Why would my son's newly engaged ex-girlfriend randomly text him a photo of her wearing an engagement ring?

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Anonymous wrote:She’s bragging that some other guy “locked her down” and wants your son to feel bad that he “let her get away.” She probably sent the photo to a few exes. At the end of the day, she’s just a very insecure young woman in her 20s.

In five years, she will be embarrassed and mortified by the fact that she sent these texts to ex-boyfriends. Your son probably dodged a bullet.

It's definitely embarrassing. If he actually cared about her he probably would have reached out in the past two years.

Why does he still have her number active in his phone? Why isn’t she blocked?

Why would he need to block her? He obviously wasn't tempted to call her and probably forgot about it. Blocking is for highly emotional people who need to act out in some way or protect themselves from a harasser.

Well he and his mom appear to be highly emotional people...

All you know about him is that he got an unsolicited rock pic and told his mother that it happened.

[Anonymous]

Could be as simple as she tried to send the pic to Samantha and accidentally sent it to Samuel.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What does it matter, OP? He can send a quick, “Congratulations, wishing you all the best!”

Instead, he…ran to Mommy?

And you…ran to the Internet?

He confided in his mother about something bizarre. And she posted here, like many women do. You sound like a dumb person.

Nope. It's not bizarre enough to " confide" to someone about. And it's not bizarre enough for his mother to crowd source on here. The girl probably doesn't even realize it is his number.

OP and her son are reading too much into this.

If my brother told me his ex did that I would think she was weird and understand she’s not over him. That’s the answer OP, she’s not over him and the breakup probably wasn’t mutual.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What does it matter, OP? He can send a quick, “Congratulations, wishing you all the best!”

Instead, he…ran to Mommy?

And you…ran to the Internet?

He confided in his mother about something bizarre. And she posted here, like many women do. You sound like a dumb person.

Nope. It's not bizarre enough to " confide" to someone about. And it's not bizarre enough for his mother to crowd source on here. The girl probably doesn't even realize it is his number.

OP and her son are reading too much into this.

Did you recently do something similar and are surprised at the reaction? The defense of this is very odd.

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Anonymous wrote:Why would an ex from YEARS ago be on her mind in any way right after getting engaged? Super messy and classless. Anyone rationalizing this is also messy and classless. You know damn well you wouldn’t tell your fiancé you just texted your ex boyfriend the news.

It is possible she sent to all her friends just like people post their engagement rings on Facebook. Still classless, but all OP's son had to do was delete her number.

People post their rings on Facebook? I don't think that's a thing.

Welcome to USA. Enjoy your stay!

Did you just hop off a Time Machine? 20somethings aren't posting anything on Facebook.

On instagram these days, but explanation is same. You are stuck in the nitty gritty because you don't want to consider the possibility that this girl has not thought of her ex in ages. Her poor ex and OP are latching on this opportunity to feel relevant.

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Anonymous wrote:27 yo is too young to get married, and this proves it.
my wife was 33 when we got married and she was still hot (and remains so at 43!), but was more emotionally ready.
I feel bad for the fiance and for your son - immature women can inflict a lot of pain and agony.

No it's not lol..DW started pressuring me at 25. She was 23.

The fact that she was pressuring you speaks to her immaturity.

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Anonymous wrote:Why would an ex from YEARS ago be on her mind in any way right after getting engaged? Super messy and classless. Anyone rationalizing this is also messy and classless. You know damn well you wouldn’t tell your fiancé you just texted your ex boyfriend the news.

It is possible she sent to all her friends just like people post their engagement rings on Facebook. Still classless, but all OP's son had to do was delete her number.

People post their rings on Facebook? I don't think that's a thing.

Welcome to USA. Enjoy your stay!

Did you just hop off a Time Machine? 20somethings aren't posting anything on Facebook.

On instagram these days, but explanation is same. You are stuck in the nitty gritty because you don't want to consider the possibility that this girl has not thought of her ex in ages. Her poor ex and OP are latching on this opportunity to feel relevant.

Who thought about who again? You're hopelessly confused.

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Anonymous wrote:Why would an ex from YEARS ago be on her mind in any way right after getting engaged? Super messy and classless. Anyone rationalizing this is also messy and classless. You know damn well you wouldn’t tell your fiancé you just texted your ex boyfriend the news.

It is possible she sent to all her friends just like people post their engagement rings on Facebook. Still classless, but all OP's son had to do was delete her number.

People post their rings on Facebook? I don't think that's a thing.

Welcome to USA. Enjoy your stay!

Did you just hop off a Time Machine? 20somethings aren't posting anything on Facebook.

On instagram these days, but explanation is same. You are stuck in the nitty gritty because you don't want to consider the possibility that this girl has not thought of her ex in ages. Her poor ex and OP are latching on this opportunity to feel relevant.

How old are you exactly? You said Facebook but meant something else? Were you having a senior moment?

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Anonymous wrote:What does it matter, OP? He can send a quick, “Congratulations, wishing you all the best!”

Instead, he…ran to Mommy?

And you…ran to the Internet?

+1.

What motivates your son to show you this nonsense?

+1. Son sounds like a beta loser and mom sounds like an annoying busybody.

A beta loser? You are a SAHM aren’t you?

That PP is giving man hating bitter spinster vibes more than "mom".

lol no, that’s how SAHMs who are chronically online talk about men who are not “providers” or “alpha.”

No, that's just you. That doesn't make any sense whatsoever in this situation.

This rhetoric is so pervasive it has penetrated non English online environments. Normal people don’t say “beta losers” because a man told his mom about something odd that happened. These are either incels or insecure SAHMs.

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Anonymous wrote:What does it matter, OP? He can send a quick, “Congratulations, wishing you all the best!”

Instead, he…ran to Mommy?

And you…ran to the Internet?

+1.

What motivates your son to show you this nonsense?

+1. Son sounds like a beta loser and mom sounds like an annoying busybody.

A beta loser? You are a SAHM aren’t you?

That PP is giving man hating bitter spinster vibes more than "mom".

lol no, that’s how SAHMs who are chronically online talk about men who are not “providers” or “alpha.”

No, that's just you. That doesn't make any sense whatsoever in this situation.

This rhetoric is so pervasive it has penetrated non English online environments. Normal people don’t say “beta losers” because a man told his mom about something odd that happened. These are either incels or insecure SAHMs.

There is zero chance a "SAHM" is going to come out swinging for some desperate woman who wasn't good enough for her son.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What does it matter, OP? He can send a quick, “Congratulations, wishing you all the best!”

Instead, he…ran to Mommy?

And you…ran to the Internet?

He confided in his mother about something bizarre. And she posted here, like many women do. You sound like a dumb person.

Nope. It's not bizarre enough to " confide" to someone about. And it's not bizarre enough for his mother to crowd source on here. The girl probably doesn't even realize it is his number.

OP and her son are reading too much into this.

Did you recently do something similar and are surprised at the reaction? The defense of this is very odd.

Nope.

Unless you are toxic/ and or cynical, this is the easiest explanation.

Think about it. This guy dated someone, and by OP's admission, the relationship was drama free. Why would she create drama all of a sudden? The answer is simple: she wouldn't. You would have to be a little odd to think otherwise when it makes sense to assume she mistakenly sent to her ex and close the case. This does not merit gossip or a thread.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does it matter, OP? He can send a quick, “Congratulations, wishing you all the best!”

Instead, he…ran to Mommy?

And you…ran to the Internet?

He confided in his mother about something bizarre. And she posted here, like many women do. You sound like a dumb person.

Nope. It's not bizarre enough to " confide" to someone about. And it's not bizarre enough for his mother to crowd source on here. The girl probably doesn't even realize it is his number.

OP and her son are reading too much into this.

Did you recently do something similar and are surprised at the reaction? The defense of this is very odd.

Nope.

Unless you are toxic/ and or cynical, this is the easiest explanation.

Think about it. This guy dated someone, and by OP's admission, the relationship was drama free. Why would she create drama all of a sudden? The answer is simple: she wouldn't. You would have to be a little odd to think otherwise when it makes sense to assume she mistakenly sent to her ex and close the case. This does not merit gossip or a thread.

Well, here we are, discussing this without your permission. And now you've learned that some men actually talk to their moms. It's a very easy to imagine scenario for the rest of us.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why would an ex from YEARS ago be on her mind in any way right after getting engaged? Super messy and classless. Anyone rationalizing this is also messy and classless. You know damn well you wouldn’t tell your fiancé you just texted your ex boyfriend the news.

It is possible she sent to all her friends just like people post their engagement rings on Facebook. Still classless, but all OP's son had to do was delete her number.

People post their rings on Facebook? I don't think that's a thing.

Welcome to USA. Enjoy your stay!

Did you just hop off a Time Machine? 20somethings aren't posting anything on Facebook.

On instagram these days, but explanation is same. You are stuck in the nitty gritty because you don't want to consider the possibility that this girl has not thought of her ex in ages. Her poor ex and OP are latching on this opportunity to feel relevant.

How old are you exactly? You said Facebook but meant something else? Were you having a senior moment?

Yes, I was having a senior moment. I am 42, and facebook was it back in my 20s. Now are you ready to stop looking for distractions from the real issue here? The girl has moved on. OP and her son should too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does it matter, OP? He can send a quick, “Congratulations, wishing you all the best!”

Instead, he…ran to Mommy?

And you…ran to the Internet?

He confided in his mother about something bizarre. And she posted here, like many women do. You sound like a dumb person.

Nope. It's not bizarre enough to " confide" to someone about. And it's not bizarre enough for his mother to crowd source on here. The girl probably doesn't even realize it is his number.

OP and her son are reading too much into this.

Did you recently do something similar and are surprised at the reaction? The defense of this is very odd.

Nope.

Unless you are toxic/ and or cynical, this is the easiest explanation.

Think about it. This guy dated someone, and by OP's admission, the relationship was drama free. Why would she create drama all of a sudden? The answer is simple: she wouldn't. You would have to be a little odd to think otherwise when it makes sense to assume she mistakenly sent to her ex and close the case. This does not merit gossip or a thread.

Well, here we are, discussing this without your permission. And now you've learned that some men actually talk to their moms. It's a very easy to imagine scenario for the rest of us.

Yes it is because you are toxic and run in toxic circles.

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Anonymous wrote:They broke up due to living on opposite coasts. According to him it was pretty mutual. Sad but not messy. They have not communicated since Christmas 2023. He randomly got a photo text from her over the weekend with no caption, just her hand showing off her engagement ring. What motivates such a text from a 27 year old woman and what reaction is she looking for?

Oh wow you need a life.

MYOB