Incident with kids/Seperation

[Anonymous]

In a bad marriage trying to do a seperation. Any advice tips where I should go/reach out to please let me know. Living in DC.

an incident happened: the kids and dog were left in the car with the keys in the ignition while Dad (and his mother) went inside a pizza store. The kids both under the age of 9 got out the car and closed the door so the dog was locked inside. We have no spare key so insurance company came and opended the door.

I went to the 'scene" to make sure the kids were OK and my husband started yelling at me very loudly and aggressively. He still thinks he did nothing wrong.

I just need advice, should I go to a police station to document this incident.

He still lives in the home.

[Anonymous]

You should have called and reported that day.

Now it's too late.

ugh

[Anonymous]

What was your purpose in going there other than to make drama? I agree, husband did nothing wrong and why would your kids do that? A nine year old is old enough to stay in the car for 5 minutes and old enough to know better.

[Anonymous]

DCUM does not give very good or compassionate advice to women who are divorcing.

First, you can still document in a diary you keep and tell 1-2 outside people.

Second, do think about what you want out of a divorce and what is appropriate in terms of custody and outcomes.

Third, find a divorce support group. There is a local group on groups.io (used to be a yahoo group) called GoMomGo that offers a tremendous amount of support for women. Also consider calling Home of Ruth and asking for advice. They typically work with domestic violence situations, but can provide support and ideas of support groups for your situation.

Divorce can be a lonely, difficult road. You don't want ot pay your lawyer to bee a therapist too. So best to find support where you can.

[Anonymous]

Call cps now or have the police do so.

Document this and talk with them in this and everything/all concerns and incidents like this.

Also if you don’t others can call cps on you. And court will ask you too why you didn’t.

Your hands are tied. Call CPS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should have called and reported that day.

Now it's too late.

ugh

Not too late for a Protective Order for the kids either. Talk to your lawyer asap about filling that out and going in person asap for it. Your kids are not safe. 9 yo is not old enough- CLEARLY! And the father is totally negligent and a danger - CLEARLY.

Who leaves the engine running in a busy parking lot, and young kids in the car? Crime is up people.

[Anonymous]

Pls document this all in the Police report. If he called the police to get into the locked car where his keys were, the report needs to be augmented.

Unf it also sounds like the grandmother is also out of it to not stay with the vehicle, keys and cars. This does not bode well for their custody or keeping the kids safe.

[Anonymous]

* and kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In a bad marriage trying to do a seperation. Any advice tips where I should go/reach out to please let me know. Living in DC.

an incident happened: the kids and dog were left in the car with the keys in the ignition while Dad (and his mother) went inside a pizza store. The kids both under the age of 9 got out the car and closed the door so the dog was locked inside. We have no spare key so insurance company came and opended the door.

I went to the 'scene" to make sure the kids were OK and my husband started yelling at me very loudly and aggressively. He still thinks he did nothing wrong.

I just need advice, should I go to a police station to document this incident.

He still lives in the home.

What a nightmare OP, so sorry this sounds very stressful.

Your Ex and his mother are watching the kids yet leave them in a parked car with the keys?

They wander out in the busy parking lot and leave the dog and only set of keys locked inside?!

Police and you get called to break into the car.

You come to help your kids and get yelled at, berated, and verbally abused by the father, presumably in front of the kids and his mother!?!?

Lemme guess, he never apologized to his kids, the police or you?

[Anonymous]

I see it was the insurance company.

File the police report and CPS report now. Get any parking lot video footage, witnesses and insurance person on record asap.

[Anonymous]

Talk to a lawyer. Carolyn Goodman is in DC and very reasonable.

[Anonymous]

If he has a track record of this plus verbal abuse get the PO. Put it all in there. Call your lawyer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DCUM does not give very good or compassionate advice to women who are divorcing.

First, you can still document in a diary you keep and tell 1-2 outside people.

Second, do think about what you want out of a divorce and what is appropriate in terms of custody and outcomes.

Third, find a divorce support group. There is a local group on groups.io (used to be a yahoo group) called GoMomGo that offers a tremendous amount of support for women. Also consider calling Home of Ruth and asking for advice. They typically work with domestic violence situations, but can provide support and ideas of support groups for your situation.

Divorce can be a lonely, difficult road. You don't want ot pay your lawyer to bee a therapist too. So best to find support where you can.

Thank you!

[Anonymous]

Document what? That a husband yelled at his wife out of stress because their 9 year old kid was stupid and disobedient enough to get their dog locked in a car?

[Anonymous]

Op, your reaction to this makes you seem unreasonable, and is not going to somehow magically win you custody. What your dh did wasn’t really a big deal. You should not have shown up to make sure the kids were ok (why wouldn’t they be?) You are only making things worse for your kids by overreacting to things like this.