Would you get involved with an alcoholic in recovery?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: addictions, like food addiction are just signs of a weak person who is also self-destructive.

If this is real- disgusting.

If not- just a lame troll post.

[Anonymous]

You never know about a person.

I married a successful, educated, athletic, and charming physician when I was 30. 25 years later I divorced him - he is broke, fat, alcoholic and delusional narcissist with no relationship with his children. My new partner is 30 years sober and extremely successful. He’s kind with wonderful relationships with his children and his ex spouse as well as my children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not if I was looking to have kids. The early years with kids are so hard on a marriage as it is without a layer of addiction added to it. If I were older and not expecting anymore kids, I would consider it.

Just know that a lot of people who don't state upfront that they're addicts in recovery are unrecovered addicts, and that stressful life situations tend to reveal those issues. There's no guarantee that you're not dating an alcoholic just because they didn't come out and say it straight.

There is some truth to this. A dear friend just went through years of h*ll at the hands of a partner who did not disclose his past alcoholism and then brutally relapsed. Of course he believed he was too good for AA and even to this day that he has finally gone to rehab he denies that alcohol is the main problem.

Much different story to get involved with someone who is up front about it an has a clear plan to support sobriety.

[Anonymous]

So hard OP.

I wouldn't. It would be an absolute hard no for me, but I come from a family rife w/ alcoholics and addicts. I have a ton of damage from the trauma of my upbringing so I couldn't handle knowingly choosing to marry someone with those challenges.

I'm not proud of that reality, but it's true for me.

I also love, know, and trust people who have achieved and maintained sobriety. So it is absolutely possible to do that.

It really doesn't matter what anyone else things. In the end, it's a question of what you are willing to accept or not.

Good luck (to both of you)!!

[Anonymous]

For those who say they wouldn’t. Good luck with the person you do pick and hopefully they don’t develop an addiction or other problem. People change and you just never know. It’s always a gamble.