Is it tacky to have a baby shower if you’re a high earner?

[Anonymous]

I don’t think it’s tacky at all, assuming it’s your first baby, which it sounds like it is. It is a time for celebration and if anyone does not want to come celebrate you, they are free to decline the invitation. You don’t want those people around anyway!

Keep it low key and don’t put anything crazy on the registry. Even middle class folks like buying cute baby clothes. I cannot imagine being offended by the invite unless I didn’t like the person, in which case the invite didn’t change that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. There are some bitter broke B’s on here. I don’t care what you socialists think - it’s not tacky or a gift grab.

Is this actually OP? Because this person is awful, and OP seemed to want advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. There are some bitter broke B’s on here. I don’t care what you socialists think - it’s not tacky or a gift grab.

Is this actually OP? Because this person is awful, and OP seemed to want advice.

Of course it is. Typical gen z response when people don’t agree with her salty ass

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. There are some bitter broke B’s on here. I don’t care what you socialists think - it’s not tacky or a gift grab.

I'm not one of the people who criticized you, but you asked if it was tacky, and people said yes. And now you're mad.

And it's 100% a gift grab.

[Anonymous]

Baby showers are a nice way to get everyone together to celebrate! You absolutely can specify “no gifts” and/or “please bring your favorite children’s book” and/or “just donate to local diaper bank instead” or something. We also didn’t want gifts for a few reasons and did some combo of that. It worked out nicely. Few people still got cute onesies or diapers but we weren’t overwhelmed with stuff.

And I think you should celebrate now, not post-baby, because you have more freedom/energy. And you may not want a bunch of strangers around the baby for the first few months. I remember friends asking us to host a little sit down after the baby was born and we just didn’t get around to it- too tired to host.

[Anonymous]

Have a “book” shower where people bring a favorite used or new children’s book to build your library. Have book plate stickers so they can write a note.
Have a fun afternoon where you just celebrate the baby to be by being together.
You can have a shower without gifts. They can shower you with love and attention as part of your village.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. There are some bitter broke B’s on here. I don’t care what you socialists think - it’s not tacky or a gift grab.

Is this actually OP? Because this person is awful, and OP seemed to want advice.

Of course it is. Typical gen z response when people don’t agree with her salty ass

OP mentioned keeping registry items to $50; later FauxP is talking about $100.

If you want a party before the baby arrives and think people are going to bring gifts, either ask for books or sponsor a drive for your local diaper bank.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. There are some bitter broke B’s on here. I don’t care what you socialists think - it’s not tacky or a gift grab.

Is this actually OP? Because this person is awful, and OP seemed to want advice.

Of course it is. Typical gen z response when people don’t agree with her salty ass

31 is not gen z. It’s millennial.

[Anonymous]

I think the book idea is a great idea!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We are going to have the baby shower but stick to lower priced items under $100. We will be buying all the expensive items we want.

I don’t know why it’s tacky for my MIL to throw us a baby shower? I thought it was customary for a family member such as a parent throw you a baby shower. It’s funny because like a year ago there was a thread where people were telling OP not to throw her own baby shower because a family member should be the one to throw it. Sometimes I feel like there are just combative people on here to start drama to distract from their sad miserable lives.

$100 is considered a lower priced gift by OP! Very out of touch, OP. You are also out of touch with longstanding etiquette rules.

OP here. Who the F gives a damn about the rules? Baby showers used to never be coed and now they are. Anyone can throw a baby shower, not just a friend. I don’t care about following etiquette rules that were made a century ago driven by the patriarchy. It’s 2024.

Ok then do what you want. What are you even asking us?

[Anonymous]

I was totally team OP until her unhinged followups. Yikes!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was totally team OP until her unhinged followups. Yikes!

OP here. Cry harder. Not unhinged, you’re just a softie leftie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was totally team OP until her unhinged followups. Yikes!

OP here. Cry harder. Not unhinged, you’re just a softie leftie.

High five OP. Liberals are so weak

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was totally team OP until her unhinged followups. Yikes!

OP here. Cry harder. Not unhinged, you’re just a softie leftie.

I fervently pray that for the sake of this crown prince/princess soon to be begat of Lord and Lady Bountiful that they are prepared to pay through the nose to keep a nanny longer than a week! Perhaps Nurse Ratched is available.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was totally team OP until her unhinged followups. Yikes!

OP here. Cry harder. Not unhinged, you’re just a softie leftie.

Wait, I thought people urging that family members not host showers were uptight reactionaries?