Head of School at National Child Research Center (NCRC) - Arrest warrant issued

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Anonymous wrote:Couldn’t sleep after reading all the docs. We live in the neighborhood and witnessed journalists and reporters outside all morning. How were parents able to send their kids to school today after this disturbing news? Why has this become so normalized - that children and staff are expected to return and carry on as normal the following day. What is this area turning into

It feels cruel to judge the parents here who are just trying to navigate an extremely tough and complex situation. Some people may not have had a choice to pull their kid out of school. Some may have thought continuity was the best for them. Regardless it is none of our business. Personally, I will save all my judgment and anger for James Carroll.

If you are paying $40,000 for prek, you have choices.

I also wonder why a parent who had choices would willingly send their child to a preschool that is run by a man? Especially when they get “bad vibes” from said man! Have we lost all common sense?

It’s just bizarre how desperate parents are to get their child into certain schools. For what?

Lots of schools, including preschool programs, are run by men. And heads of schools or school divisions have a lot less day to day contact with students than teachers do.

In the United States, men comprise 2-5% of the preschool teachers.

Approximately 90% of reported child sexual abuse involve men.

Having a man heavily involved in a preschool is not the norm!

It's really not. I have never felt comfortable with the male teachers in my children's younger grades. Something just doesn't sit right about a man wanting to be around such young children. But, we have thrown biology out the window these days, so who knows.

You guys and the people on the relationship forum should chat and see if you can come up with any hypotheses about why men just don’t carry their own weight in household tasks and child rearing. There’s got to be an explanation somewhere…

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Fact: A shocking percentage of the male employees at NCRC/BVR are abusers

What?

How do you know this as a fact?

And if you do know it, have you reported it? If not, you are complicit.

And if you just wrote that for a reaction, shame on you.

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I wonder what percentage of posters here saying that basically all male teachers are pedos (and if not, they deserve the presumption that they are) are SAHMs who don’t get off their asses but expect the schools to raise their kids so they can attend to the important and incredibly complicated work of “homemaking” and haven’t meaningfully contributed to society since their high school band’s car wash fundraiser 20 years ago but are quick to shit on teachers based on their gender.

Super curious what the overlap is because I’m guessing it’s pretty high.

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Anonymous wrote:We need to normalize or preempt the ask. I’ve always been too nervous to ask if the door is closed when my DD gets invited to the male counselor’s office for lunch. Too nervous to ask if the male teacher at preschool changed my DD’s clothes after an accident.

I never had reason to believe there was a problem but I wished I just knew the norms and that the (private) school was straight with me from the onset. Send out their policies so no one has to fear judgment or retribution for asking.

This is exactly why I wouldn’t have my preschool child with an unknown male individual.

Parents who think it’s great, you have plenty of opportunities these days. Go at it, and hope for the best.

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder what percentage of posters here saying that basically all male teachers are pedos (and if not, they deserve the presumption that they are) are SAHMs who don’t get off their asses but expect the schools to raise their kids so they can attend to the important and incredibly complicated work of “homemaking” and haven’t meaningfully contributed to society since their high school band’s car wash fundraiser 20 years ago but are quick to shit on teachers based on their gender.

Super curious what the overlap is because I’m guessing it’s pretty high.

That’s not what people are saying. You can disagree with their point but they are noting that the likelihood a random theoretical male teacher is predator is much much higher than a random female teacher. Its valid for you to say its unfair to take that into account but lame for you to pretend they are saying ALL male teachers are dangerous, which is obviously untrue.

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Anonymous wrote:Fact: A shocking percentage of the male employees at NCRC/BVR are abusers

What?

How do you know this as a fact?

And if you do know it, have you reported it? If not, you are complicit.

And if you just wrote that for a reaction, shame on you.

Yes it was reported.

Child was pressured to recant her account of assault by adults so charges were never filed.

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Obviously not all male teachers are pedos. Not even most. But those that are and traffic in child porn as JC allegedly does likely know each other. These networks have existed all over the world. It strains credulity to think that these pedos operating on the same campuses may not know each other. According to the press release, JC was trying to recruit another abuser and that is the nature of the charges he is facing.

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My children’s preschool is all women and the kids sit on laps, hug, get help with diapering and swimsuits, are lifted onto things, etc. Would having men on staff change this? I don’t know.

It is obviously unfair (and cruel) to doubt all men in this industry. But shaming parents for having some hesitation is also wrong. When you mentally “vet” a sleepover scenario, are you worried about the mom or the dad, the big sister or the big brother? Or do some of you truly not worry at all?

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Anonymous wrote:His colleague placed cameras in the bathrooms at BVR. Are you ok with that, PP?

Of course I'm not! But that was his colleague 15 years ago. And if he did it now, the sweep would find them. What Toth did at Beauvoir long ago is not a reason not to send a child to NCRC today. What whacko logic.

What makes you so confident that there are no cameras in the school today? Esp. In the bathrooms?

IF they have done a sweep, I would trust that. And you'll have a fit over this, but, honestly, to me that sort of camera is smoke, not the fire -- a child would likely never know the difference is they are filmed. There could be video taken surreptiously of any of us or our children out there on the Internet and we don't know.

I feel so badly for your children

Different poster. She’s right that it can happen to anyone, anywhere. I saw a story about hidden cameras in hotel rooms.
What do you do? Remove your kid from every school where this may have happened? It can happen with coaches. Stop letting your kids play sports now. It can happen anywhere and I’m sure Ncrc is crushed by this but what more can the parents do? It can happen at any school, as evil people are everywhere.

This problem is handled swiftly in public schools in our region, not covered up as in this and the colleague’s case. There are protocols that all certified teachers and administrators must follow which is why you see stories in the press when predators are outed. It doesn’t take over a decade.

What knowledge do you have a cover up? What protocols do you think weren't followed? This case is bad enough without people chiming in with accusations based on conspiracy theories. I've worked in both independent schools and public schools, and if you think the public schools have some magic protocols that mean they are more likely to identify people like Carroll much sooner, you are very naive.

Case in point LAMB charter school in DC. Admin and parent board failure to act when issues were brought to their attention. I have no idea about BVR and NCRC but time will tell. With LAMB it was staff telling admin and board about what they were seeing and a complete failure to act by them.

Charters can have the same cults of personality and weak oversight that you see at private schools too. Not at all saying that publics are better overall but at this point, less likely to cover up IMO.

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder what percentage of posters here saying that basically all male teachers are pedos (and if not, they deserve the presumption that they are) are SAHMs who don’t get off their asses but expect the schools to raise their kids so they can attend to the important and incredibly complicated work of “homemaking” and haven’t meaningfully contributed to society since their high school band’s car wash fundraiser 20 years ago but are quick to shit on teachers based on their gender.

Super curious what the overlap is because I’m guessing it’s pretty high.

Haha. I like you

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Anonymous wrote:Obviously not all male teachers are pedos. Not even most. But those that are and traffic in child porn as JC allegedly does likely know each other. These networks have existed all over the world. It strains credulity to think that these pedos operating on the same campuses may not know each other. According to the press release, JC was trying to recruit another abuser and that is the nature of the charges he is facing.

I guess I assumed that even pedophiles are ashamed on some level and do everything anonymously. So in fact maybe they don’t actually “know “ others in real life.

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder what percentage of posters here saying that basically all male teachers are pedos (and if not, they deserve the presumption that they are) are SAHMs who don’t get off their asses but expect the schools to raise their kids so they can attend to the important and incredibly complicated work of “homemaking” and haven’t meaningfully contributed to society since their high school band’s car wash fundraiser 20 years ago but are quick to shit on teachers based on their gender.

Super curious what the overlap is because I’m guessing it’s pretty high.

What percentage of all DCUM threads eventually devolve into bashing SAHM’s. ???? 99.9% is my guess.

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder what percentage of posters here saying that basically all male teachers are pedos (and if not, they deserve the presumption that they are) are SAHMs who don’t get off their asses but expect the schools to raise their kids so they can attend to the important and incredibly complicated work of “homemaking” and haven’t meaningfully contributed to society since their high school band’s car wash fundraiser 20 years ago but are quick to shit on teachers based on their gender.

Super curious what the overlap is because I’m guessing it’s pretty high.

Your hatred towards women who don’t work outside the home is next level. Glad you have a place to vent on DCUM.

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Anonymous wrote:Also, I see no credible reports regarding Carroll’s legal representation. It is simply not believable that a HOS earning multiple hundreds of thousands of dollars a year in annual income would be represented by a public defender in federal criminal court as a PP posted erroneously.

Well, maybe his wife doesn't want to spend all their savings on this guy's defense. Sounds like he goes to jail no matter what. What woman would support a person who even wrote those vile comments? Talk about betrayal.

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Why hasn't NCRC provided resources to families and professional help on how to figure out if their children are victims?