Someone still has to manage all of that and it doesn't sound like its going to be the DH. It sucks OP. And women on this site love to tell us that our DH's sucking is our fault. Its not. |
OP -- he's gets a 50% say in what goes on in the house. An equal say. Equal to yours.
You don't get more than 50%, for any issue, just because your way is more civilized. |
Good lord, stop nagging over minute things. |
As long as the bottom of the plate wasn't dirty and it was placed straight rather than at a angle, this doesn't strike me as a problem. |
OP, you are the problem here. |
Eh, this is only sort of true but you also have to pick your battles. My husband likes to lounge on the couch and in our bed with his street shoes on. I think it's a filthy habit and disgusting. I told him that it's a high priority for me to keep shoes off these surfaces - and I feel strongly about it. He... doesn't love me asking him to change how he prefers to sit/be. But he loves me and doesn't want me to be disgusted by the way he acts in our house. So he takes off his shoes before he lounges. OP, the best advice you got is to get the Fair Play cards and/or work through your household labor issues in counseling. You are deep in resentment, and that's a relationship killer. |
You could have just picked up the plate and put it on the table. Wow!!! |
GTFOH!! He is an adult, sometimes he does things that are convenient to himself that is not destructive to anything or anyone! Do you always fold your laundry right away? Do you always clean up immediately after dinner? Do you always fold towels and sheets the exact perfect way your partner requires? Do you always refill the soap dispenser and the toilet paper? Do you ever let the gas get below half a tank? Do you ever let the hamper overflow? ARE YOU PERFECT? |
You seem very rigid. Your husband sounds patient and mature. You need individual counseling. You will probably isolate your children the same way you annoy your husband. |
LEXAPRO!
You need to chill Marge. |
This and this is most husbands any time they apologize |
OP, in this case you sound controlling and are in the wrong. You can’t treat DH, an adult as though he is a naughty child. In this case you woke up stewing and wanted to fight in the morning. LET IT GO. |
I think you are off here --- this is a non-issue ---- you should not get it -- you are reading into this something else from your experience which you should not do. |
I'm with you OP. Simply because you don't like it is enough of a reason for him not to do it. I see it as disrespectful. |
BS. Total BS. You are now trying to justify where you acted wrong and people are calling you out for this. If any of this was even remotely true you would have said this in the original post. I will tell you one thing -- if you are getting fed up with all of this please be assured that your DH is more fed up with you complaining about it. If you are thinking of divorce he is well ahead of you. You all need couples therapy quickly. |