What distinguishes an "average woman" from an "above average" woman for dating and marriage

[Anonymous]

I see this referenced here a lot, especially in regards to high value men. Can anyone elaborate?

[Anonymous]

Not a gold digger

[Anonymous]

It is specific to the man

[Anonymous]

Could be a lot of different things depending on the man, but comes down to attraction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is specific to the man

This is all subjective, made-up stuff - “high value” etc

[Anonymous]

Hard to quantify. Do you mean beauty or brains? Average, I suppose, has average intellectual ability and looks though that’s highly subjective. Above average is someone who stands out in a crowd without making any effort even in her au naturale state. She can also converse in wide range of topics intellectually.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hard to quantify. Do you mean beauty or brains? Average, I suppose, has average intellectual ability and looks though that’s highly subjective. Above average is someone who stands out in a crowd without making any effort even in her au naturale state. She can also converse in wide range of topics intellectually.

+1. Is kind. Not overly materialistic. Not overweight. Good sense of humor. Interested in multiple fun activities. Loves arts and music. Not vain.

[Anonymous]

HVW has/can:
above average looks
above average style for herself and her house
advanced/terminal degree
high salary job
talk to anyone about anything
intelligence and curiosity
follow through on tasks and activities

[Anonymous]

I'm a man and I just want to clear up the common misconception on this forum that the only thing men care about is looks. If I were single, my priorities would be (1) kindness, (2) emotional maturity, (3) similar values, (4) sexual compatibility, (5) attractiveness. So looks round out the top 5, but they're hardly the most important thing, and the other stuff is significantly more important.

[Anonymous]

Exactly what you would think. Looks. Manners. Education. Personality. Values. Achievements. Social skills.

[Anonymous]

I had a lot of high quality suitors when I was single and in my twenties.

I am naturally thin with large breasts. I have a pretty face, nice legs and great hair. I’m ivy educated. I always look polished. I wasn’t the prettiest but I was able to attract and more importantly keep the guys. I’m pleasant and a good conversationalist.

So if you are pretty, nice figure, smart and well educated, you are a good catch.

[Anonymous]

I often think the worth of a woman is how her dad treated her and her mom. Some of the most beautiful women I know are the most insecure watching her dad leave her once beautiful mom. Other very average looking women hold high standards and are confident and well educated and marry well. They may not be vain and value other qualities more than looks.

I have a daughter who is absolutely adored by all. She has one friend who recently said she wasn’t special. My daughter immediately told her that everyone is special. We shower our daughter with love and she is such a kind sweet girl. She is so smart and kind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a lot of high quality suitors when I was single and in my twenties.

I am naturally thin with large breasts. I have a pretty face, nice legs and great hair. I’m ivy educated. I always look polished. I wasn’t the prettiest but I was able to attract and more importantly keep the guys. I’m pleasant and a good conversationalist.

So if you are pretty, nice figure, smart and well educated, you are a good catch.

Humble much?

[Anonymous]

I think most people think above average people are average and average people are unattractive.

Don’t 90% of guys want the same 10% of women?

Even at my child’s high school, there are very few attractive girls. Most girls are average and below average. All the guys want the same few girls. Dating apps are the same. Even if you are not that attractive, you will still be attracted to the same attractive women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a lot of high quality suitors when I was single and in my twenties.

I am naturally thin with large breasts. I have a pretty face, nice legs and great hair. I’m ivy educated. I always look polished. I wasn’t the prettiest but I was able to attract and more importantly keep the guys. I’m pleasant and a good conversationalist.

So if you are pretty, nice figure, smart and well educated, you are a good catch.

Humble much?

This thread is about high value suitors. I had a lot of these guys. Being physically attractive, well educated and confident attracts high value men.

You also need to be at the right place. I went to college and grad school in Boston and worked in Boston and NYC. I met multiple high value men everyday.