The other side - being the sister my siblings are jealous of
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I have two sisters (I'm the middle one), we were all given pretty and thin genetics. My sisters gossip about me and think I don't know. One has had temper tantrums about me and saying things aren't fair (we're all adults). I've seen some posts lately about people being jealous of their sisters. I wanted to share this because it shows the other side of things - my sisters think my life is perfect.
- All through middle and high school I worked out in my bedroom when my sister wasn't there to see. I developed a little workout routine and stuck to it for years. One sister has never worked out and complains about having no energy and is skinny-fat. The other sister half-heartedly works out every couple of months for a week or two and gets really into the clothes and equipment and then gives up, plus has a sweet tooth. They always tease me about having a secret personal trainer that I won't admit to. I don't have one. I just move my body every day, don't snack and don't like sweets. - I had my friend group in HS, but also befriended the smart kids, and studied with them. Multiple times I used babysitting money to hire them to tutor me before midterms and finals to get good grades. I also got tutoring in college, and became a CPA at a big accounting firm. One sister majored in philosophy and is a SAHM and the other became an elementary school teacher. They alternately make fun of me for having a boring career or thinking i'm more important than they are because I can't attend every family gathering (sometimes I have to travel for work, which neither of them do). - We all have either two or three kids. DH and I purposely waited until our mid 30's to have kids. We talked a lot about what kind of parents we wanted to be and what was important to us in raising kids. We care a lot about having kind and well behaved kids, and will take them outside if their behavior goes south. Both my sisters had kids in their 20's and expressed jealousy to my mom (who told me, which I wish she hadn't) that at my baby shower for my first, we were given really nice gifts. Probably because most guests were more established in their careers at our age, and DH and I are a lawyer and CPA, so our friends tend to be similar. - If DH and I do anything nice for any one person in the family and my sisters find out they get very upset it wasn't done for them too. If we do anything they can't afford to do, they comment negatively on it even if they benefit from it, like when we served filet mignon for the first dinner we had all together after we were all vaccinated. Everyone was happy to eat it, and we only got it because it was a celebratory dinner, but I overheard my sisters commenting that of course we would make fancy steak. THey didn't care that we were hosting, they didn't bring anything or help clean up, and they ate and drank everything we served. It is exhausting navigating around them. And they probably think I have no idea that they make so many comments. |
Anonymous
Sounds like you and sisters have a lot in common! |
Anonymous
| Congrats? |
Anonymous
| #winning |
Anonymous
| You sound full of yourself. They probably crack jokes and make fun of, too. |
Anonymous
Fixed that for you |
Anonymous
| Perhaps your sisters aren't jealous. Perhaps they think you're insufferable. |
Anonymous
| These kinds of posts have to be troll posts, right? |
Anonymous
| Clearly you are so much better than them. Who wouldn’t be jealous? |
Anonymous
| OP you sound pretty awful and self-centered. |
Anonymous
| What's your bedroom workout? Genuinely curious. |
Anonymous
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Tough crowd as always OP. Don't know why so many posters here have to be so mean. I am the middle of 3 sisters and it is not always easy to navigate. Only you know if your sibling relationship are worth saving.
Anyway, I hear you and feel bad for you. People often stink as demonstrated on this thread! |
Anonymous
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She’s a teacher, wow… how embarrassing… *eyeroll*
Grow up OP. I’m not sure if they’re jealous or if they just don’t like you because you don’t seem particularly likable. |
Anonymous
Why do you feel bad for her? She seems to think she’s perfect. |
Anonymous
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People are born with different personalities and willpower, OP. You have enough willpower to exercise and work for long-term goals, and are lucky that you don't have a sweet tooth - never forget that you were born with a predisposition to make those decisions, even though it might feel to you that you worked really hard and suffered to get to where you are. It's harder for some people than for others. I sympathize with you regarding petty comments, though. My mother and her siblings aren't very emotionally mature and also tend to get into petty and jealous behavior. It's exhausting and unproductive and I have no idea why they can't see it poisons the atmosphere. My father's siblings don't do that, and my in-laws don't do that either. |