What’s the end game plan for a cheating husband?

[Anonymous]

What does a husband who’s cheating plan for where the relationships are going? Is it forthrills, attention, have his cake and eat it too, better relationship? Is there a plan?

[Anonymous]

Sex?

[Anonymous]

Huh? I think that people who are engaging in extramarital sex, whether it's a one time thing or on-going relationships are NOT doing any planning. That's part of the problem. They're acting impulsively, not considering the consequences and living in the moment.

A plan requires thoughtfulness and intentionality. I just don't think people are doing that.

[Anonymous]

Probably no end game plan. Probably just getting it while he can.

[Anonymous]

Really depends on the guy, the type of relationship with the OW, and the nature of the marriage.

In most cases the plan is cake-eating until something happens to upset the balance.

[Anonymous]

Keep going until the wife ends it and /or the OWs life is ruined.

[Anonymous]

Getting something that they are not getting in the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Getting something that they are not getting in the relationship.

That is the game not the end game.

[Anonymous]

It was silver divorce for mine, retirement with somebody else that he carefully planned

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It was silver divorce for mine, retirement with somebody else that he carefully planned

So how did he plan it? Didn't he lose 1/2 his wealth anyway?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It was silver divorce for mine, retirement with somebody else that he carefully planned

At what age? And what age were kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It was silver divorce for mine, retirement with somebody else that he carefully planned

So how did he plan it? Didn't he lose 1/2 his wealth anyway?

This happened to someone I know. The wife got a lot more than he ever planned on. And the OW he cheated with ended up dying. Karma.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It was silver divorce for mine, retirement with somebody else that he carefully planned

So how did he plan it? Didn't he lose 1/2 his wealth anyway?

This happened to someone I know. The wife got a lot more than he ever planned on. And the OW he cheated with ended up dying. Karma.

I'm the pp you are responding to. I was just thinking that what can you plan at this stage except that you're going to do it. Impact on life doesn't change (e.g. dividing your wealth, impact on family).

[Anonymous]

My plan was to have sex with someone who wanted to have sex with me. Yes, to have my cake and eat it too. There was no plan, it was short-term pleasure and filling a need that wasn't filled in my marriage.

it's not complicated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Keep going until the wife ends it and /or the OWs life is ruined.

Sometimes the man ends it and confesses before the wife finds out or even suspected anything. I know: your mind is blown.

These have the best chance for not relapsing and getting help.

I think online most married women cheaters (think exit affair plan), most married men cheaters have zero plan other than getting their rocks off and if they can find a discrete, way to do this they reason nobody will get hurt. Cake and eat it too.