous]

Yea it's worse in the DMV. Parents measure their self worth by what colleges their kids go to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yea it's worse in the DMV. Parents measure their self worth by what colleges their kids go to.

Pretty sure they measure their kids' worth by the same standard. It's sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yea it's worse in the DMV. Parents measure their self worth by what colleges their kids go to.

DC Urban Moms: Prestige Hunters

[Anonymous]

Serious question: If my Big 3 DC ends up at, say, Montgomery County Community College next year, will s/he be the first from the school to matriculate there?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Serious question: If my Big 3 DC ends up at, say, Montgomery County Community College next year, will s/he be the first from the school to matriculate there?

no

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It can be exhausting.

Agreed?

A certain subset of UMC America thinks it matters where you go to college, both career-wise and in finding the "right" spouse.

This is what drives 90% of college obsession.

lol. Where you go to college can matter. The right spouse also matters wherever that person comes from. The idea that it does not matter at all is kind of silly. If you go to an awful college of course you still have the chance to do whatever you want. You have less ways to do it though. You also have more road blocks and roundabouts. Less so from a top school. Of course you can still screw it up but more paths; less roadblocks. UMC parents think this because they see it every day

[Anonymous]

I mean yes. But all of DCUM is exhausting. We're Type A about everything. And it's not like we can stop ourselves. I'm tired just typing this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It can be exhausting.

Agreed?

A certain subset of UMC America thinks it matters where you go to college, both career-wise and in finding the "right" spouse.

This is what drives 90% of college obsession.

lol. Where you go to college can matter. The right spouse also matters wherever that person comes from. The idea that it does not matter at all is kind of silly. If you go to an awful college of course you still have the chance to do whatever you want. You have less ways to do it though. You also have more road blocks and roundabouts. Less so from a top school. Of course you can still screw it up but more paths; less roadblocks. UMC parents think this because they see it every day

Right - but it’s not the end-all-be-all that a lot of folks here make it out to be. Unless you are going to a top-50 or bottom 1/3 school, I’d doesn’t really matter all that much - or matter as much as the time, effort, expense, etc. I equate it to the travel sports frenzy that starts at age 10.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Serious question: If my Big 3 DC ends up at, say, Montgomery County Community College next year, will s/he be the first from the school to matriculate there?

no

Also, the name of the school is just Montgomery College.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It can be exhausting.

Agreed?

A certain subset of UMC America thinks it matters where you go to college, both career-wise and in finding the "right" spouse.

This is what drives 90% of college obsession.

lol. Where you go to college can matter. The right spouse also matters wherever that person comes from. The idea that it does not matter at all is kind of silly. If you go to an awful college of course you still have the chance to do whatever you want. You have less ways to do it though. You also have more road blocks and roundabouts. Less so from a top school. Of course you can still screw it up but more paths; less roadblocks. UMC parents think this because they see it every day

Right - but it’s not the end-all-be-all that a lot of folks here make it out to be. Unless you are going to a top-50 or bottom 1/3 school, I’d doesn’t really matter all that much - or matter as much as the time, effort, expense, etc. I equate it to the travel sports frenzy that starts at age 10.

There's a difference between Top 10 school and a Top 50

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It can be exhausting.

Agreed?

A certain subset of UMC America thinks it matters where you go to college, both career-wise and in finding the "right" spouse.

This is what drives 90% of college obsession.

lol. Where you go to college can matter. The right spouse also matters wherever that person comes from. The idea that it does not matter at all is kind of silly. If you go to an awful college of course you still have the chance to do whatever you want. You have less ways to do it though. You also have more road blocks and roundabouts. Less so from a top school. Of course you can still screw it up but more paths; less roadblocks. UMC parents think this because they see it every day

Right - but it’s not the end-all-be-all that a lot of folks here make it out to be. Unless you are going to a top-50 or bottom 1/3 school, I’d doesn’t really matter all that much - or matter as much as the time, effort, expense, etc. I equate it to the travel sports frenzy that starts at age 10.

I only have my personal experience. Public school educated, then went to my state college. Didn’t do great scholastically as I was distracted easily. But then I graduate with a chip on my shoulder thinking I wasn’t as good as the top tier folks, and took an entry-level job and reached deep to outwork my peers. Success followed…Youngest VP in company history, great wife, great kids, blah, blah, blah. Point is, maybe the path is easier, but the journey is what I love to focus on..and makes a much better story…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean yes. But all of DCUM is exhausting. We're Type A about everything. And it's not like we can stop ourselves. I'm tired just typing this.

This should be a sticky on every forum and the new tag line for the site.
Signed, Addicted DCUMer

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It can be exhausting.

Agreed?

A certain subset of UMC America thinks it matters where you go to college, both career-wise and in finding the "right" spouse.

This is what drives 90% of college obsession.

lol. Where you go to college can matter. The right spouse also matters wherever that person comes from. The idea that it does not matter at all is kind of silly. If you go to an awful college of course you still have the chance to do whatever you want. You have less ways to do it though. You also have more road blocks and roundabouts. Less so from a top school. Of course you can still screw it up but more paths; less roadblocks. UMC parents think this because they see it every day

Right - but it’s not the end-all-be-all that a lot of folks here make it out to be. Unless you are going to a top-50 or bottom 1/3 school, I’d doesn’t really matter all that much - or matter as much as the time, effort, expense, etc. I equate it to the travel sports frenzy that starts at age 10.

There's a difference between Top 10 school and a Top 50

Maybe, but not really in the whole scheme of things - especially just undergrad…