Why have you cut off friends?

[Anonymous]

I’ve cut off two friends.

1) was sudden and obvious. We planned a trip to Mexico and at the last minute she decided to go with boyfriend and I was left out.

2) friend was a good friend. But she constantly put me down. I don’t think she realized it - but she did nothing but make me feel not good enough for her and her rich friends. So I just faded away. It is still awkward as it is a small neighborhood but I am happy I don’t have to worry about not being good enough oh well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have never cut off a friend. I did a slow fade once when I realized I thought we were closer friends than we actually were.

I’ve had two best friends cut me off and stop talking to me without any further communication or explanation. One female in high school and one male (gay).

Fwiw, I am cute and petite and happily married. I am a mom and am creative but mentally stable. I make friends easily and am fun. I work in a helping profession (mental health) and take a lot of stragglers under my wing. I think I am too caring and giving and need to set more boundaries to avoid these issues.

Your description is specific and thoughtful. What you wrote helped me articulate what I need to do. So, thank you.

I attracted the wrong type of people for me. Over time, I’ve been working on things and think I am becoming a better judge of who will be a good friend versus someone who can’t communicate or is used to stonewalling or ghosting people.

[Anonymous]

I quiet quit one friend who became very maga and overtly racist but I really stopped communicating when their views started being regurgitated by their young child to my young child

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Voted for Trump, different values

It’s weird when leftists are so confident in doing this and yet a central criticism they have of “Christian Nationalists” is that they are closed to different perspectives and should be more tolerant of diversity of religion and try to find commonality among people who don’t share their faith. (I agree with all of that—btw—but do not find that those on the far left practice what they preach any longer)

It’s as though leftists have zero concept that your politics has become YOUR religion and you have labeled anyone who does not subscribe to it to be a sinner who is doomed to hell for not accepting your religion. And so therefor you cannot imagine associating with such people because obviously YOUR religion is superior and you are the correct thinkers on every issue and must only surround yourself with people who ascribe to these same beliefs so that they are reinforced and upheld. It is the intolerant arrogance that permeates your circle. And I get it. You feel morally entitled to this view.

But please explain to me again how this way of thinking is at all a liberal viewpoint? How are you more open and tolerant than those people you despise and insulate yourself from? How is that different from a Christian refusing to associate with a Muslim due to their different beliefs and values? Or a Muslim declining to associate with a Jew?

Politics as your religion is what this is. And redemption in your religion is conversion.

My tolerance of diversity doesn't extend to rapists, convicted felons, and fascists.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Voted for Trump, different values

It’s weird when leftists are so confident in doing this and yet a central criticism they have of “Christian Nationalists” is that they are closed to different perspectives and should be more tolerant of diversity of religion and try to find commonality among people who don’t share their faith. (I agree with all of that—btw—but do not find that those on the far left practice what they preach any longer)

It’s as though leftists have zero concept that your politics has become YOUR religion and you have labeled anyone who does not subscribe to it to be a sinner who is doomed to hell for not accepting your religion. And so therefor you cannot imagine associating with such people because obviously YOUR religion is superior and you are the correct thinkers on every issue and must only surround yourself with people who ascribe to these same beliefs so that they are reinforced and upheld. It is the intolerant arrogance that permeates your circle. And I get it. You feel morally entitled to this view.

But please explain to me again how this way of thinking is at all a liberal viewpoint? How are you more open and tolerant than those people you despise and insulate yourself from? How is that different from a Christian refusing to associate with a Muslim due to their different beliefs and values? Or a Muslim declining to associate with a Jew?

Politics as your religion is what this is. And redemption in your religion is conversion.

My tolerance of diversity doesn't extend to rapists, convicted felons, and fascists.

^^^ or to people who support them.